Legatus Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 @Lucyjane86 yes he did, but from then on he wouldn't say a word about you. He managed to get her to be jealous enough to chase him but not too much so that she would back out. With you he doesn't care. Again - makes sense.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Lucy: He told her he was seeing someone so she would chase him longer and harder don't you understand? He knows she wants her back so he's not in a hurry to say yes to her, he wants to enjoy her chasing him and enjoy having sex with you at the same time. Why is that hard for you to understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Now let me simplify something for you: Him telling her he is seeing 'someone' makes her want to chase him harder. Him telling her he is seeing Lucyjane from work and he loves her and wants to be with her would make her stop chasing him for good. He's not gonna do that because he doesn't want her to stop chasing him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 He doesnt want her to stop chasing him because its good for his ego, because he wants her as a back up option oe because he actually intends to go back to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 YOU are the back up option. She's the one he wants, he just wants to enjoy the ego flattering before going back for good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 I think he doesn't even know the answer to that question. He could change his mind 50 times a minute. Regardless of that it's quite clear how differently he handled your feelings and hers. What he wants is irrelevant. With that kind of game it will eventually catch up with him and he'll end up with nothing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 That and she'd probably stop giving him money if she knew he was boning a girl from the bar. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 With that kind of game it will eventually catch up with him and he'll end up with nothing What game? And so you think that in a way hes just punishing her for going away. That he felt neglected, hence looking elsewhere, so thats why he feels the need to make her chase after him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 That and she'd probably stop giving him money if she knew he was boning a girl from the bar. Do you think thats what it is? That he doesnt tell her so as to be able to keep asking for money? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 What game? And so you think that in a way hes just punishing her for going away. That he felt neglected, hence looking elsewhere, so thats why he feels the need to make her chase after him? I don't know where you get those conclusions. He cheated on her because he's a cheater. He cheated on her SEVERAL TIMES. She didn't need to be away for him to cheat on her. He makes her chase him because he ENJOYS IT, end of story. Nothing behind it. She has been nothing but a good girlfriend to him as per everyone around, he has no reasons to take revenge on her. He is just enjoying it because he's a jerk! . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 He cheated on her because he's a cheater. He cheated on her SEVERAL TIMES. She didn't need to be away for him to cheat on her . How do you know that he cheated several times? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 You said yourself in one of your posts that they were fighting because of GIRLS. I am not digging it out of your 38 pages thread. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 I dont think he cheated before. I think he was just getting with other girls before they got together properly. I know they knew eachother for some time before they started a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Theyre saying now that him and his ex have been through loads together before they even got together, him getting with other girls, him having problems with alcohol and money, his anger issues and his depression and anxiety, Against all odds I found one of your post talking about other women. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Do you think thats what it is? That he doesnt tell her so as to be able to keep asking for money? Does all of this really matter? Does this relationship make you happy? It shouldn't matter WHY she sends him money. Doesn't that bother you??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Yeah that was before they were together Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 It shouldn't matter WHY she sends him money. Doesn't that bother you??? Doesnt what bother me? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 The problem you have is that you do not have the full story, you have the bits of it he allows you to know. Yes he told her he was seeing someone else, you saw that, but maybe he then told her it wasn't true he only said it to hurt her as he was angry... You don't have full access to what he tells her. Other women on here have had men pledge undying love only for him to have spent all his time trying to sweet talk his wife into taking him back... You are on the outside looking in. God knows where his head is really at? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 That and because im reading and replying to everyones comments Why don't you make him stop texting his ex and ask him all of the questions you are asking here on LS? Don't you want to spend time with him and find out what is going on between them? He knows better than anyone here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Its not like hes going to tell me if there is anything going on. Youve all told me nothing he says is true Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Better yet, why don't you show him this thread to let him know how confused you are about what is going on with them? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Its not like hes going to tell me if there is anything going on. Youve all told me nothing he says is true So you believe us over the man you love? Interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Well it seems a pretty unaminous vote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 So have you told him you brought your problem on line and the vote is unanimous? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 No. I havent. Link to post Share on other sites
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