Author chillii Posted September 23, 2019 Author Share Posted September 23, 2019 (edited) If I was broke, needed a visa, had health problems so couldn't work, and needed a safe shelter with a man who loves me, then sure as hell I would be giving Meryl Streep a run for her money in the acting stakes... It would be my full time "job", as without it I would likely be homeless, penniless and deported... Saying that she may actually love him, but hard to tell. Cracked me up. But man she seems genuine She def' missed her true calling though if she's not. Edited September 23, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted September 23, 2019 Author Share Posted September 23, 2019 (edited) You're being protective. But your brother already has a good head on his shoulders. So try to trust him. This woman he's with could have ulterior motives but your brother hasn't exactly handed over his bank account. He's not stupid. I'm in my 50's, and while I don't feel old, I do think about how many more years I have. You get to be a certain age and you just say hey I'm gonna do what I want. If your brother wants to do some dangerous extreme sport, he's gonna do it no matter how protective the family may be. We all have just one life that's our own and no one else's. Haa, funny you should say that, he rides dirt bikes, very very fast, he use to race. l'd love for things to work out with her it'd be great for both of them if she is legit. Maybe the prenup would solve it , l'll put that to him if he hasn't considered it at least the finances would be covered . Think he'll handle that suggestion. Edited September 23, 2019 by chillii 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rayce Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 I agree with the prenup idea. After all at this stage of our lives that is what family worries most about... some jerk coming along and scamming us out of our hard earn savings. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 The prenup is a good idea. You're just telling him "Bro if you're gonna ride your dirt bike so fast, could you at least wear a helmet?" You're not trying to stop him from living his life. You don't want to accuse his girlfriend and be this force of opposition. You want him to feel comfortable coming to you if one day he needs to say "hey she wants me to do XYZ and I don't feel good about it.." That's the best way to help him. As far as the woman acting or not, who knows? One sees she has incentive to pretend, but on the other hand, poor jobless visaless people can feel love too. The ability to love is not the perogative of only those with money and job. You can only wait and see. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 she does the books now. Okay, now I'm really worried. She does his books? She won't work otherwise, is on her fourth husband, and she does his financial books. Now there's two ways for her to rip him off, by cooking the books and sending herself money and by telling a judge she was his partner in business and taking half his business. Now you need to tell him he needs to have the books looked at by an independent accountant to check her work and see if she's on the up and up. And I'd do that at least for three years. She might not cook the books the first year, assuming he was watching. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 this is VERY troubling preraph Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 I suspect he's fallen for a KISA situation and she probably recognizes this and is taking full advantage. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 Perhaps try to dampen his enthusiasm for marriage anyway, in fairness seems to be fun all around at the moment, so if its not broke dont fix it also tend to agree with the other posters though about her involvement in the business, not sure if Id want her knowing too much,unless I completely trusted her. call her bluff, if he was to start hinting marriage not on his agenda, and maybe keeping her at a bit more of a distance, try to get her up and running doing something on her own bat, even help her out a little financially with that, but get a bit of separation in motion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted September 23, 2019 Author Share Posted September 23, 2019 (edited) Okay, now I'm really worried. She does his books? She won't work otherwise, is on her fourth husband, and she does his financial books. Now there's two ways for her to rip him off, by cooking the books and sending herself money and by telling a judge she was his partner in business and taking half his business. Now you need to tell him he needs to have the books looked at by an independent accountant to check her work and see if she's on the up and up. And I'd do that at least for three years. She might not cook the books the first year, assuming he was watching. Yeah , must admit , that crossed my mind cat among the pigeons. lf she was gonna scam him it'd be in a few years too, she'd build up the show first. But , he knows he's stuff built the business from nothing ,,,,still , not like it doesn't happen everyday is it ! l do think he'd be way too sharp for that one though and probably has things in place just encase. But thats a tricky one that one though , suggesting anything like that from her would def' not go down too well, maybe l better run with the prenup idea although pretty sure his solicitor would have things wrapped up pretty tight. Edited September 23, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted September 23, 2019 Author Share Posted September 23, 2019 I suspect he's fallen for a KISA situation and she probably recognizes this and is taking full advantage. Man , hope it's not something like that. All l can say though is l read women pretty well and if it was she's the best actress l ever saw, think l'd give up if she is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted September 23, 2019 Author Share Posted September 23, 2019 (edited) Perhaps try to dampen his enthusiasm for marriage anyway, in fairness seems to be fun all around at the moment, so if its not broke dont fix it also tend to agree with the other posters though about her involvement in the business, not sure if Id want her knowing too much,unless I completely trusted her. call her bluff, if he was to start hinting marriage not on his agenda, and maybe keeping her at a bit more of a distance, try to get her up and running doing something on her own bat, even help her out a little financially with that, but get a bit of separation in motion. Ahh man , no way that's gonna happen he's lovin their thing. He still pretty hold back on any marriage though from a caution point of view . like he tells me but he's not throwing it around her yet . He's well aware of the situation and traveling Asia 20yrs seen it all. Pretty sure she'll be proving herself well and truly first if l know him buttttt, then she'd know that too if she is scamming him, add in love, well. l think the best l can do without him telling me where to go is go the prenup stuff and sussing out the solicitor has his back which l'm fairly sure he would have l know the guy's really looked after him in the past. Still solicitors can be even worse soooo. Edited September 23, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 He better be straight up paying her for her help like an employee and reporting taxes on it, because if not, she is doing it as his partner and will sue for her part of the business. I would at least mention it to him. He really ought to go get advice from his attorney and set up some protections. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted September 23, 2019 Author Share Posted September 23, 2019 Yeah good idea but he might have Preraph not sure. Anyway he's comin over on the weekend on his own so l'll see what's goin on. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 There really isn't anything you can say. He's going to have to find out for himself, but she sounds like a con. She's only 'nice' to him and cares when it benefits her. Can't work? Broke? Needs a visa? That's one too many red flags. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chillii Posted September 24, 2019 Author Share Posted September 24, 2019 (edited) Yeah they're biggies alright but he's well aware of that so is she. She said to me when we met, she's made mistakes and lifes been hard but when she met bro it gave new hope that felt lost before. Now all she wants is a loving life together. l can understand that , we all eff up, some of us make some biggies, get tired, my only concern is whether she's real with him. Edited September 24, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
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