preraph Posted September 22, 2019 Share Posted September 22, 2019 You know, I have two jobs and usually have throughout the years, one full time work at home and one part-time in office, and in the past 20 years, I have only bought one NEW appliance. I buy used ones. Sure, I'm behind the times on the trends, but my fridge was about $400 and has ice and filtered water on the door. I buy from used dealers who offer a short warranty period and will also do reasonably priced work past the warranty period. Even if I was deadset on getting a certain fancy model that retailed for $3000, I'd wait for it to go on sale at least a third off OR buy it at the Sears or Best Buy Outlet stores for much less. Her parents have no better ethics than she does and if you weren't married to her, I'd tell you to dump her and stiff them and let them pay it. I do think a judge would be sympathetic, but you be sure and save some paper trail of any money you pay them for anything or pay on her debt. Link to post Share on other sites
AMarriedMan Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 Then when you get paid, take full custody of the kid. Do you really want your child to grow up being influenced by someone like her? How do you "take custody" of a child by unilateral decision? What you're suggesting is one of the silliest things I've read on this platform for quite some time. Are you suggesting OP should kidnap the child and go back to his country of origin that, hopefully, is not party to the Hague Convention? I do have to say that a greedy sociopathic woman like that in total control of the finances would be a nightmare. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 Does she work? She needs to earn her own money and be responsible for her own debt (if there even is debt). And you have NO evidence there ever was debt or that the money you gave went to pay off half that debt! Either way - it’s HER responsibility and she needs to pay it! But I think it’s just an excuse so you give her family money and she never intends to join you. What action have you taken since this thread started? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted September 27, 2019 Share Posted September 27, 2019 Giving up control of your money was your first mistake. It's time to get separate accounts and don't put her name on it and don't have the statements sent to your home. I'd find a way to move back to where you initially lived and leave her there with her family. And I wouldn't pay squat. Link to post Share on other sites
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