How to warn my female friend about her risky sex behavior?

[mark clemson]

She admitted to sleeping with all 4 men on "first date"

AND She continues to be on tinder and goes on other "dates" where she sleeps with men on first date

YET She doesn't make time for us to hang out as friends and tells me she is "swamped at work with multiple projects "

 

 

My friend, you have been friendzoned. That is why she has better things to do than hang with you. Being "jackhammered" by guys she actually wants for this is one of them.

 

It's extremely unlikely she is unaware of the risks of STDs and pregnancy. Has she been living under a rock for the last 25 years?

 

IF you got what I think you probably actually want here, you'd be the "beta buck" she goes out with for the possibility of a stable relationship, while secretly desiring more jackhammering types.

 

Solution A. No question. Otherwise you're just condemning yourself to more bitterness about the situation.

 

Find a girl who actually wants you for love.

[Springsummer]

It's her life, her choice. You are the only one who is pathetic here OP, pining over a girl like this but still doesn't give a crap about you sexually.

[thefooloftheyear]

Textbook White Knight Syndrome...

 

Its really simple here, bud...

 

Its none of your business....Sure, I guess you have the right to cut ties with her if her behavior is abhorrent to your beliefs, or you are somehow jealous, so if that's the case, then do that...Just don't tell her why...That would be kinda lame...or just say you are "too busy" or some other crap...

 

Bottom line is that its not your place...

 

TFY

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

In your last thread you talk about her as your 'love interest'.

 

Oh wow....I assumed they were both females. Unless this is a gay relationship/crush?

[preraph]

I guess if the OP was female it wouldn't make any difference in the answers except to say she's be even less likely to want the OP since she's into men.

[preraph]

She's not stringing you along. Women can be "just friends" with guys without ever wanting sex from them for the next 50 years. You're her orbiter. It never works out well for orbiters. Collossal time waste and you're already bitter. It wouldn't matter what you did, she's not attracted to you. You just need to face reality.

[SumGuy]

mostly C

 

If this was my friend I'd let them know that you know these guys are just making excuses; which I'm sure she knows.

 

Let her know for me it seems "risky," not just with STDs, but given the number and that they come to her place the chance she'll meet the rando who is dangerous or will obsess over her/get possessive.

 

She sounds smart so I'm sure she gets it. My action as a friend would not be to tell her to stop, unless she said things that make me think she does't know why she does this and wants to stop. Rather find ways to make it safer for her, pre-arranged calls and phrases when she meets a new guy in case she is in trouble. Things like that. Things where she has a non-judgmental friend who instead of lamenting the risk, helps her minimize it through concrete actions.

[stillafool]

It sounds like this woman has a high sex drive and is not too choosy who she gets it from, but at 44 that is her business. I'm sure she's aware of STDs and may bring her own condoms, who knows. I don't think it's your business to lecture her because she's a grown, single woman. Would you lecture a male friend about this sex life? I don't know what having a PHd has to do with her sex drive.

[mark clemson]

I don't know what having a PHd has to do with her sex drive.

Making up for some lost time perhaps.

[Maddie82]

So the OP has never responded which confirms what most have been saying, that he is jealous of her lifestyle because he wants to be more than friends with her, but she doesn't.

[somanymistakes]

Are you going to keep repeating the joke until someone cheers?

[Els]

Not your business, but if she's not being a friend to you then there isn't much point in being friends either.

[alphamale]

She's not stringing you along. Women can be "just friends" with guys without ever wanting sex from them for the next 50 years. You're her orbiter. It never works out well for orbiters. Collossal time waste and you're already bitter. It wouldn't matter what you did, she's not attracted to you. You just need to face reality.

 

^^^this^^^

[crispytoast]

Are you going to keep repeating the joke until someone cheers?

:laugh::laugh::laugh: