Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 OP, does he use the money he manipulates from his baby's momma to take you out on dates? Or is it to pay his bills... I dont know what he uses it for Quote
Maddie82 Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) Too many secrets and lies where he is concerned. Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
ExpatInItaly Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 I think this guy will eventually move on to another woman altogether. Not you, not his baby mama. He’s too immature too uncommitted for the sort of relationship you and she both want. Don’t get pregnant, whatever you do. Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 Too many secrets and lies where he is concerned. Why would he tell me everything he spends his money on? Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 I think this guy will eventually move on to another woman altogether. Not you, not his baby mama. He’s too immature too uncommitted for the sort of relationship you and she both want. Don’t get pregnant, whatever you do. I dont intend to. And he was in a commited relationship with her for years, they were engaged. So surely hes not afraid of commitment? Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) I have yes. Not for awhile though as i was focusing on my studies while at uni and not dating Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
elaine567 Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 I dont intend to. And he was in a commited relationship with her for years, they were engaged. So surely hes not afraid of commitment? I would guess a fear of commitment is exactly the issue here. It has caused him to run out on his very young kids. Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 I would guess a fear of commitment is exactly the issue here. It has caused him to run out on his very young kids. So you think hes just wanting to have abit of fun. That he'll go back to them once hes ready to comnit again? Quote
stillafool Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 When they argue though its like really bad. He gets so angry. Wouldnt he just not argue with her if he still felt something? This is the passion they feel for each other. If he no longer felt anything for her he would be indifferent to her. He's not. Their arguments make them want to hash it out between the sheets. Quote
stillafool Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 I think this guy will eventually move on to another woman altogether. Not you, not his baby mama. He’s too immature too uncommitted for the sort of relationship you and she both want. Don’t get pregnant, whatever you do. Yep, this is normally what happens. Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 This is the passion they feel for each other. If he no longer felt anything for her he would be indifferent to her. He's not. Their arguments make them want to hash it out between the sheets. So them arguing actually means he does feel something? Not that he doesnt? What if the argument was about him seeing or not seeing the children? Quote
Maddie82 Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) Regardless of the topic, their arguments indicate the passion between them. I'll spell it out for you. She loves him, he probably still loves her but he's being alouf with her at the moment while he enjoys the chase. He's using you. Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed 1 Quote
ExpatInItaly Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 I dont intend to. And he was in a commited relationship with her for years, they were engaged. So surely hes not afraid of commitment? So committed that he doesn’t live with her or his children? So committed that he started something with you while he was still engaged to her, and she was away attending to family? Please. This dude doesn’t know the true meaning of the word “commitment.” I don’t think and didn’t say he was afraid of commitment. I think he doesn’t want a true commitment. Big difference. This guy is not done dipping his wick yet. You and she will both realize this the hard way. 1 Quote
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 Lucy: Don't you see how much of a loser this guy is? When you introduce him to you mom you'll say what? here is my new boyfriend, he's 25 and does dishes in a bar for work, he has 2 babies with a woman but he doesn't financially help her, he also cheated on her with me. Sometimes he spends the weekends together but it's ok I know he resists her when she wants him in bed with her...I love him so much mom don't you think he's amazing??? 1 Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) Hes a cook. And they arent spending weekends together, well not with her staying overnight. They fo have plans for both days this weekend but thats only because its one of the childrens birthdays so they are going out one day and to his parents house the other day Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 Lets do this again. Why do you want to date a man that just had 2 babies and doesn't financially support them? Not only he doesn't financially support them but she gives HIM money! What does it say about his character? Where do you see yourself in 1 year with this guy? You play step mom at 23? You spend your weekends changing diapers and running to MacDonald? You randomly check his phone to make sure they're not sleeping together? What beautiful future can he give you? 2 Quote
Versacehottie Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 Ok, i've popped in and out of this thread. It seems like you will justify anything to "keep the relationship". At the same time, it's already making you paranoid and suspicious and your mind is on overdrive. All i can say is when you've wasted weeks, months, years on this guy and damaged your self-esteem, come back to read this thread and it will sink in what you've have done to yourself. At this point, it's you doing it to yourself. You want to stay blind and put your head in the sand, this is the way to do it. 1 Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) So literally everyone thinks that hes not over her and will go back? Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
Versacehottie Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 Without having a crystal ball, i think it's a strong possibility. What is more worrying (since people can't predict the future), is how you alone are behaving in a relationship with this man. It's not a good dynamic or pattern, particularly the paranoia and justifying everything he does even when alarm bells are going off in your head like crazy. It doesn't mean that he's the only one in the wrong but you guys don't seem to be good together. Maybe it's how you are built to be anxious and this situation is bringing out the worst. Anyway, it's not good and it's a likely possibility that he will do that so it's a lose/lose for you. If my crystal ball is working, i think you will hang in there anyway as evidence by your justifying techniques and have to learn the hard way but maybe i'm wrong. Quote
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 EVEN if he was over her, you should know it's a bad idea to get involved with a cheater and a man not financially supporting his 2 babies! He is not reliable, he's bad with money, he lies, he's not taking his responsibilities seriously. Why do you pick someone like that for boyfriend? Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 Without having a crystal ball, i think it's a strong possibility. What is more worrying (since people can't predict the future), is how you alone are behaving in a relationship with this man. It's not a good dynamic or pattern, particularly the paranoia and justifying everything he does even when alarm bells are going off in your head like crazy. It doesn't mean that he's the only one in the wrong but you guys don't seem to be good together. Maybe it's how you are built to be anxious and this situation is bringing out the worst. Anyway, it's not good and it's a likely possibility that he will do that so it's a lose/lose for you. If my crystal ball is working, i think you will hang in there anyway as evidence by your justifying techniques and have to learn the hard way but maybe i'm wrong. Im not justifying. Im just asking as everyone seems to have very different views to me Quote
Maddie82 Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) Everyone has the same view, that this guy is no good and still hung up on the mother of his babies. Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) And theres nothing in everything ive said that would suggest otherwise? Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
Maddie82 Posted October 18, 2019 Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) No. The more you tell us the worse he comes off. Edited October 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Quote
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