surej91 Posted October 6, 2019 Share Posted October 6, 2019 (edited) I was seeing a guy for a year and we decided to go our separate ways around 3 weeks ago. We were never official; I wanted a relationship and he did not. Though he definitely gave me a lot of mixed signals about his stance on it. At one point he told me that he was 'ready for a relationship' but days later he stated that he was confused and didn't know what he wanted. He would say these things without me even asking... I never pushed for anything or asked him about our status - he offered up this information randomly. Recently he admitted to me that he was sleeping with other women. Something I knew deep down but it was a whole different ball game hearing the words come out of his mouth. I made it obvious I wasn't comfortable with what he was doing (in a very nice and polite manner) and told him I was confused about how I wanted to proceed with things. He didn't get back to me for a few days, he said he took the time to 'think about everything' and he ultimately decided it was best for us to go our separate ways. I was disappointed but told him I understood and respected his decision. We never had 'the talk' before so I felt like I didn't have the right to be angry at him even though he gave a lot of mixed signals. So things ended on great terms... wished him well etc. He continued to follow me on instagram. I never followed him back because he doesn't post anything and we don't chat on there, he just lurks. I did notice he started viewing all of my stories a lot quicker than he would have previously. Whenever we were together after I posted anything he would normally take 7+ hours to view it as he isn't on instagram that often. After we stopped seeing each-other? it would be a hour max. Then last week I went for dinner with a male friend. I took a picture of my meal but in the background you could see my friends upper body, his meal, his wine and there was a candle in the middle of the small table. Looking back at the picture... it definitely looked like a date (it wasn't but sure). He viewed it and unfollowed me straight away and then he blocked me the day after. He has now unblocked me but still hasn't followed me again. I am beyond confused? Is this normal behaviour for a dumper? this is my first time being the dumpee. We had a falling out in the past and ended things on bad terms and he never unfollowed me then. It is just confusing he would do it after us being on great terms. Especially because he tends to stay friends with a lot of the women he has dated. What I hate most is that this gives me a little bit of hope that he actually cared at least a little bit... I am doing NC at the moment also. Instagram was the last tie we had really and now it just feels so final? Edited October 6, 2019 by surej91 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 6, 2019 Share Posted October 6, 2019 I don't think he's jealous. He probably just assumes you are seeing someone and won't be his back-up FWB anymore. It's time for you to move on from him, anyway. It wasn't going anywhere, so it's really for the best that you have no contact on social media either. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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