TheRainbow Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 My mother in law and I have a poor relationship mainly because of choices I had made. Anyway that is not the point of this thread. My youngest is almost 9 months old 5 1/2ish months of adjusted age. Her pediatrician said to hold off until solids until after her 9 months check-up, where they want because she was premature and because of a few other developmental delays they wanted us to start her on solids in a certain order. Which brings me to my next point. My MIL who hasn't seen much of the grandkids the last few months finally came around and wanted to see them on Monday. My husband and I were in a great need of a date night because so we left her to watch the kids for a few hours at our house, and we left. When we got home, she was feeding her yogurt. My husband said something and she said that she was hungry and the formula wasn't cutting it. I took charge of the situation and told her thanks for watching the kids, but I'd take it from there. I was angry, and she mumbled something under her breath about not watching the kids for us any more and left. That night she was up all night crying, constipated and was hard to console. We took her to the doctor (not her peditrician) and they said she appeared to be fine but to hold off on solids until her appointment. I guess I'm feeling angry because we told her that we were delaying solids at her doctor's advice and just because she wants to eat solid food doesn't mean it's safe for her. I did talk to her pediatrician today and said that if she is fine now to just keep an eye on her, and no more solids until her appointment. I guess I'm just upset that she would go against our wishes, the doctor's wishes and then act like it's no big deal when we call her on it. We weren't even rude to her and she is playing the victim. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 I guess I'm just upset that she would go against our wishes, the doctor's wishes and then act like it's no big deal when we call her on it. We weren't even rude to her and she is playing the victim. Rainbow, the only surprise to me is that you're surprised this happened. When you leave your child with someone who's history includes your MIL's record of obstinate, contrary and selfishly uncooperative behavior, you should see this coming. Count your blessings it wasn't peanuts and popcorn. Next time hire a professional sitter or find one with references in your neighborhood. Hopefully, lesson learned... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheRainbow Posted September 11, 2019 Author Share Posted September 11, 2019 I shouldn't be surprised but before all this **** hit the fan she actually wasn't like this. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Older people are from a different generation and the rules of child rearing were different. In case you didn't notice child rearing rewritten every 15 to 20 years with most of what was done before portrayed as being from the dark ages unlike the current time which the ultimate in enlightenment. Aside from the common "I was rearing children before you were born" attitude she certainly should have followed any instructions you left with her. So you have a right to be angry. Although I'm having a hard time defining yogurt as a solid. Seems somewhere in between. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheRainbow Posted September 12, 2019 Author Share Posted September 12, 2019 Although I'm having a hard time defining yogurt as a solid. Seems somewhere in between. She has never had anything other then formula/breastmilk. She didn't tolerate it well and it went against the pediatrician's advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 12, 2019 Share Posted September 12, 2019 I shouldn't be surprised but before all this **** hit the fan she actually wasn't like this. But she has been - and continues to be - since then. She doesn’t trust you or value your judgment, not a great recipe for a babysitter. What was your husband’s reaction and did he follow-up with her? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheRainbow Posted September 12, 2019 Author Share Posted September 12, 2019 But she has been - and continues to be - since then. She doesn’t trust you or value your judgment, not a great recipe for a babysitter. What was your husband’s reaction and did he follow-up with her? Mr. Lucky He did call her up, not sure what she all said, he said she brushed him off. Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 My sister's in-laws deliberately feed her kids crap when they watch them, knowing full well it upsets her and causes behavioral problems in the kids. If your relationship with the MIL sucks and she is in any way passive aggressive, know that is par for the course if she watches your kids. You're not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 I shouldn't be surprised but before all this **** hit the fan she actually wasn't like this. If your MIL didn't behave like this before she found out about your marital issues, then she is obviously trying to get back at you and your husband by refusing to listen to your childcare instructions. I'm surprised that you let your MIL watch your child but perhaps you wanted to help patch thing up between you and she. Link to post Share on other sites
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