lioil Posted October 10, 2019 Share Posted October 10, 2019 I was introduced to this lady from china and we have done weekly calls and she came here for vacation a month or so back. I did enjoy her company and we have been in touch. The only concern I have is her getting a job here in the future. If that's the only concern maybe I should have her come again? She was thinking maybe around xmas. I think if she does come then it would have a lot more significance. My uncle did offer to see her to gauge her character but it's from longtime friend I dont think it's an issue. My friend also mentioned if I say no I should do it early since she can set her up with someone else... Any tips? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2019 Share Posted October 10, 2019 I'm not a big fan of international dating. The way you phrased all these Qs indicates to me that it's all about you. Do you know what she wants? Secondly I don't think you have any meaningful understanding of all the nuances of immigration rules. Speak to a good lawyer to determine what you face. Then make a decision. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 10, 2019 Share Posted October 10, 2019 I agree ^ . Most countries have immigration rules. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lioil Posted October 11, 2019 Author Share Posted October 11, 2019 I'm not a big fan of international dating. The way you phrased all these Qs indicates to me that it's all about you. Do you know what she wants? Secondly I don't think you have any meaningful understanding of all the nuances of immigration rules. Speak to a good lawyer to determine what you face. Then make a decision. Wouldn't it he super serious if I talk to a lawyer? Her sister came here and married too. In terms what she wants, she does want to come here because she doesnt like the air quality there and want to expand here. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 11, 2019 Share Posted October 11, 2019 Yes spending the money on a lawyer is serious but until you understand all of the red tape & the extras involved, this may very well be a pipe dream. For example, in the US if a citizen reaches out to marry a non-citizen & the couple breaks up the citizen is required to provide support to that EX so the EX doesn't end up on social assistance programs. That obligation exists regardless of the citizens' means or the couple's willingness to forego spousal support. In essence the government can set the terms of your divorce as a condition of you getting married. Did you know that? An international relationship is not as easy as dating the girl next door. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lioil Posted October 13, 2019 Author Share Posted October 13, 2019 Yes spending the money on a lawyer is serious but until you understand all of the red tape & the extras involved, this may very well be a pipe dream. For example, in the US if a citizen reaches out to marry a non-citizen & the couple breaks up the citizen is required to provide support to that EX so the EX doesn't end up on social assistance programs. That obligation exists regardless of the citizens' means or the couple's willingness to forego spousal support. In essence the government can set the terms of your divorce as a condition of you getting married. Did you know that? An international relationship is not as easy as dating the girl next door. I did. But that's probably not as bad as divorce normally? Link to post Share on other sites
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