ThumbingMyWay Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 that’s were I'm at….. In love…but the trust isn’t back yet….my wife and I will be fine…we will endure and make this work. BUT…I still have trust issues….the doubt….the uncertainty of the future. Its been 6 months since Dday2….and although I am getting better….my wife just wants it all to go away….but isn’t that what the WW always wants?. I think she is finally understanding that this recovery don’t happen over night or even in 6 months….it takes TIME to heal and regain trust…..but we are on our way. Breath in the air….Gods grace is NEW everyday……..ahhhhhh Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 Few formerly-cheating spouses seem to realize the time it takes to recover from their revelations. And if we don't recover as fast as they like, we're eventually told to "get over it". I'm no doctor, but having your intestines slowly dragged out of your body via your ass sounds like something that might have a lengthy period of convalescence. Though I have no basis of comparison, my understanding is that the recovery time is shortened if the former cheater is actually committed to the relationship and is working with the betrayed to help him/her get over it. In my case, after her revelations, XW just wanted out, so I've had to process all of this and recover without her. It's been two years and, oddly enough, I think I only "hit bottom" about a month ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ThumbingMyWay Posted September 30, 2005 Author Share Posted September 30, 2005 we're eventually told to "get over it". Though I have no basis of comparison, my understanding is that the recovery time is shortened if the former cheater is actually committed to the relationship and is working with the betrayed to help him/her get over it. yep...have gotten the "get over it" early on in the recovery...but as time and deep talks went on....my WW finally understand the magnitude of what it takes for the BS to recover. And I totally agree with the last statement.....the healing is going nicely because my wife is putting 110% into making things right and to win me back into her heart....she is working hard and I see it and feel it... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 And I totally agree with the last statement.....the healing is going nicely because my wife is putting 110% into making things right and to win me back into her heart....she is working hard and I see it and feel it... She has to do that. Alot of your recovery and learning how to trust her again has to come from her. She has alot of power right now, in a good way. Can make it easier for you by continuing the 110% effort. Happy to hear that she is doing that for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 I'm no doctor, but having your intestines slowly dragged out of your body via your ass sounds like something that might have a lengthy period of convalescence. Too funny. Link to post Share on other sites
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