Pink86 Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 So there is a guy who flirt really hard with me and stares at me but then ither times it seems like he avoids me. I’m just nice to him and we are acquaintances and I talk friendly. Why does he flirt and then seem like he’s avoiding me too! I feel like when he’s talking to me he gets really nervous around me but still manages to try and flirt. By avoiding I mean If I am by his office door he will walk in a completely different door than his office to go to his office. It’s so weird. Or if I’m taking the elevator he will take a different elevator or use the stairs. I don’t get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 He can flirt with you from time to time, but he has to push himself out of his comfort zone, it does not come naturally, he is happy in himself when it goes well, but he avoids you then other times because it is too stressful and he is worried he may not make as good of impression as the previous time, if you like him you have to meet him half way,give him a little help, start a conversation and see will he relax Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 23, 2019 Share Posted September 23, 2019 he likes you Pink86. but he's shy. so you will have to make the 1st move Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 he likes you Pink86. but he's shy. Or he's in a relationship and is trying to maintain boundaries. How well do you know him? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink86 Posted September 24, 2019 Author Share Posted September 24, 2019 I don’t know him too well. He is an acquaintance. What do you mean by maintain boundaries? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 24, 2019 Share Posted September 24, 2019 What do you mean by maintain boundaries? He finds you attractive and senses something's there, so he's smart enough to run in the other direction to avoid anything inappropriate given he's (hypothetically) with someone else... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink86 Posted September 25, 2019 Author Share Posted September 25, 2019 So does he not trust himself around me then? What you said sounds like what’s going on. But does he somehow not trust himself being around me? Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted September 25, 2019 Share Posted September 25, 2019 When someone deliberately avoids you after being flirtatious it is meant to send a signal that they are trying not to give you the wrong idea. He may find you attractive and enjoy flirting occasionally, but he clearly doesn't want it to go further than that. Whether he is already in a relationship or just not interested in dating you, it amounts to the same thing. He doesn't want to cross that line. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2019 Share Posted September 25, 2019 Since you mentioned offices, I presume you work together. He may enjoy flirting with you but not want to take things further because you work together. Let him be & assume nothing will come of it Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink86 Posted September 26, 2019 Author Share Posted September 26, 2019 We don’t work together. But sometimes I have to go to the same office building where his office Is and I run into him a lot there. Link to post Share on other sites
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