Why is ex rubbing it in my face.

[Lotsgoingon]

If he's trying to keep up some distance, some boundary, it totally makes sense to not compliment you. The line between complimenting someone's "new" body ... and flirting is a thin, thin line.

 

Did you dump him or he dump you?

[ExpatInItaly]

I take it this is the same guy from your previous thread? The one who didn't unblock you when you bumped into him, and the one who you feel is rubbing his new relationship in your face online? You say you have no interest in getting back together with him and that this issue doesn't really bother you, but I would say this thread and your last one give quite the opposite impression.

 

He likely doesn't compliment you because he doesn't want to give you false hope that he's still interested. And if he's dating someone else, he doesn't want to disrespect her. He's probably noticed your transformation and doesn't really care, if I'm being blunt. This is especially true if his attention is turned toward another woman.

 

He's moved on, OP. You need to accept that and stop looking to him to make you feel good about yourself. You need to move on, too.

Edited November 5, 2019 by ExpatInItaly

[preraph]

I wouldn't. I'd think they were being kind of desperate and did all that to get me back. You need to make it your goal to stop caring what an ex thinks about you.

[Ruby Slippers]

He's probably thinking it would have been nice if you'd been at a healthy weight and in shape while you were together, but is politely holding his tongue.

[smackie9]

He doesn't because he knows it's bugging you that he doesn't. And here you are, making a thread about it. His plan is working.