Author Ias61489 Posted February 8, 2020 Author Share Posted February 8, 2020 23 minutes ago, schlumpy said: How do you think she is going to afford her new residence if she shares that with you? Yeah well to bad for her. She blew through all the savings... well according to her anyway and she doesn't seem to wanna share anything else. I got her to give me some money towards the car insurance which was so nice of her!!! not. She will be getting all the tax returns until I work since I don't file under workers comp. So at least 10k a year. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 9, 2020 Share Posted February 9, 2020 Both of you will have to work more. A lot of people work extra. It's not the end of the world. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ias61489 Posted February 21, 2020 Author Share Posted February 21, 2020 Nothing new really has of yet besides asking me for stuff still. Vaccum, mixing bowls etc etc complaining that I get to keep the nice pots and pans and all this expensive stuff and she doesn't get any of it.... I haven't given her anything. Her stuff is out of the house for the most part and she's moved into her new place which I have one to find out is a 1 bedroom with an extra loft area that she turned into a play area for the kids at a price tag of $1500 a month. Today she stated she had some financial documents at her lawyer office and needs me to provide her with the taxes from last year. I will be calling my layer first before I do that. On the plus side I did pick up a used Toyota 4runner so I can get rid of my car payment. Needs a little work but its clean and from the original owner plus low miles for the year. Now just gotta figure out how to get rid of the other one! My response has been signed and sent to her lawyer so not sure how long it takes once they get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ias61489 Posted February 21, 2020 Author Share Posted February 21, 2020 Oh and Ill add while she's asking me for all this stuff stilll saying she can't afford to buy new stuff she has a new MK bag, got a $50 piece of wall art off amazon (we share the account) and keeps buying the kids new toys and stuff. They like to tell me about the stuff of course lol When she saw my other car in the driveway she asked me when I'm getting rid of my Pilot so it can be off her credit report so I asked her to refinance hers so it can be off mine and she said she cant right now because she has a bunch of medical debt from the kids on there and it dropped her credit, so until she clears that up she cant... Since I set up the account on experian for her I checked and she has 2 past due medical bills to the tune of $190 one of which she already paid off. Her credit cards are nearly maxed out which is why the credit took a hit aswell. Went from 715 in august when we were together and barely any debt to 624. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 24, 2020 Share Posted February 24, 2020 Why are you still talking to her about this stuff? I suggest you embrace the phrase "talk to the hand, cos the face ain't listening" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ias61489 Posted February 25, 2020 Author Share Posted February 25, 2020 22 hours ago, PegNosePete said: Why are you still talking to her about this stuff? I suggest you embrace the phrase "talk to the hand, cos the face ain't listening" In terms of wanting stuff I don't respond, In terms of the car thing I just said eventually and that was it. This was just in the few min while getting kids out of the car. She still asks about things she wants I just ignore her. Speaking of communication and what not.... I'm a bit of a nerd for Jurassic park, Back to the future, Ghostbusters etc etc.... Anyway She's nice when about kids (most of the time) can be nasty about most other things, sorta nice in person but its always quick interactions just hand offs of children really. Yesterday she texted me out of nowhere she was at walmart with the kids. Sent me a picture of the Ghostbusters car. Its a kit to build it. Was $45 on clearance for half that. She asked if I wanted it ( of course i did lol) So she got it for me and I transferred the money to her. Of course I said yes for it but just confuses me why she would be nice and do that idk... Just venting something that has been floating around my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ias61489 Posted March 3, 2020 Author Share Posted March 3, 2020 So if anyone has read this you know that about 6 months prior to my wife leaving I found out she was having what I would call an emotional affair with someone in the union for her job. He's almost 70 and my wife just turned 30 so I didn't think anything was going on sexual but like an idiot I tried to understand but I still let her know how I felt about to which she said its just s friendship and it doesn't matter that she didn't tell me etc etc.. Anyway today I picked my son up from school (broken leg so in a wheelchair currently) and his mom picked up our daughter. I met hers she could take him to a dentist appt and we were chatting while we waited for her.. He was telling me about how they went to the diner and an ice cream place with mommies friend from work (he didn't remember the name) he said it was the second time they went out with him. I called out some names because I was curious who it was and of course it was the guy that she had the EA with. I texted her after just to see what she would say and of course got defensive and just said a friend helping her with something. Turns out he drove an hour from his home to meet her other drs office so he could sit with the kids and watch them while she went in then they ate and had the ice cream and according to her the last time he just wanted to join them for ice cream. I got kinda heated about this really for many reasons and still am.... Curious what other peoples take on it is Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ias61489 Posted March 3, 2020 Author Share Posted March 3, 2020 Maybe I'm wrong to feel mad by this idk Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted March 4, 2020 Share Posted March 4, 2020 You're not wrong to feel mad. You are reacting to the knowledge that this is most likely more than an EA when you had convinced yourself it was just an EA because of their difference in age (I believe.) Unfortunately, it is a delayed reaction to events that are already water under the bridge. She moved out and is moving on with her life. Your only contact with her now should be for the benefit of your children. Otherwise, no contact whatsoever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ias61489 Posted March 4, 2020 Author Share Posted March 4, 2020 5 hours ago, vla1120 said: You're not wrong to feel mad. You are reacting to the knowledge that this is most likely more than an EA when you had convinced yourself it was just an EA because of their difference in age (I believe.) Unfortunately, it is a delayed reaction to events that are already water under the bridge. She moved out and is moving on with her life. Your only contact with her now should be for the benefit of your children. Otherwise, no contact whatsoever. Yes I was mad about that... and yes i had thoughts about contacting the guys wife which wouldn't be a good idea I know. What is really getting to me is that they were left alone with this person for any length of time when they dont know him. I dont care that it is a dr office. Link to post Share on other sites
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