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[WS223]

Hello,

 

I’m a 19 yr old college student and I’m writing this drunk off my ass but I’m concerned about myself. I’m a very good looking male who just lost his virginity in July and since I got to school I’ve slept with a new girl every single week (except for 2 when I was sick) and I don’t know what to do with myself. I feel like a bad person or something. Idk what’s wrong with me like it’s kind of every dudes dream to **** a new girl like eveey week and Idk I feel like I’m being a bad person. I feel like women only see me for one thing most of the time and it kinda sucks. I’m also terrified or rejection cause I’ve never been rejected before and I dunno I feel like it would really **** me up on some stupid ****. I’ve been thinking about this for a while but don’t wanna ask anyone I know cause I feel like they’ll think it’s strange lmao. Should I try and find one good woman to settle down?? I also have this problem where I see if I can **** a girl just cause I can—not even if I necessarily want to. I don’t lead any of these girls on or anything I’m not a ****ing douchebag but I feel like they only want one thing for me and I give it to them cause like why the **** not but I don’t like that attitude and it makes me feel like something is wrong with me. Please help should I stop doing what I’m doing?? I feel like I should

[Foxhall]

make hay while the sun shines,

 

enjoy yourself, you are too young for settling for another ten years,

 

be careful though, you dont want any mini WS223s popping out:cool:

[gaius]

You answered your own question. If you feel like you should then do it.

 

And no, it's not every guys dream to sleep with a new girl every week. I love the intimacy I've built with my wife over the years and I wouldn't trade it for 10,000 romps with other women.

[snowboy91]

Ok I'm a little confused by what you're saying. Perhaps it was your level of inebriation that made it a little hard to follow (no judgment here - I was 19 once!)

 

I'm seeing one or two things here (could be one or the other, or both).

 

- This sense of guilt you have, this belief that if you are sleeping with different girls all the time, it makes you a bad person. In a society that strongly values long term, stable relationships I'm not surprised you feel that way. The reality (especially if you're 19!) is that people do like to have the fun part of sex without the attachment - both guys and girls do this. So if you're just hooking up with girls who want the same thing (just a bit of fun), what is there to feel guilty about?

 

- This feeling that the girls only want one thing from you. Do you actually want something longer term? If so it's a bit more complicated than just physical looks - you'll need to find someone who also wants something longer term and someone you actually want to spend time with. Rejection is inevitable - but it isn't always a reflection on you personally.