Where to meet women?

[mortensorchid]

I was googling that age old question how one can and does meet men when it suddenly dawned on me that I had never googled the reverse of this. What advice would be given for MEN to meet women? So I found this listing of things and wanted to evaluate as well as compare results of how women can meet men:

 

1) Online - Duh. If not for this option, no one would ever meet and have ridiculous stories otherwise.

 

2) Ask your friends - Really? I had one former woman friend who said she wouldn't even friend me on Facebook because that would take away from her chances of meeting men. When someone says something like that to you, you know where you stand in their priorities. There might be some men out there who would say that to men friends as well. And in recent years, some would talk but never follow through.

 

3) An introduction agency - I had never heard of this before the recent search. What is that? It's websites that search and introduce others to each other where they do the work of searching and you do very little. Sounds like eHarmony to me where they claim this is where you will find love based on their "system" and all it is is a search engine where you put in a radius of your zip code. Most dating websites operate as both anyway, don't they?

 

4) Work - Oh no no no. In today's climate with the #metoo stuff going on, don't do this. Don't think that you will be friends with anyone you work with either, because it's nothing but bad in the workplace.

 

5) Go where singles hang out on purpose - Bars, clubs, restaurants, singles groups and dances, hobbies or sporting events, singles cruises. That's original isn't it?

 

6) Take classes - This includes going to the gym for exercise classes as well as taking academic or art classes. I've tried that myself, not much luck. At the gym, most people barely talk to each other either.

 

7) Around you - Grocery shopping, waiting areas, public transportation. Want to get depressed? Ride the bus. Volunteer or join community organizations, and church.

 

I was disappointed in this listing. I was kind of hoping for some earth shattering innovation that men get different advice for meeting women than vice versa, but no dice. Except that they did give some other advice that some guys must need to hear, such as don't stare at her chest look her in the eyes when speaking to her. And always be okay with being rejected. I'm a woman and I have been rejected more times than I can count. A recent poster said to me "Be happy you're a woman you have certain advantages". Hard to see that anymore. I guess I am getting more and more bitter as time goes on.

[alphamale]

At the gym, most people barely talk to each other either.

 

it seems people don't talk with each other unless they are forced to. many have their noses in their smart phones

 

Around you - Grocery shopping, waiting areas, public transportation. Want to get depressed? Ride the bus. Volunteer or join community organizations, and church.

 

come on ?! with all the weirdos around? wtf

 

I guess I am getting more and more bitter as time goes on.

 

that is really a shame

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

 

2) Ask your friends - Really? I had one former woman friend who said she wouldn't even friend me on Facebook because that would take away from her chances of meeting men.

 

 

I don't understand this. Why?

 

As far as making friends in the workplace....you've given the "never do this" advice a lot. I disagree. I've made great friends through the workplace. Maybe it depends on what kind of workplace and how much competition there is to climb the corporate ladder. I've never worked in a "cutthroat" environment.

[ChatroomHero]

It's really a simple answer that nobody seems to want to accept.

Where do I meet women?

A: Where the type of women you want to meet are, in a setting where you can socialize on a not so formal/businesslike event.

 

Friends have friends, sometimes they have attractive female friends.

Bars, weddings, sports events, concerts...women are there, usually looking to have fun, relaxed, HAPPY in general.

 

What other advice could anyone give?

 

It's like asking, where can I find a puppy?

A: Pound -Nope, they never have puppies there, usually all older dogs.

A: Pet Store - Nope, too expensive. The animals might have sicknesses, etc.

A: Rescue - Nope, not enough variety in my area. Might have behavior issues.

A: Stray dogs - Nope, not a chance.

 

Well, that's it. Those are the options. There's no magical puppy truck driving around the streets with a puppy of every variety. There's really not much more to say, just because you don't like the places suggested doesn't mean there is some magical place out there that you haven't thought of yet.

 

For example, at a professional sporting event, there are 10s of thousands of women, likely thousands that are single and looking. If I just 'next' that idea, it doesn't mean there is no place to meet women, it means a place with thousands of single women congregated in one place is apparently not good enough for me.

 

I mean if I want a slurpee, how silly would I look standing outside of 7-11 complaining about not being able to find a slurpee anywhere? ..."Oh, they have them in 7-11? Nope, I don't ever go to 7-11. I can't find a slurpee anywhere!".

[alphamale]

As far as making friends in the workplace....you've given the "never do this" advice a lot. I disagree. I've made great friends through the workplace. Maybe it depends on what kind of workplace and how much competition there is to climb the corporate ladder. I've never worked in a "cutthroat" environment.

 

unfortunately we tend to have much in common with our co-worker. no matter what people say work is a popular place to find friends and lovers

[d0nnivain]

The reality is you can meet new people everywhere if you are open to it. Most people can't handle personal social interaction any more. Part of it is you have to shut off your phone, close your laptop & come out of your house to interact with real people. If you hide behind a device you will get no where.

 

In the age of #meToo I agree work isn't an ideal place anymore but there are variations. Who is around in your building, assuming multiple companies work there? Who is at the places you eat lunch frequently or where you get your morning coffee? Can you go to industry events -- continuing education conferences, chamber of commerce events, trade shows etc.? I met my husband at a business card exchange.

 

Asking friends is still viable but ask the coupled up ones. Maybe their SO has a buddy for you & you can double date. The point is let people know you are open to being introduced to someone because you never know who knows some one who knows someone who may be perfect for you.

 

An introduction agency is a professional match making service: think The Millionaire Matchmaker from TV or the group that advertises in the back of the airline magazines. The only one I knew of for real people was It's Just Lunch but I think that went out of business.

 

IMO the easiest place to meet men is in any sports bar on any given weekend for US football, during any cross town rivalry, or during any major sporting event: World Series, Super Bowl, the World Cup Soccer matches, the Olympics, Stanley Cup etc. If you have a clue about what's going on men will surround you. If you actually care about the game, you will have to beat them off with a stick.

[carhill]

Since getting divorced I've met and conversed with more unknown women while fishing at the beach than anywhere else.

 

My exW once commented after we were engaged and I took her to a vintage/classic car show not 20 minutes from where she grew up that if she'd known how many hot guys, and single guys, hung out at car shows she'd have never met me, likely never left OC (Orange County, CA).

[nospam99]

they did give some other advice that some guys must need to hear, such as don't stare at her chest look her in the eyes when speaking to her.

 

Being an 'ass man', I don't have that problem. I get to do my body admiring while she's walking away or while I'm sneaking up on her

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

while I'm sneaking up on her

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

[Foxhall]

Mostly from online in the last ten years the women I have met,

 

the two best though have been met in real life, one on a train, and the current one, I may as well mention this as I doubt anyone else will, a horse racing event!

 

I actually think the universe randomly puts potential matches your way, then you either take the opportunity, i.e chat them and you may have a connection or you do not bother and let the opportunity slip,

 

there are a few nice single women on this forum too, just saying:cool:

[alphamale]

there are a few nice single women on this forum too, just saying:cool:

 

like who? would you meet someone from LS in real life?

[Foxhall]

like who? would you meet someone from LS in real life?

 

 

Yes I have two in mind in particular I would match well with!! I suppose the distance apart makes it tricky but I would be open to it if the opportunity to meet ever arose!

[basil67]

All real life examples you gave (work, friends, shopping, interests) can work IF you bring the right attitude. That right attitude involves: a ready smile, quick to chat and being friendly and open. It also involves having no expectations of those you engage with. Sometimes you can end up having a great chat....other times it falls flat.

[Gretchen12]

I've met men through school, work, where I live, through friends, at parties, in bars/restaurants/cafes, the airplane/airport, at shows/concerts, at the beach, in the park, on trains, dog park, jury duty, polling station, supermarket, farmers market, flea market, and on forums such as this but not LS.

 

Instead I'll tell you where I have NOT met men. Taking classes: they're are all women! Women like to take classes, men not so much. Auto shows: Granted I've only gone with a boyfriend that guarded me closely, which was really unnecessary because the men only had eyes for the cars!

[carhill]

I remember my first auto show, in 1973. Mike "Blackie" Gejeian put it on. He hired Playboy PMOM Miki Garcia to promote and attend it. I did take my Instamatic and got some nice pictures of cars. Who got the lineup to get pictures with? Trust me, men notice women everywhere, including at car shows. Pro-tip: Lean over, but don't touch, ask a few dumb questions (men like that) and let nature take its course. I've had women accost me in gas stations when driving one of the old cars, though not as regularly as looking in my catch bucket at the beach. It's a point of contact. Presuming people want contact. If not, a pleasant 'thank you' and we're on our way.

[smackie9]

lol true story. I own a red 88 Sierra step side PU down in the weeds. I went into the beer store.....when I came out two young hotties in mini skirts were hanging around my truck. As soon as I walked up they go "Oh is this your truck?" I say yup. They had a look of disappointment, I had a smirk on my face as I got in, and drove away. Stupid tire biters.....get a ride of your own.

It happened a few more times....I just laugh. Even chicks can own hot rides.

[alphamale]

I've met men through school, work, where I live, through friends, at parties, in bars/restaurants/cafes, the airplane/airport, at shows/concerts, at the beach, in the park, on trains, dog park, jury duty, polling station, supermarket, farmers market, flea market, and on forums such as this but not LS.

 

yeah but you're good looking Gretchen12. I've dated enough hotties to know they get hit on everywhere

[carhill]

There are plenty of bitter and angry people who attract others. They simply learn to mask it for superficial interaction and bonus if they have an attractive appearance because that's usually the first point of contact. I mean, like in my example back in 1973, if Miki was some plain jane schoolteacher instead of a Playboy centerfold, ya think guys would be lining up for her? That's reality. She could have been selfish, bitter, entitled, even homicidal and they'd still line up.

 

Here's a wonderful young lady I follow because, in part, she's a gearhead. However, watch how things go with the men, men of all ages, at the race track and shows. You think it's because she's a gearhead?

I was fortunate to have competed when women were really starting to hit the racing circuit and met a lot of women that way too, fellow female drivers. Other male drivers, more charismatic ones, had legions of female fans. Some gained relationships from those contacts. Pit pass and rub a few elbows and what happens happens. Races are social events as much as competitions. One more venue. All it takes is one chance meeting....

[Highndry]

The problem isn't with meeting somebody of the opposite sex, it's the fact that it's so easy to view thousands upon thousands of prospective partners that people have increased their standards well beyond what is realistic.

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Often in our approach as men today, offline, we feel that we are oppressing the person we are approaching or forcing ourselves upon them... It is always funny when you witness somebody waiting for a bus, because they are standing there, waiting, not doing anything, yet most people are resistant to conversation while doing so; this is because waiting is irritating and interacting with irritated people can be tricky.

 

I used to do door to door sales, selling energy contracts; my goal was to find out what your rate per month was and provide a better deal. One of the worst things that you can do in door to door sales, is assume that the person is buying; we call it "Assuming the Sale." In the same vein, you should never assume anyone wants your attention, but rather, find a way to create demand for your attention.

 

Online Dating: Do you know who benefits the most from Online Dating? Young Women and Old Men, Why? Because Old Men have resource and Young Women have desires... This dating game, it is simply a thing of fulfillment.

 

As young men, our potential to provide fulfillment is, well, limited. Any fulfillment you can provide, will almost certainly be provided offline, thus, you should remain in that same space as much as you can. Going offline is only the first step in this process though and the next step is to be out there.

 

Out where? Well, hate to break it to ya, but there ain't no top 10 list on google for the things that YOU like. YOU need to discover those things for yourself and you need to go and do those things and when you are doing those things, you will naturally create a demand for your attention... Soon enough, women will start approaching you.

[ChatroomHero]

Often in our approach as men today, offline, we feel that we are oppressing the person we are approaching or forcing ourselves upon them...

Why? Because Old Men have resource and Young Women have desires... This dating game, it is simply a thing of fulfillment.

 

As young men, our potential to provide fulfillment is, well, limited.

 

I have to say if this is your issue, you will not be very successful with women. That is the least confident, most beta, childish reasoning that I have ever read.

 

Actually what older men offer is confidence and an actual backbone because they know women don't want a man-child that's afraid to look someone in the eye and afraid to leave mom's basement for fear of offending someone. For every woman that rejects you or 'feels oppressed', there are 1000s of other women put there that are interested in an actual man and not a beta male, man bun, skinny jeans wearing, man that was raised to be a girlfriend and not a mate.

 

The younger men can have plenty to offer, but only if they allow their sack to drop and show the women that they can navigate life and be a source of strength like an adult, rather than having the backbone of a 14 year old girl.

[chillii]

Haaaa, thought you were swapping teams in disgust when l saw the title mc