Ruby Slippers Posted October 4, 2019 Share Posted October 4, 2019 But to imply that middle age is the source of ill health or fading beauty is incorrect. Human beings were meant to exercise. I totally agree. I know plenty of men and women post-40, post-50, even post-60 who are still in great shape. My parents are two of them - both still lean and fit even post-70. People's health and physique decline usually because of their attitude and habits around health and fitness - that is, "Well, I'm over 40/50/60 now, gettin' old, time to throw in the towel." Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 4, 2019 Share Posted October 4, 2019 Well, I'm in Texas, and I'm having trouble thinking of a guy over 35 that I know who didn't have somewhat of a beer gut. You can't always tell until they're undressed, but it's there. Over 40, my last expectation would be that they person would still have the body of a 25 year old. Now, my old flame was still about the same from neck down at 55, but he was simply genetically blessed. He also did do 30 pushups before bed, but he never worked out at the gym that I know of. But he was just lucky. I think people who look good middle aged are mostly lucky they're able to stay that way with minimum effort because of their genes. I just don't see making perfect looks your priority when you are 40 and dating because I guarantee, you don't look the same as you did when young either. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 4, 2019 Share Posted October 4, 2019 I totally agree. I know plenty of men and women post-40, post-50, even post-60 who are still in great shape. My parents are two of them - both still lean and fit even post-70. People's health and physique decline usually because of their attitude and habits around health and fitness - that is, "Well, I'm over 40/50/60 now, gettin' old, time to throw in the towel." at least 50% of it is due to good genes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 4, 2019 Share Posted October 4, 2019 It's not like the beer gut is going to disappear by Friday night, so either you figure out a way to work with it or you tell him you're not attracted to his gut. Don't use him for quirky, expensive dates if you feel this way about him. That would be unfair of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 4, 2019 Share Posted October 4, 2019 but most women l found had bigger bellies than most men and bums legs twice the size they should be. I'm going to guess that they have had babies, who are notorious for stretching out the belly muscles (Diastasis recti--and only a tummy tuck will repair those muscles--no amount of exercise will bring those muscles back together) and increasing the size of the butt, depending upon the DNA of the woman. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 4, 2019 Share Posted October 4, 2019 beer bellies can be endearing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 How big’s the beer gut? is it too big that it’s a deal breaker? It sounds like he’s checked 9 out of 10 in your grocery list except for the beer gut and he probably finds something in you physically as well so hey, nobody’s perfect. When I meet somebody I can either choose to nitpick on someone’s physical characteristics down to every detail or see the person as a total package and overlook a minor feature. If you want someone with a six pack be careful, in fitness most people suffer from body dysmorphia, and be incredibly insecure and a womanizer so you’re back to square one. In a long term relationship you’re gonna have to overlook some things about a person if it’s not serious ie. major character, or personality deficiency, drugs, alcohol etc..you’ll eventually have to give and find something you can live with for the rest of your life because like I said, nobody’s perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 Thought of this thread yesterday. l was in a shop trying on clothes , l only hope the mirror was a bit off l've had what l like for years , just a bit of a plump belly but not really a pot. But the last few mths l've let my sweet tooth get the better of me and l've been enjoying some serious pigging out. Ooops, it's def' time to stop that again. l usually get it off pretty easily but eh, l'm getting older and by the look of that mirror l'm gonna have to work at it this time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 I haven't posted here in over half a decade, and yet somehow one of the first posts I see upon my return is from our OP, who was posting quite similar threads all the way back then (and way before that as well). I almost feel like I've stepped into a time warp. Anyway, the best response I can give is that if you aren't looking for anything "too committed", I don't see any reason to make yourself less shallow, at least when it comes to this particular guy. If you aren't looking for long term commitment, I'm not sure why you would feel compelled to overlook a physical defect you find unattractive. I can't imagine there are no men in your age range who don't have beer guts. You could also just date younger. And for those who remember me, hope you've all been well 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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