Madam Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 :mad: :mad: HELP ! Its been two weeks since we have been engaged. We are wedding in March. We have a 5K budget , my parents are covering the reception thankfully, but as it stands we cant afford our honeymoon. Here is the damn problem. The inlaws and my family of course expects a full wedding - so do I ,as I have always dreamed of having my family and few closest freinds at my wedding. 50 peopel max. The inlaws - who shelled out 40k (ridiculous) for thier daughers wedding have not offered one damn dime. All the while - if we take our $$$ and have a honeymoon and private ceremony - the inlaw family side will blow up! They have tons of $$$ too. My parents said they will cover our recption - which is more than so outstaning of them. But they also said they would fly anywhere we wnet if we decied to use our $$ for a wonderful honeymoon so that they can witness our vows. They of course would pay for my siblings too. I just want to know WTF ?????? My fiance is a bit suprised too, but would not EVER dare to say anything to his parents in case they contibuted out of "GUILT". And if we told them we were on a budget and need to spend it on thier honeymoon, he feel they would contribute out of guilt, so we are screwed on that. Furthermore - he is there only son now, thier other son was brutally murdered a year and half ago - along with the grandfather. My finace discoverd them, I too was with him. It was terrible. But - would you not think they would offer something for thier only sons wedding? He is 35 I am 28 - we are established - own our home ect. Is that the possible excuse? I need some advice on what to do here. At this point it is not an option to canel the wedding reception my parents have so graciously paid for. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 Well.. there are a few ways of looking at this.. Is it possible that your Fiance's Parents are "Old School" so to speak in the belief that it is the responsibility of the Brides family to pay for the wedding, as they paid for thier Daughters? Could be as well that his parents feel that yourself and your Fiance are established in life so they do not feel it is the responsibility for them to contribute to your wedding budget or reception.. Hell, could be thier wedding gift to you will be money for a honeymoon:confused: Bottomline IMO.. while it would be nice for his parents to help out, it ISN'T mandatory or written anywhere that you as a parent MUST contribute or pay for a wedding for your children (regardless of age, sex, or financial status) IF a wedding is what you and your Fiance want, then I would suggest paying for that, and going on the honeymoon at a later time... Just keep in mind, that while having a nice wedding is great... it doesn't make the marriage anymore or any less wonderful.. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
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