What do women find attractive

[Wayne0789456]

Let's say you are at a singles dance, a party for singles, or some other singles event where you are basically in a room with other singles. When you look around the room, what are you attracted to? Things such as, what does he look like? What is he wearing? What else do you notice?

 

Basically, describe the guy who you want to be approached by the most. Who might you approach yourself

[preraph]

Someone who looks comfortable in the surroundings, has an overall balance of looks and style, and isn't staring at the only big-boobed blonde in the room along with the 80 percent of the rest of the guys.

 

If he was leaning against the bar, I'd go get in beside him and order a drink and smile if he was paying any attention, or not, if he was focused elsewhere.

 

If there was a band, I'd decide whether I liked his taste in music.

[alphamale]

attractive women like money

[d0nnivain]

Different women are going to find different men attractive. Some will like blondes, others brunettes. Some will like short hair others long hair. Some want a causal guy others a man in a suit & tie. Some will want a great dancer the life of the party; others will want the more reserved quiet guy in the corner.

 

 

You need to put your best foot forward. Keep yourself well groomed in your style. Have neat washed clothes that make you feel confident in yourself. Smile. Make eye contact. Be polite. Really listen.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Someone who smiles a lot and appears to be a good listener and not needing to be the center of attention. He appears liked by many.

[basil67]

attractive women like money

 

But this is about first approaches. If a woman wants money, how does she know his worth off the bat?

[basil67]

A genuine smile

[alphamale]

If a woman wants money, how does she know his worth off the bat?

 

gold-diggers have their tricks of the trade

[mr_ybor]

But this is about first approaches. If a woman wants money, how does she know his worth off the bat?

 

 

Not all attractive women like money. I've dated a number of women (who I'd consider attractive, anyway... that's all subjective) that didn't care about it at all.

 

 

 

It's all about environment. If you hang out at the heavily backlit D-bag bar where everyone valets their German luxo barges, dresses to the nines in heavily logo'd gear, and pays too much money for watered down Gray Goose cocktails (while $400 bottles of Scotch collect dust), the gold is probably being dug.

[preraph]

If you're in doubt about your style or have dressed the same way for over five years, take yourself to a good department store, H&M, Dillard's, doesn't have to be super expensive. Call ahead and ask when there would be a clerk in who could take time to put together a couple of outfits for you, one dressy, one or more casual. Bring you up to date.

 

Give them a short synopsis of what type person you are and what you like to do "I go out to see rock bands," or "I hang out at the country club" or "I go to dance clubs" so they'll have some idea.

[mr_ybor]

and isn't staring at the only big-boobed blonde in the room along with the 80 percent of the rest of the guys.

 

 

How's the big boobed blonde gonna find love if someone isn't starring at her? That how I got my last big boobed blonde.

[Gretchen12]

There are two parts. 1. someone who seems like a good person (kindness), and one that I can connect with intellectually. 2. Genetics. I'm not talking about height, which depends on diet. Genes and some diseases can be seen and smelled. It's when you can't explain why you're just romantically attracted to him or not. I'll still talk to the guy but as friends.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Since when does height depends on diet? And what genes and diseases can be smelled?

[mr_ybor]

Since when does height depends on diet?

 

Since forever... I mean, we've known since science correlated the two. At points in history and places where diet was lacking and/or not properly varied, humans have statistically gotten shorter, and vice versa.

 

The science of height isn't any one thing, however. There's a number of components that go into it, even across the DNA. Only one part of the DNA will inherent height simply by the parents being tall, so simply being tall and shacking up with someone who also is tall isn't a 100% guarantee of tall kids.

 

Frankly, I don't know why people are so obsessed with making freakishly tall kids. Really tall people start to experience medial issues (namely cardiovascular issues) once they reach a certain height window.

 

 

 

And what genes and diseases can be smelled?

 

Some diseases can be smelled, yes, but really only once someone has one. The idea that people can (unconsciously) identify people as less predisposed to some diseases based simply on pheromones is more of a stretch. Doctors could be sniffing your cracks all the time to get you in on early mammograms if that were the case.

Edited September 22, 2019 by mr_ybor

[basil67]

Since when does height depends on diet?

 

I doubt that diet makes a huge difference to someone who has short genes, but the reason humans have gotten taller over the last 100 years is accredited to diet.

[basil67]

gold-diggers have their tricks of the trade

 

What tricks are used when first meeting a man?

[mr_ybor]

What tricks are used when first meeting a man?

 

 

Asking what you do for a living, then immediately following with, "Does that pay well?"

[alphamale]

that's a start

[Wayne0789456]

Here's an update / additional information.

 

 

I need to start with my OLD experience. I'll use Match.com as an example, I put out an initial profile, then changed it two times. All three times, getting the same result -- I send out a lot of messages, everyone views, but no one writes back.

 

 

I am tired of OLD, so I am trying in person events, but having similar results that way, too.

 

 

Last week, I was at a single-mingle type party. I talked to a lot of women; I appeared to one to be a social butterfly, though I don't quite consider myself one. With one woman, I talked to for a little while, we didn't have the chance to get in to any interests or personality traits, but I liked how she carried herself, and so I told her that before the end of the evening, but she said she felt no spark. With another, we had a major interest in common, but before we went any further, she told me she wasn't feeling it. With a third, she and I had the same big interest in common, when I asked to exchange numbers she used the excuse of not knowing what her work schedule would be like. Others just pulled away and gravitated toward hanging out with the female friends they came with.

 

 

 

Basically, I am having the same results in person. I was actually dressed up more than most there, but it's how i like to dress for many dates, so I was being my genuine self. I was told by someone that those women just weren't attracted to me.

 

 

I am going to a speed dating event this week, and so was hoping to learn if there was anything I can do to appear more attractive. I've been told numerous times that I am an attractive guy, never been called ugly, so I cannot figure this out.

[paisleypanther]

I think a lot of women like men who know what they want and know how to communicate, someone who knows how to make compromises but also stands firm in his beliefs. On that note, I'm attracted to men with strong morals. Men who know how to be gentle and kind. Also, a great smile and a contagious laugh!

 

This is perhaps a given, but most women like loyal guys who are in touch with their emotions. Maybe this is TMI, but I prefer a guy who doesn't mind messing around with gender roles in relationships

 

I also like men who love to learn, especially ones who can hold great conversations about their fields of study. That shows me that they are not only passionate about something but also that they're willing to share their knowledge. What's the point of knowledge if you aren't sharing it? But he can't just care about his work. Hobbies, instruments, other passions- that **** is so important.

 

I'm of the firm belief that looks aren't a huge deal. As long as you have good hygiene and take care of yourself, you're fine.

Edited September 22, 2019 by paisleypanther

[basil67]

Asking what you do for a living, then immediately following with, "Does that pay well?"

 

And wealthy men are foolish enough to give a true answer?

[crispytoast]

I doubt that diet makes a huge difference to someone who has short genes, but the reason humans have gotten taller over the last 100 years is accredited to diet.

Au contraire, my brother is 6'2" and I was supposed to be 6'3"-6'4" but I drank tons of energy drinks in high school and I'm only 6ft (my uhhh feet are still bigger and my wingspan is longer if, yknow, thats important to you ladies *ahem*)

But this is about first approaches. If a woman wants money, how does she know his worth off the bat?

Unless he's deliberately trying to look not rich, she can tell. Fine threads, maybe the watch, or she saw the bartender pour high end liquor into his cocktail. Maybe she scoped him doing a key bump out of a quarter? The possibilities are endless.

Edited September 22, 2019 by crispytoast

[basil67]

Crispy, did the doctors tell you that energy drinks caused you to not reach your predicted height? And no, the other isn't important to me.

 

Regarding looking wealthy, I don't know anybody with money who dresses like this. Most just look and act like regular people. Anyway, wouldn't dressing like this have the negative outcome of attracting women who are after their money?

[Prudence V]

what does he look like? What is he wearing? What else do you notice?

 

Is he at home in his body, comfortable in his skin? Is he wearing clothes that suit him, or does he look like someone else dressed him? If it’s a dance, I’d check out how he dances. I’m not looking for John Travolta, but awkwardness, lack of rhythm, etc would discourage me.

 

I’d watch his interactions with others. Too deferential, too bossy, too egocentric, too bland... meh.

 

What does he talk about? Can he name any Kardashians (definite no-no)? Is he fully up to speed on current affairs? What are his politics?

[d0nnivain]

How one dresses does not always accurately correlate to net worth. Most people who where the flashiest clothes & expensive watches who drive great cars are broke off their a$$e$ because they go into debt to keep up with the jones.

 

Any man who continues to talking to a woman who askes if his job "pays well" if that woman is not at a college job fair is a fool for continuing the conversation. If the man likes gold-diggers that is his business but hey at least she's being upfront about her intentions.

 

Politics, dance styles, knowledge of current events, cost of watch, etc. are how some women might measure attractive a man is but that still speaks solely to personal tastes. They are not universal indicators.