Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Share Posted October 19, 2019 the cycle of cheating on you has already started. Why has it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 19, 2019 Author Share Posted October 19, 2019 If he's getting his money from her then God knows what he's doing to get it. What do you mean? Like having sex with her for money? Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 Like having sex with her for money? Yeah. She loves him and likely makes him earn it with sexual favors. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) Yeah. She loves him and likely makes him earn it with sexual favors. Is that not basically like prostitution? Thats a bit weird isnt it? Edited October 20, 2019 by Lucyjane86 Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) @Lucyjane86 I know nothing about that. But she loves him and will likely get him any way she can. It's not weird. They have a history, we're engaged and have children. They will always have something between them. Edited October 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 @Lucyjane86 I know nothing about that. It's not weird./QUOTE] But it was you that said it? And surely her paying him for sex would be weird if that was what was happening? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 Why has it? He has already started the cycle of cheating on you by talking about their sex life together, by planning weekends together, vacations together. He has already started brainwashing you that it's entirely for the children that she'll stay over with the kids. Do you know any seperated couples that continue staying at each other's place for the sake of kids? No. At 1 and 2 years old these babies need their own beds, they need a routine and need that routine be respected as much as possible. You don't have babies that age do 'sleep over' at dads. Link to post Share on other sites
dramallama Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 @Lucyjane86 I know nothing about that. It's not weird./QUOTE] But it was you that said it? And surely her paying him for sex would be weird if that was what was happening? It's unlikely that he's literally prostituting himself, but if she gives him money he's beholden to her, which makes it harder to rebuff her advances etc. I think that's what people are getting at. But either way - this man is NOT A GOOD BET. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 Lucy: As he borrowed money from you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 He has already started the cycle of cheating on you by talking about their sex life together, by planning weekends together, vacations together. He has already started brainwashing you that it's entirely for the children that she'll stay over with the kids. Do you know any seperated couples that continue staying at each other's place for the sake of kids? No. At 1 and 2 years old these babies need their own beds, they need a routine and need that routine be respected as much as possible. You don't have babies that age do 'sleep over' at dads. Lucy: As he borrowed money from you? They didnt stay in the end. But they were out together for about 12 hours and are out at his parents together today. He was texing me on and off all day though. No hes never borrowed money from me. I pay for things sometimes and so does he Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 are out at his parents together today. And you don't think it's unusual that they continue acting like they're a couple? Why can't he take his 2 kids on his own and visit his parents? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) And you don't think it's unusual that they continue acting like they're a couple? Why can't he take his 2 kids on his own and visit his parents? I dont know. Maybe she wont let him? Or he doesnt feel like he could manage on his own? Or it could be because its for one of the childrens birthdays? I dont think theyre acting like theyre still a couple, they hardly see eachother normally and i dont think theres any kind of affection. And his parents know they have split up Edited October 20, 2019 by Lucyjane86 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 He has already started the cycle of cheating on you by talking about their sex life together, by planning weekends together, vacations together. He has already started brainwashing you that it's entirely for the children that she'll stay over with the kids. Do you know any seperated couples that continue staying at each other's place for the sake of kids? No. At 1 and 2 years old these babies need their own beds, they need a routine and need that routine be respected as much as possible. You don't have babies at that age do 'sleep over' at dads. There are beds at his place for the children still but they were only going to have been staying for the convenience as he lives closer to the place they went yesterday and to his parents place for today. But he told her it wasnt a good idea. I think the plans to take the children away have also been cancelled. And he wasnt really talking about their sex life. She was Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 What do you relationship consider deal-breakers, Lucy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 What do you relationship consider deal-breakers, Lucy? Cheating. Lying. Physical or mental abuse. Things like that. But thats what im saying, i dont know that hes lying and it was her talking about sex. Not him. So im not sure that counts as cheating.. Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) I think the plans to take the children away have also been cancelled. And he wasnt really talking about their sex life. She was There will be other trips that they will plan. And yes he did talk about the great sex they has together. He acknowledged that it was great between them. You can justify his behavior all you want if it makes you feel better. You just don't want to acknowledge the truth. You will realise we were right eventually. Edited October 20, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 And yes he did talk about the great sex they has together. He acknowledged that it was great between them. Thats all he said though. That it was good? He didnt go into any details like she did. Surely hes allowed to have memories? And they were together for years so you would assume from that that he must have enjoyed the sex. So is it really that bad for him to say that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 Hes just shared a post on social media that has the quote "alot men and women stay single because they are tires of giving everything and ending up with nothing". Why would he post something like that when hes not single? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 Cheating. Lying. Physical or mental abuse. Things like that. But thats what im saying, i dont know that hes lying and it was her talking about sex. Not him. So im not sure that counts as cheating.. So you're not sure if this man is a cheat and a liar. Let me refresh your memory. Post 7: yes i would say he emotionally cheated as we were talking for sometime before he ended things with her Post 29: also i didnt like 1, his temper, 2 the fact he was given plenty of chances and still chose to lie and hide me away from her, and 3 the way he twisted as though she was the one in the wrong. Post 34: He was then messaging her for hours, even though he said he wasnt Post 82: and talking about how down hes feeling with his anxiety and depression...That he is actually depressed but wanted me to think he was happy Post 84: Even asked him if there was soneone else and he said no. Post: 353 And he told her the other day that he couldnt see the children because he was working but he was with me. That was before he actually told her about me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) @Gaeta.... I can see the lying and cheating there. But only a minor part was to me. Nearly all of that is what he has done to her, not me Edited October 21, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 Hes just shared a post on social media that has the quote "alot men and women stay single because they are tires of giving everything and ending up with nothing". Why would he post something like that when hes not single? Because staying single is better than his current life choices. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 Because staying single is better than his current life choices. But hes not single? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 He thinks that being single would be better than his current life choices. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) In what way? Edited October 21, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 Less drama, less demands, more freedom, more sleeping around, not having to answer to anyone, not having to tell someone what your plans are..... there are a mountain of reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
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