Twizzlestick Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Say wuuuut? I’ve noticed an epidemic on dating sites with girls. The phrases “it ain’t gonna work if you don’t love dogs” or the title. The latest one was on hinge, I resisted the temptation to reply “why, are you a dog”?. Ok, I was feeling a little teasey after reading it for the tenth time in fifteen mins of swiping I really like dogs. I’ve had a few I’ve “loved”. I don’t love other’s dogs. That would be weird. I do treat them as one should, with care for animals. It’s a common theme. What is it with this infantile digital obsession that one has to “love” dogs?. It’s not even “yeah I’d like someone who doesn’t mind dogs” or bury it in a string of other values. It’s usually the headline act. And don’t be fooled you have to “love” dogs, not merely like them dear applicant! It’s rife. One could be forgiven for thinking a law has been passed. I find myself daydreaming a future rele with such a woman, laughing hysterically, rolling around the front room in blissful canine abandon, swarmed upon by tens of puppies cantering through meteres of unfurled toilet roll - like an Andrex advert (toilet roll here in the U.K.). Makes me wonder what other black and white thinking goes on in the heads of these curious beings, what other odd little maggots in the brains exist. You’ve what, a few lines to sell yourself. Your future partner. The potential life mate and co Pilot. All the values you could have, that you’d look back in in sickness and health and think “aaaaahh yes, I chose wisely”. And you write “you better love dogs” . Haha. Brilliant . That’s not the most odd thing I’ve seen. Other epidemic I’ve noticed is 50 percent seem to have grown dog ears and noses in the ten years I’ve been away from dating. Some tell me that’s an app. I’m relieved. Other things I’ve read “It ain’t gonna work if you don’t like Italian”. Uhhh Huh “It ain’t gonna work if you don’t like game of thrones”. Noted. I’ll book the divorce. “If you’re under 7 foot 5 you’re in the friend zone”. Well I ain’t, as I don’t know you. Thank Fxxxxxxx! You get the gist. I’m feeling provocative this morning. Can you tell . It’s what we’re working with here people. I laugh at this stuff sometimes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 It ain't gonna work if you aren't adventurous with your food 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Apparently these folks have gone on dates with people who didn't share their passions & it upset them so now they are blunt about the whole thing. There are better ways to phrase their desires but they are too busy being hurt & put upon to realize that. To all the dog lovers out there, include a picture with your canine fur kid & mention something about walking the dog in your profile. Most sane non-dog lovers will get the point & chose to pass. Similarly, if you are looking for somebody to watch Game of Thrones or any other show with say something along the lines of looking for a watch partner. What's your favorite guilty pleasure binge watch? Maybe we can have a marathon together. A little finesse never hurt anybody. Twizzlestick -- my advice to you is skip the profiles of the people who are so intense about their passions. They are too angry and damaged to date at this point. It's helpful of them to highlight that for you. Similarly, skip the ones who use the app to add the ears etc.; they are too immature for you. You have different senses of humor. Don't try to force a square peg into a round hole. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Let me explain the dog part. These women don't mean you have to love their dog, but you have to respect their pet, and mostly not complain about the fact that she will take her role as dog owner very seriously. She doesn't want any negative comments on the amount of money she'll spend on her dog, no comments on her emotional dependency toward her dog, no comments about her worries etc etc. I have a dog, my boyfriend is not a dog person but he acts kindly toward my dog, and he acts very responsible toward it. Now deep down my boyfriend thinks I am way too emotionally dependent on my dog but he lives with it and he keeps from making hurtful comments. I spend an obscene amount of money on my dog for medical care, quality food, daily dog walker. When we go away on weekends it's always a big deal to find someone I trust to take care of it, etc etc. Now, my boyfriend has a pretty good life with me, putting up with my dog isn't that bad compare to everything positive we get out of our relationship. . 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 (edited) Everyone is entitled to their preferences and to make said preferences known in advance so time isn't being wasted. Why get all into high dudgeon over it? Swipe left and keep it moving. Those women are telling lads up front before you invest the energy to swipe right that her dog ain't sleeping outside the bedroom, it's not going to be chained outside to a tree or put out all night long for you; and that they are a part of that dog's pack, so don't waste everyone's time ignoring this and trying to act brand new when you think pup needs to be shut up in a closet or put out in the yard. Edited October 2, 2019 by kendahke 5 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Just look at from a different perspective....they are limiting their own options and since there are so many on there, they must not having much luck with it either. So they are blocking themselves, not you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I'd probably avoid someone who said that. I love animals, but when people treat their pets like kids more than animals, I find that pretty sad and a bit creepy. I love my cat and take very good care of her. But she is and always will be an animal, not my "child". 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I think you're taking this a bit too seriously. It just means they like dogs, are around dogs, or own a dog and therefore if you don't like dogs then dating would be problematic. I wouldn't read any more into it. If you like dogs too then carry on. If not, next. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 To many people pets are very important, they love them they do not want to live without them and thus they know they are not going to be in and emotionally healthy relationship with a guy who is meh about or actually hates their pet. Dating is all about filtering out incompatibility. If that can be done at the profile stage then surely that is a bonus... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I think it's good to have that upfront. When I was dating, a lot of men didn't want my golden retriever around when over at my place. She snuggles with me on the couch and sleeps on the bed - sorry not sorry. There is dog hair involved. I actually bailed on a date with a guy who told me that dogs make him nervous - I knew it wasn't going to work because my golden is incredibly friendly and wants to be all over you the moment you walk in the door for the first few minutes. Other men thought they could "tolerate" my dog but then would want her put in the bedroom while we watched a movie or whatnot. Kendahke nailed it. Why would I treat my dog like that when chances were, the man wasn't going to be around long anyway? She's my best friend. I found a man who absolutely adores my golden, and now, we have two of them and we're a golden-loving family. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I’ve noticed an epidemic on dating sites with girls. The phrases “it ain’t gonna work if you don’t love dogs” or the title. The latest one was on hinge, I resisted the temptation to reply “why, are you a dog”?. I really like dogs. I’ve had a few I’ve “loved”. I don’t love other’s dogs. That would be weird. I do treat them as one should, with care for animals. It’s a common theme. What is it with this infantile digital obsession that one has to “love” dogs?. They used to say that about kids in the 1980's and early 90's. I remember seeing it all the time back then since I didn't have kids or want them. But the kids got replaced by dogs after they all started chasing the Golden Ring thought they were going to have kids and start a family in their late 30's or early 40's. I also remember a "Must love tattoos". That was back when women didn't have them plastered all over them like so many do now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I knew it wasn't going to work because my golden is incredibly friendly and wants to be all over you the moment you walk in the door for the first few minutes. This is bad animal behavior. It's not "friendly". It's RUDE. It's not OK for an animal to jump all over a person who doesn't welcome it. That dog needs to be trained to hold back unless the interaction is welcomed. I have old family friends with a little dog that used to jump all over you when you walked in, and it was extremely obnoxious. Before I learned how to deflect the dog, it scratched up my legs with its claws. They've since trained the dog not to do that - responsible dog owners. My cat is normally friendly with anyone who comes over, but when she's being moody, I don't even allow her to hiss or yowl at anybody. She's lucky as hell to have such a nice life as an animal, and I would never in a million years allow her to make a human feel unwelcome or uncomfortable in my home. I think it's completely ridiculous that people let their animals run the place like little dictators. It's bad for your guests, and it's bad for the dogs. Animals need to know that YOU are the alpha dog, and obnoxious behavior will not be tolerated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Well I take it you're not a dog person. Who said I let my dog jump on people?? She's incredibly polite. By "all over" I mean you come over and yes she's going to greet you and follow you around and expect to be pet. She's a member of the family. I'd prefer her company over most people's any day. But - you don't have to come over to my house. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I would date someone or be friends with someone who didn't like dogs, but I would never stay with them. It would be foolish. If you can't love a dog, there's something missing there. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I love dogs - but can't stand poorly behaved dogs and the people who fail to train them properly. Standing there hoping to be pet is not being "all over" someone. I know another family with two big dogs - one is "all over" you as soon as you walk in. The other is interested, but keeps a respectful distance as she waits and hopes for you to pet her. Guess which one I lavish with attention? The well-behaved one who doesn't force herself on me. And then as soon as the other one figures out that attacking me isn't going to get her anywhere, she backs off and I give her attention, too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 That's fine - but also probably another topic altogether. I personally don't care if a dog jumps on me. Gimme that sweet face. People just need to find their kind, I guess. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dramallama Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I would date someone or be friends with someone who didn't like dogs, but I would never stay with them. It would be foolish. If you can't love a dog, there's something missing there. Something missing? Really? I'm a cat person. I grew up with dogs and they're all right but the smell of dog makes me want to puke, I can't help it. I don't date dog owners, we're not right for each other :-) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 ...and I personally dislike cats. I hate the way they sh*t in a box in the house, kick litter all over the floor and then climb up on your counters. And heaven forbid you pet them wrong. OH YOU DID NOT JUST BITE ME CAT! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Say wuuuut? I’ve noticed an epidemic on dating sites with girls. The phrases “it ain’t gonna work if you don’t love dogs” or the title. The latest one was on hinge, I resisted the temptation to reply “why, are you a dog”?. I think you miss the point of statements like that, they do a couple of things.. one is she just told you she likes dogs and wouldn't fit with someone who doesn't.. so she weeded out 5% of the people who would reply to her.. but to the other 95% of the people who read her profile who do like dogs she just gave them a talking point to get to know her for when they hit her up.. dogs.. She made it easy peasy to hit reply now... as far as making a comment like "why... are you are dog ?" yikes.. that would show her you aren't for her and you missed the point of her profile. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 These «preferences» come from personal experience. I have dated someone who said they weren't a dog person and it turned out horribly. Owning a dog changes your lifestyle. I am lucky enough to have an off-leash park a short drive to where I live and I am there every single day after work. I’m usually home and ready for dinner at around 7pm. It would be nice to be with someone who isn’t annoyed by that – better yet comes along! Personally, I would much rather date someone who has a dog as well. I would probably not be a good match for someone who is obsessed with GOT. I have not watched a single episode... I really don’t see the difference between this and not wanting to date someone based on their weight. Some people would much rather be alone than with someone they are not compatible with. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 What is with you all, my LS friends? It's NOT about the dog. Of course preferences are important & you can't force somebody to love your animals. The problem is with the wording. When you read a profile that says "you must . . . " and then it goes on to list what the person deems essential, it's the tone & the word choice. It just screams bitterness. That is what potential matches need to see & screen against. The person posting has been hurt & is so defensive they will make a lousy partner because they are still upset from whatever previously went wrong. This is not a happy person open to love. There are well balanced polite ways to express a preference. "Don't bother dating me if you don't love ___ " is not a healthy way of expressing that. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 D0nnivain yes in a perfect world but we're only humans. I dated a man once that yelled at my dog and pushed him off the couch. I am sure afterwards I changed my profile with something that could have come across as 'close minded' or 'bitter'. Then the profile changed again and life went on. So she's still frustrated at someone that didn't treat her dog right, doesn't mean she isn't worth dating. OP won't know until he talks to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I get I do. I took my dog on my 4th date with my husband. If they hadn't gotten along, I would have kept the Dalmatian & ditched the guy. My point re: this post is that it's not the preference, it's how the preference gets expressed. If you read bitterness & damage from the profile just move on. If the same person comes up in your algorithm again & the profile isn't so spitfire, then you can give them a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Oh come on! Never heard of the movie "Must Love Dogs"? Pretty sure that was the title of a dating ad! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 Something missing? Really? I'm a cat person. I grew up with dogs and they're all right but the smell of dog makes me want to puke, I can't help it. I don't date dog owners, we're not right for each other :-) So obviously, as the thread topic is, you wouldn't want to try to date someone with dogs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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