JEG88 Posted October 11, 2019 Share Posted October 11, 2019 So been going around dates on OLD recently, with a bunch of issues. Nothing seems normal anymore hahaha, but that’s OLD for you... I went on 6 dates with this one woman. After the fifth date, we both agreed that we didn’t want to commit to a relationship and would just see how things go. We were/are both meeting other people. We had sex on the 6th date, but there was little chemistry. Disappointing because she was awesome to hang with. Eventually after a week we discussed staying friends, but then yesterday she says she misses me. Seems to me like a mixed signal and that she doesn’t really know what she wants, so I’ll probably pull back on communication and let it fade a bit. Don’t want that drama of on-and-off interest. Had a different meet-up planned earlier today, only for the woman to text me when I was already waiting at the restaurant seeing if we can reschedule to next week. I absolutely hate being stood up and/or passed up for another date she may have had, so I gave her the “I’ll get back to you about my schedule” line. She didn’t give a reason for rescheduling either, and I didn’t care to ask. This other woman, I’ve seen for a handful of dates as well. We’ve had great sex, but other than that it doesn’t feel like we have a lot in common. She’s a good person for sure, I just don’t know if I see myself long term with her. At the end of the day, I think I’m still playing the field looking for a more “complete” person for me. Not just the sex and not just the compatibility to hang, but hoping for both. I don’t know if I should feel more conflicted, but I feel like as long as I let each woman know I’m seeing other people - which I have - the expectations are set. And of course I’m staying safe as far as sex. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted October 11, 2019 Share Posted October 11, 2019 Eventually after a week we discussed staying friends, but then yesterday she says she misses me. Friends can miss each other right? Well I don't really understand people who want to be "friends" on OLD or after a few dates. If you want friends then go to meetup dot com. If after a few dates you don't want to keep seeing someone then move on. That's just my opinion... Had a different meet-up planned earlier today, only for the woman to text me when I was already waiting at the restaurant seeing if we can reschedule to next week. I absolutely hate being stood up and/or passed up for another date she may have had, so I gave her the “I’ll get back to you about my schedule” line. You've more patience than me. I would have just NC'd her after that. How incredibly rude and inconsiderate to waste my time and money, only to bail without even giving a good reason. Not someone I would want to talk to again. I feel like as long as I let each woman know I’m seeing other people - which I have I don't think it's necessary to let them know this. It's the normal default, and kind of tacky to discuss initially. Unless you're planning on seeing multiple women in the long term that is! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JEG88 Posted October 11, 2019 Author Share Posted October 11, 2019 Friends can miss each other right? Well I don't really understand people who want to be "friends" on OLD or after a few dates. If you want friends then go to meetup dot com. If after a few dates you don't want to keep seeing someone then move on. That's just my opinion... It's a different situation for me, for sure. My past breakups have been cordial, but I never contacted any of my exes after we broke up. This woman and I were never really in a relationship, so the emotional connection isn't the same. I just don't want there to be any drama if we were to stay friends. You've more patience than me. I would have just NC'd her after that. How incredibly rude and inconsiderate to waste my time and money, only to bail without even giving a good reason. Not someone I would want to talk to again.For sure, and this has happened to me multiple times on Tinder specifically, but not any of the other apps. No wonder I deleted it, should never have re-installed for another try. I don't think it's necessary to let them know this. It's the normal default, and kind of tacky to discuss initially. Unless you're planning on seeing multiple women in the long term that is! I don't let them know during the initial date or two, more so if it gets to 3+ dates I feel like is a good time to manage that expectation with them. Link to post Share on other sites
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