Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Im not deliberately trying to be anything. I dont mean to come across as if i am. Im just struggling to piece everything together and sometimes some of the commenta dont make sense to me either because i havent made things clear enough or because i am not taking them correctly Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Sure he told you that Lucy but we all know he's a liar and has no problems lying to her and to you so......when you answer us with *he told me* it has very little value. So you dont believe he could have fallen out of love with her in that time? So he ended things purely because of me? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 In not defending anything. Im just looking at every angle. And trying to clarify things How many more angles do you need to see what's falling out in experience at your feet? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 So he ended things purely because of me? NO, you are not that important to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Im not deliberately trying to be anything. I dont mean to come across as if i am. Im just struggling to piece everything together and sometimes some of the commenta dont make sense to me either because i havent made things clear enough or because i am not taking them correctly Let me give you a clue: if you end a post with a question and the next poster says it doesn't matter, then you refer to the question you just asked. Likewise, if someone writes a two sentence response, the question you are about to ask about one sentence is probably answered in their other sentence. You'll be far less confused on the thread if you stop and think before shooting off questions. All that said, you've got a heap of randoms with different thoughts and ideas. You will never get consensus from everyone. What you need to do is take all our different thoughts, go away and THINK ABOUT IT. Until you learn to use the commonsense you were born with, you will continue to fail at this. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 That can’t be true - and he is a KNOWN liar. He certainly isn’t emotionally detached from her NOW - so that tells me he isn’t detached from her now. I’d bet money if you asked her - he didn’t end it. Im just going on what he told me. He definitely ended it, ive seen the texts And why is it that he isnt emotionally detatched from her now? Because they talk to eachother still? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 He doesn't look particularly good He has no money what so ever Works a dead-end job Lies to his ex, lies to OP, lies to his employer Cheats Has anger issues Depression issues What's left? He must be damn good in bed. . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Lucy re your post #613. Enough with the repeated questions. Learn to think for yourself!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 NO, you are not that important to him. So if he didnt end it to be with me and he hadnt fallen out of love with her, then what other reason could he have ended it for? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Lucy re your post #613. Enough with the repeated questions. Learn to think for yourself!! But im interested in knowing why people have the opinions that they do Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Im just going on what he told me. He definitely ended it, ive seen the texts And why is it that he isnt emotionally detatched from her now? Because they talk to eachother still? Lucy, supposedly he is right there in the room with you and has been all day according to you, so why haven't you asked him these questions? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 So if he didnt end it to be with me and he hadnt fallen out of love with her, then what other reason could he have ended it for? Manipulation. You never heard of people breaking up over a disagreement just to manipulate the other person in getting something. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 But im interested in knowing why people have the opinions that they do Almost all posters have already explained why they believe what they do. Look back through their posting history for context if you need a better understanding of their latest comment. Again, you're either being super lazy or deliberately obtuse. You've allegedly been to university. If a lecturer said something on Monday and referred to it again on Wednesday, would you ask them what was behind Wednesday's thought? I surely hope not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Lucy, supposedly he is right there in the room with you and has been all day according to you, so why haven't you asked him these questions? Im not with him anymore. He had work this evening. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 So what did you achieve in your conversations with him today? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Im not with him anymore. He had work this evening. That's not what they asked you. Answer the question. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 Ive answered that question a few times. I didnt ask him anything because according to what everyone on here says he wouldnt tell me the truth anyway Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Again, you're either being super lazy or deliberately obtuse. The question--from message #220: Are you being treated for OCD? answer from message#222 Among other things yes. Im on citalopram and propanalol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Why not cross-reference it with what he says anyway? Just since you like him so much? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 So you dont believe he could have fallen out of love with her in that time? So he ended things purely because of me? She wasn't there to have sex with. He likely had sex as much as possible with new people the whole time she was gone. I have never known any exes with kids who regularly saw each other every week unless it was just to drop off the kids with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 I don't know what makes you think he was ever in love with either of you. This is mostly about sex to him. She leaves, and he can't even wait two weeks for her to come back and starts chasing women to get sex. He hides you from her forever because he was probably still having sex with her or wanting to. My guess is he was or he'd have lost interest sooner and not be letting her call the shots. If you really want to find out, don't have sex with him (or to him) for two weeks and see what happens. Cheaters are always looking for someone like you who will look the other way and make excuses for them and just keep believing what they want to believe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 22, 2019 Author Share Posted October 22, 2019 They were apart for about 2 months not 2 weeks. And i cant see how they can have had sex since before she went away as they havent hardly seen eachother since and when they have its been to go out somewhere. And he doesnt let her call the shots Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Ive answered that question a few times. I didnt ask him anything because according to what everyone on here says he wouldnt tell me the truth anyway So if you can't ask him the question because you believe what we say, why are you still with him? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Kendahke, I'm thinking that if the OP has these conditions which make her unable to think and analyse, then university wouldn't have been an option for her. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 22, 2019 Share Posted October 22, 2019 Ive answered that question a few times. I didnt ask him anything because according to what everyone on here says he wouldnt tell me the truth anyway Not everyone told you that. I told you to ask him since he was sitting there on the sofa with you these questions. You've been on LS all day. Why didn't you spend this precious time with him since you only see him twice a week? I also told you to show him this thread so he can answer these questions. Why don't you want to know what he says? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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