CityGirl88 Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 I have been dating a US Marine since Dec. '03. He was going through a divorce when I met him. So I had to listen to all of his complaining about him hating his so to be ex. That's all he talked about was how much he hated her. His divorce was final in July '04 and he went to Iraq in Aug. of '04. We stayed in touch while he was in Iraq through e-mail everyday. He would never tell me how he felt about me, but by his actions, I felt he loved me even though he never said it. I finally asked him if he cared for me and he told me that we were only friends even though he had introduced me to all his friends and family as his girlfriend. He then stopped e-mailing me from Iraq and told me he was not interested in a relationship with me or anyone. So instead of hearing from him daily, I started only hearing from him every month or so. I left him alone. When he returned from Iraq, he contacted me and said that we should go out. I said that would be nice, but then I never heard from again (that was in April). So last week, when Hurricane Rita was getting ready to hit Houston, he called me out of the blue to see if he could help me in anyway prepare for the storm. He came over to my house. I had not see him in person for a year. He was so sweet and nice and brought lots of supplies for the storm. My electricity went out at my house but not at his. So he invited me over to his house and he cooked for us until my electricity came back on. I never said anything about our relationship, but he said that we had some talking to do. So he asked me out for Wed. night and we had our talk. All he could do was talk about his ex-wife and how much he hated her and that he had just found out that she now has a boyfriend. He told me that he knows I want a relationship, but that he can only be friends with me because he is going through Post Tramatic Stress from being in Iraq. I told him he should get some counseling and he said that he was. I think he just can't get over his ex-wife and I am sick of hearing about her. He said he just wanted to be friends with me and maybe date ocasionally. When I left the restaurant, he just kept saying can I call you in a couple of days so we can discuss this more? He said I can't handle a relationship because I have only been divorced a year and a half. I just had to bite my tongue to keep from saying what I really thought. Also, he has left all of this stuff at my house he brought here for the Hurricane. I know he will want them back because they are expense tools, etc., but I just don't feel like hearing from him right now. I don't know what to do or say to him. He as just standing there in the parking lot saying "you don't understand, you're not a Marine." I don't think it is Post Tramatic Stress. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 Let this one go and move on. Hate is NOT the opposite of Love.. Indifference is.. this Guy cannot stop talking about his EXW because he ISN'T over her. Secondly.. he has told you more than ONE time that he only wants to be Friends and doesn't want a relationship... please believe him. Don't analyze what he means by that... take him at his word and leave it alone. Don't get sucked into accepting less from this Guy because he's a marine... sheesh thats lame... You deserve better than this.. and he for real needs to stop flattering himself here that he's all that, that you should just be willing to take what he's offering. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
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