Versacehottie Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 We're spending today together aswell but again hes told jer hes working all day instead of saying hes with me Um so he's hiding his REAL time with you from her. You are the side chick. Sorry, this sounds like an affair. If it is not a straight up one bc he's not married, it's as close to it as one gets--he's emotionally WITH her, not you. That's why the dialogue on this thread is reminiscent of those on the Other woman threads..... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 I agree with Gaeta. Plus it's never a good idea to date people you work with. If you break up it's always awkward having to see them every day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 atleast i would be if i knew his talking to her meant nothing We're spending today together aswell Looks like today is your lucky day. You can ask him all the questions you keep asking us--he's the only one with the answers and you get to see him today. Make good use of your time. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Yeah i stay over night sometimes. Not as often now though. When we first started seeing eachother i would stay almost every night. Now ill stay a couple of times a week. He seems just as happy for me to go home now. Ive finished uni now. I dont know what money he spends He texts her just as much as she texts him as far as i can tell. From what i saw when i looked on his phone that time he texts her alot when we arent together and says hes working or fell asleep or something if he doesnt reply because he was with me. Why would he need to make her jealous when she already told him she wanted him back? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Who cares? Are you going to ask him all of these questions today when you see him to get some clarity as to what is going on with the two of them. I hope you aren't planning to just spy on his phone, are you? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Do you live home with your parents or do you have your own place? Has he also finished university? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Who cares? Who cares what? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 I live with parents. He never went to uni No i wont be spying on his phone. And im with him now Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Why would he need to make her jealous when she already told him she wanted him back? This wasn't related to my questions but someone else's statement to you. So I don't know. i'm sure the answer is buried somewhere in this long thread though. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 I live with parents. He never went to uni No i wont be spying on his phone. And im with him now Really? Then why are you on LoveShack instead of spending time with your man? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Why would he need to make her jealous when she already told him she wanted him back? Because he enjoys seeing her making all these efforts, it flatters his ego. He wants her to think he's not 100% on board with her yet so she continues chasing him. He enjoys it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Really? Then why are you on LoveShack instead of spending time with your man? Because he's texting his ex..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 That and because im reading and replying to everyones comments Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Um so he's hiding his REAL time with you from her. You are the side chick. Sorry, this sounds like an affair. If it is not a straight up one bc he's not married, it's as close to it as one gets--he's emotionally WITH her, not you. That's why the dialogue on this thread is reminiscent of those on the Other woman threads..... What do you mean by real time? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 And im with him now Then get off the internet and ask him your questions. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 (edited) ... him and his ex have been through loads together before they even got together, him getting with other girls, him having problems with alcohol and money, his anger issues and his depression and anxiety, the pregnancy, which apparently he told her to abort or she'd never see or hear from him again, and even through everything, no matter whats happened between them, he always finds his way back to her Uh huh. So, masochist? Edited October 22, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator unproductive to topic 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Ive just noticed that not only does he tell her that hes at work but he alwaya has his location showing on his snapchat map but hes turned it off today. Im guessing he does that when hes with me so as she cant see where he is and see that hes not actually at work. Why go to such lengths to stop her from knowing hes with me. And if hes going to such lengths then why tell her he was seeing someone in the first place? It makes no sense Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 (edited) Uh huh. So, masochist? Uh huh? What do you mean? Edited October 22, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 ... Why go to such lengths to stop her from knowing hes with me. And if hes going to such lengths then why tell her he was seeing someone in the first place? It makes no sense Or - and hear me out, it makes perfect sense. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Perfect sense? Why? Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Uh huh? What do you mean? Just processing the information you are presenting. I guess many if not all of us reading this thread are curious why you would do this to yourself (accepting a guy like this as your BF). I think it makes absolutely zero sense to many if not most of us. So we wonder. Sometimes when you're unable to stop the trainwreck from happening you have little choice but simply to observe it and marvel at its unlikely progress. Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 He doesn't mind you knowing he's with her but he shields the fact he's with you from her. Can you see why it makes sense? Because that's exactly what he wants to achieve.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 (edited) But why tell her about us to only to then try and shield her from it? Maybe hes scared she wont let him see the children? Edited October 22, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 It makes no sense Yes it makes sense, like we've been saying 10000 times, he told her he was seeing someone just to make her chase him more because he enjoys it. He will get his ego flattered for a while before getting back with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 But thats what i dont understand. Shes already been trying to get him back? Thats why he told her he was seeing someone. Link to post Share on other sites
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