being "single"

[hoppy28]

ive been single for some time now. alittle over 2 years to be exact.

i was at a point in my life i was very happy being alone. i love my low paying job:rolleyes: , i have hobbies i enjoy(man hobbies)etc, etc.

i would wake up every morning ready to take the world on. i was happy where i was at this point in my life. i have been burned a few times in the past by ex's. im not bitter about being in a relationship and i dont have trust issues either. it was just something i didnt feel i wanted or needed in my life at this time. im not one to "need" someone else to make me happy.

 

3 months ago a woman entered my life. my life of being single was flopped upside down for about a month. she was aggresive......i was very attracted to her, etc, etc. to make the long story short........we saw eachother for a month before she disapeared into the blue. i took this alittle hard but have been doing better.

 

so now im back to "just me again". as the days turn into weeks and weeks into months...........i wondering if im just meant to be alone.

10 years ago i would have told you "id be married with 2 kids by now".

 

are some people just better off alone?? are some people put on this earth to walk alone??

my mother has been single for many many years. do you think kids that are brought up in single parent households tend to except that being alone is OK?

 

i just dont get it...............before i met this woman my life seemd so in-line.

now that i back to where i started im having these feelings of just not wanting to get involved with woman period. ive been in longterm relationships since i started dating. i never was really good at excepting there dimise.

after the last one(that really hurt) i just decided to not make any effort to be withsome one. is this normal?? im 28 and have zero or little desire to get in a relationship.

is there anything wrong with "wanting" to be single and alone?? or should i say is there anything wrong with wanting to be a "bachelor"??

[RecordProducer]

1. are some people just better off alone??

2. are some people put on this earth to walk alone??

3. do you think kids that are brought up in single parent households tend to except that being alone is OK?

4. is there anything wrong with "wanting" to be single and alone?? or should i say is there anything wrong with wanting to be a "bachelor"??

 

1. Yes, some people. And some people are not easy to live with too.

2. Some people just can't make healhty relationships so they end up alone although they don't want to.

3. Probably, as they didn't have the mom-and-dad example encoded in their minds as the correct model to pursue.

4. There is nothing wrong with enjoying being single. I find it strange when women don't want children, but I am getting used to that one too. You are different than the great majority of people though, as most seek an emotional and physical companion. People have a desire to fall in love, give and receive, have children, make love... If you don't have a desire to do any of these then I guess you're lucky. But I think you will change with time. You're still young. You'll fall in love when you least expect and will want to stay with her forever.

[d'Arthez]

are some people just better off alone??

Yes. Some people prefer it that way. It depends on their need of (romantic) involvement, and their ability to handle that another person is a major part in their lives.

 

are some people put on this earth to walk alone??

No. Unless you believe in some form of pre-destination. Why people end up alone depends on many things, some of which are beyond people's control.

 

do you think kids that are brought up in single parent households tend to except that being alone is OK?

I don't have the facts, but I think it would depend mainly on the state of affairs in the single parent household. It can be good, and it can be terrible for the child, which leads to quite different expectations and beliefs about singleness.

Add in the occasional boy/girlfriend of the parent, or even more severe the effect of stepparents, and you can see why it is impossible to make a general statement.

 

is there anything wrong with "wanting" to be single and alone?? or should i say is there anything wrong with wanting to be a "bachelor"??

Nothing wrong with that. And why could you not legitimately have the desire to be alone, anyway:o ?