Lotsgoingon Posted October 3, 2019 Share Posted October 3, 2019 (edited) I totally agree with d0nnivain Edited October 3, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maddie82 Posted October 3, 2019 Author Share Posted October 3, 2019 d0nnivain, you have everything so spot on. Yes you're right, it's work and not a boys night out and he said the exact same thing. We had and a proper talk about it tonight and he explained it all to me. Its all to do with a new expensive project that he's going to be in charge of. I feel better. As for plans for the night away, we're going to see if my stepson can come spend the night. Thank you for you comment because it made me realise that I'm just being foolish. He is a wonderful husband and father. I just hate it when he has to go away which thankfully is just once one in a blue moon. Link to post Share on other sites
Artdeco Posted October 3, 2019 Share Posted October 3, 2019 (edited) You need to look at this realistically. He goes on a business trip with his boss, who apparently is a partier, a drinker, a womanizer. And hell yes, the guy will check out the red light district. That’s what Amsterdam is known for, no matter how beautiful the “landscape“ (lol) is surrounding it. The question is will OP’s husband follow along? Will he be expected to? The thing about sex with other people is that it’s all about novelty. Doesn’t matter if it’s a hooker or a stripper or a decent woman. It’s a new experience, and if the odds are in your favor when it comes to (not) being found out.....you go for it. The fact that OP doesn’t trust him 100% based on what he did in the past, means that he probably did something untrustworthy. And I think I would be worried too, if I were a jealous person, and given her psychological issues, I totally understand how she’s insecure about it - Thing about business trips is that they’re also about bonding, not only about the business. And if you go with a boss who expects you to be all fun and games after the conference, just like he is, then you better follow along. If you don’t you’ll be frowned upon and you really don’t want that for your career. Duh! It’s also funny if you look at those locations. Conferences I mean the really big business conferences are always held in beautiful places like Las Vegas Palm Springs, cool European cities like Amsterdam and Berlin,… I mean these places make a lot of money by hosting people who travel there for “business” - especially because they are going out at night and having some fun. This is hardly a coincidence. I think many men cheat during those trips, because I mean who will find out? Nobody. And all the guys who join in, they are all in this together. Edited October 3, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Artdeco Posted October 3, 2019 Share Posted October 3, 2019 But anyways, generally speaking I would say that the more you put him under pressure and the more you make him promise he won’t do anything inappropriate, the more desperate/weak You will look, and the less he will listen to you. You really have no influence there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maddie82 Posted October 3, 2019 Author Share Posted October 3, 2019 But anyways – you need to look at this realistically. He goes on a business trip with his boss, who apparently is a partier, a drinker, a womaniser. His boss is not a womaniser. Likes to drink though. All of them are happily married with children. I blew it up out of proportion in my head because of my issues. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 3, 2019 Share Posted October 3, 2019 It's good that you're bringing it back down Maddie. I wonder if those who are turning it into a truly worst case scenario has helped you realise that it's not all you imagined. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 3, 2019 Share Posted October 3, 2019 But anyways, generally speaking I would say that the more you put him under pressure and the more you make him promise he won’t do anything inappropriate, the more desperate/weak You will look, and the less he will listen to you. You really have no influence there. I do agree with this. However, I do wonder what type of men you hang out with Artdeco Link to post Share on other sites
Artdeco Posted October 3, 2019 Share Posted October 3, 2019 I do agree with this. However, I do wonder what type of men you hang out with Artdeco Hahaha! I guess I’ve just seen a lot, traveled a lot, and yes, I know men quite well. They’re not too hard to figure out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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