What Are Some Signs That A Woman Likes You And Doesn't Like You?

[carhill]

Since you guys have given me some good advice in the past, I was wondering how do you tell whether or not a girl is interested, or whether or not she's trying to blow you off?

Women are usually great at blowing off guys, especially if they're used to being hit on. They just give the guy the 'look' and all but the most clueless move on. My wife was an expert at that, even though she was a tiny thing. There were times I thought she was going to rip the guy's nutsack off. Growing up with three older brothers hardened her to men. Brutal.

I know some of the signs a woman is NOT interested, but that's usually only after I ask them out on a date. They're either too busy to meet up, try inviting other people along when I asked them out.....

You're on it. Kudos.

It's also hard to tell whether or not a girl is interested through text.

Tip from my personal experience. They'll be interested in your life and remember things you share with them. That means they're making emotional memories. We all do that, presuming we don't naturally have a photographic memory. You'll sense a goal, usually getting together because a woman who really likes a man likes to be with him, one, and doesn't want any other woman around him, two. Territorial behavior 101

Another thing that's hard is telling whether or not you're talking to a girl and she's actually interested, or she's simply being friendly. I really have no friggin clue! If a girl has a boyfriend, then she's likely just being friendly.

If things go matter-of-fact, she's friendly. If she's flirting and especially making references, sometimes a bit crude/naughty, bonus. Friends discuss topics. Lovers fck.

Because iv'e never been successful with women, I don't know what actual attraction looks like.

It'll generally remain a bit of a mystery and IMO that's good, keeps things interesting. However, there will be continuity. Desire to continue interaction.

I'm just assuming that nearly 99% of women I meet arne't going to be attracted to me, and the few that actually are attracted are the women that I don't want anyways. So I guess i'm going to wind up being a 30 year old virgin.

You can assume that but I'd suggest a different approach, that every woman has a 50/50 finding you attractive and go with that. When I was your age I was still a virgin but that was due to wanting to wait for a solid LTR or being married. I dated and socialized. Not a top drawer prospect but solid and reliable. That kinda limits attraction. If you're solid and reliable, work on being more 'out there'. Stretch a bit. That's stimulating and can enable more 'like' of you.

[mark clemson]

Interesting. I am pretty sure I come across as attractive when "cleaned up" (which is most of the time as I work etc). I like to flirt and frankly am a bit of an attention wh*re and so tend to note how women appear to be reacting to me.

 

Based on my observations, I'd say that roughly 10-15% of women appear (casually/superficially) interested in me (which is the initial starting point of any romantic interaction).

 

That may not sound like much. However it's actually a huge number of women. I live near a major urban center. The local police district covers some 300,000+ people. That means on the low end of my estimate 10% of 150,000 women is on the order of 15,000 potential women just in my local neighborhoods alone.

 

If you take the whole greater area, it's more like 5+ M people, so 10% of 2.5 M or 250,000+ potential women. WAY more than one could even meet casually in a normal lifetime.

 

I recognize OP is at a different stage of life than me, so more women may be "looking" and a different perspective might be appropriate; but I thought I'd share my thoughts on this for perspective and to give OP some idea of the numbers that can be in play once you hit full adulthood and have the resources and freedoms that go with that. Of course, you really only ultimately need to meet one good one.

[mark clemson]

Minor follow up to the above:

 

I recall being told by a female friend a few years back that "I don't know how good I am" and "I could have any woman I want." Neither of her statements were true. Particularly the second one is NEVER true for anyone in my view. Only unrealistic people with narcissistic tendencies would ever think that way.

[mr_ybor]

There were times I thought she was going to rip the guy's nutsack off. Growing up with three older brothers hardened her to men. Brutal

 

I know too many guys who harbor iron to believe in tough girls, including myself.

[LuckyM]

Normal Person has a great list.

However, this doesn't always mean she doesn't like you--rather she is apathetic toward you, indifferent... She might say something snippy and walk away. She might run down the stairs, literally.

She might think: go away, get lost, who cares?

 

Strangers are generally indifferent to each other, apathetic, unless given a reason or feeling not to be apathetic. The rest of the time girls are being nice or not nice to get rid of you. And you feel like you have an anti magnetic force field around you, personna non grata. You need to give them a good reason to sincerely like you

Her wide open eyes signal interest. Or a look over you.

[alphamale]

if she throws a glass full of liquid in your face SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU. I learned this the hard way.

[SumGuy]

But if she throws the water on your shirt and just has to wash it for you, she likes you