You will be fine.

[Thierro]

It has been years since the first time I posted here. It was a topic about true love and how I lost that. All I wanted to know was how to get her back. I spend sleepless nights on PUA methods. I spend all of my hope on the no contact rule. It was my holy grail. It was the only way to get her back. I would do anything to get back that what was meant to be.

 

Weeks would pass, without hearing a thing from her until someday early in the morning. I opened my email and saw her name highlighted. Right that moment I believed she would come back to me. She asked me how I was doing, if I was ok. I gave in and I told her I still had feelings for her. She apologized and told me it was wrong contacting me. Even though it broke my heart at the time, I didn’t want to give up. She was thinking about me. There was still a heartbeat.

 

Indifferent. That’s what people told me how to feel. I never believed what people told me when I posted here on Loveshack. My story was different. Our relationship was supernatural. Our love was meant to be. It had a meaning. I didn’t believe in posts like the one I am writing right now. I was hurt and the only thing that could fix that was her. I would never feel ok without her.

 

To be honest, I can’t recall if she reached out to me only once or twice. To be honest, I can’t recall a lot from who I was, who she was, who we were together all those years back. I know it took me two years to get over her. I can’t remember her voice, I have no idea how she looks like right now. Our memories seem too far away to remember right here and now.

 

I did find someone else. We have been together for over 7 years. She means everything to me. The girl I wrote about here on Loveshack is just a faded memory. I feel indifferent about everything. She just is. When I’ll be 100 year, I will reminisce about my past life and I’m sure she will be a part of it.

 

I don’t know where life will take me. Maybe I won’t even get to be a 100 years old. Maybe I will feel out of love with my current girlfriend. Maybe she wants a different life for herself. I did blame my ex for leaving me. But I don’t blame her now. I wouldn’t blame my current girlfriend as well. Sometimes things go different. We all have our own lives. Our own needs. Our own wishes. We meet new people, get to know them and we lose people along the way. It will probably break my heart. But I know I will get over it.

 

Take time to care for who you are and what you stand for. Try to have people around you that have your back. If you don’t, don’t be so hard on yourself. Be mad, cry if you need to. Read books, go watch Netflix. Even if you don’t want to do a thing and only stay in bed, that’s ok for a while. At the time I had no real friends. The american Office has been so important during that time. In a way the cast were my friends I desperately needed. Do things you like.

 

I have made some good friends now. I am very in love with my girlfriend. We have our ups and downs. Even right now we have some things we need to work out. Work and finances are an issue as well at the moment. Nothing is perfect and nothing will ever be. But we all need to take the next step in whatever direction it may take us.

[PureAppleJuice]

Hey. Thanks for sharing your story.

 

Can I ask, why do you think it took you two years to get over her?

[preraph]

Glad you're doing so well and she's just a chapter in your book now, and not one you want to keep reading over and over.