Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 I see him pretty much every day. I only stay over about 2 or so nights a week but i see him even for a short time most days Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 Ok. I like him because... he makes me laugh, he puts spending time with me above anything else, he always checks up to make sure im ok, spending time texting me when we arent together. Even when hes with her I am sorry but 2 nights a week for sex is not putting spending time with you above anything else. He checks up with you on text? ppffftt!! minimal efforts, takes no time, no efforts to text a girl a couple of times to make sure he'll get his sex twice a week. So he's special because he text you while he's with her....funny cause he text her while he's with you, I guess she is very special to him too. . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 We have sex more than twice a week. I spend time at his in the evenings when i drop him home from work Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 So he's special because he text you while he's with her....funny cause he texts her while he's with you, I guess she is very special to him too. Yep, his girls be special to him So if he texts both of them, I wonder what else he does with both of them ?????? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 We have sex more than twice a week. I spend time at his in the evenings when i drop him home from work Boy, isn't that convenient for him . . . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 We have sex more than twice a week. I spend time at his in the evenings when i drop him home from work Oh honey, I hope you have a mom and girl friends around to snap you into reality. You spend your time and gas to drive this guy home + give him sex you pay for the pizza too?. He doesn't have to put in ANY efforts toward you. You're like a free Uber with benefits. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 Yep, his girls be special to him So if he texts both of them, I wonder what else he does with both of them ?????? I cannot see any way they could poaaibly be having sex when they only go to public places and i am at his til really most nights Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 You spend your time and gas to drive this guy home + give him sex you pay for the pizza too?. He doesn't have to put in ANY efforts toward you. You're like a free Uber with benefits. He only lives a couple of minutes drive from our work. He finishes a little while before me so stops at the bar for a drink and to talk to me while he waits for me to finish. No i dont pay for the pizza. Unless its me that suggests getting one Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 Okie dokie. You just keep telling yourself whatever you need to hear. I'm sorry for you because you are in for a very rude awakening at some point. It's gonna hurt and bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 There is just no way they could be having sex. Hes only seen her a couple of times since they split up and they only go out to public places Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 Ok, lets say they don't have sex. You're ok with him not providing for his children? You're ok with his anger issues? You're ok with his lying habits? You're ok with him sucking money from his ex? You're ok with your identity being a secret? Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 There is just no way they could be having sex. Hes only seen her a couple of times since they split up and they only go out to public places Really, that's not the issue you're worried about. You're worried that he isn't over her -- still in love with her. It appears that's likely and if he has his way he will get back with her and you're just a fill in until that happens. I can pretty much guarantee that's the boat you are rowing, sweetie. And, how do you know for a fact that they only go to public places? Are you stalking him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 (edited) Ok, lets say they don't have sex. You're ok with him not providing for his children? You're ok with his anger issues? You're ok with his lying habits? You're ok with him sucking money from his ex? You're ok with your identity being a secret? I havent seen his anger issues. Only heard about them so he could have them in check. His children are nothing to do with me neither is him getting money from her. Thats all down to them. Its the keeping in contact with her in the first place that bothers me, he knows shes still in love with him and yet continues to talk to her everyday, even if say it was her texting first everyday he still replies. Thats why ive been trying to figure out all possible reasons for why he might be talking to her so much. Sometimes he only seems to be texting for a few minutea. Other times i think he texts her on and off all day or for an hour or so at a time. It might not be her hes talking to but he never mentions texting anyone else and mentions things that they have said. [] And theres no way i could know the things about me and him that i know if i wasnt actually me. Especially as you all like to point out that he hasnt actually told her anything about me/us Edited October 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 His children are nothing to do with me neither is him getting money from her. Thats all down to them. If you are that type of woman, then you and him belong to each other. I would not date a man that does not provide for his children even worse that takes away from the mother of his children. To me these men are the lowest scums on the earth. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 (edited) I have taken alot on board even if it doesnt come across that way. Ive just been trying to see it in every possible way. And from what ive seen it makes no difference how you look at it, theres no possible reason for him to be talking to her other than he wants to. And its also pretty clear that everyone thinks very little of him regardless of whether hes still too close to her or not. And again its clear that everyone thinks regardless of whether he goes back to her or not that he wouldnt stay with me long anyway Edited October 23, 2019 by Lucyjane86 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 And, how do you know for a fact that they only go to public places? Are you stalking him? He tells me where they have been and posts photos on his social media of the childen. Also we message through snapchat and he has his location visible on his snapmap Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 A real man won’t need to lie about you and cover up spending time with you. Its only her he doesnt tell when hes with me. And i think his family too as he has said his mum keeps having digs at him for having left his ex so i dont think hes told her about us at all. The ex though he has told. He just doesnt tell her when hes actually with me. Hes said a few times that shes said about him seeing the children and hes told her hes at work. And i saw on his texts before that hes also told her hes ill or been sleeping and a few other things if shes text when he was with me and he hasnt replied straightaway Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 Ahh so if he only lies to her that makes it all right, hmmm. Interesting.. Well, it looks like you have everything under control! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 Thats not what im saying. Im saying that he doesnt hide me or cover up the time he spends with me from everyone. Just her. And possibly his family Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 (edited) He might have told his family. I dont know. I just know that hes said a few times that his mum isnt happy with him for leaving his ex and the children so i would imagine that he hasnt told her about us so as not to make things worse. Plus he went round to theirs at the weekend with her and the children so i am guessing that his mum likes her so he would probably think it was better not to tell them. Not right now atleast Edited October 23, 2019 by Lucyjane86 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 If you are that type of woman, then you and him belong to each other. I would not date a man that does not provide for his children even worse that takes away from the mother of his children. To me these men are the lowest scums on the earth. Im not that type of woman. I do believe children should come first but its not upto me to get him to see or provide for them. Its not my place. Nor is it my place to tell him not to take money from her Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 Listen, you date him therefore approuve his behavior toward his ex and children. Saying it's not your business is a shameful excuse. If he were a criminal you'd say it's not your business he robs old people of their little money!! It's the same darn thing. He is robbing these children of necessities of life. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 You're right that it's not your place to tell him what to do in regards to not supporting his children and being a mooch. But it IS your place to look at how he treats his ex and family and decide if his behaviour is reflective of the kind of man you see yourself having a future with. Don't just get the measure of a person on how they treat you, also look at how they treat others. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 Listen, you date him therefore approuve his behavior toward his ex and children. Saying it's not your business is a shameful excuse. If he were a criminal you'd say it's not your business he robs old people of their little money!! It's the same darn thing. He is robbing these children of necessities of life. I dont approve but i cant make him do anything. If she needs money then its down to her to say no to him and to make him pay towards them. Its not on me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Share Posted October 23, 2019 Only last weekend. It was one of the childrens birthdays. Thats the only reason they saw eachother 2 days in a row and went to his families house Link to post Share on other sites
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