SolG Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Well, I've been growing my hair out for about a month now - I have an inch of predominately silver roots. And tomorrow I'm getting a full head of silver foils just before my 49th birthday. I can't wait to not have to worry about regrowth any more! One of my staff members pulled me aside today to 'warn' me that I'm sabotaging my prospects by choosing to go grey. That I look too young to embrace being 'elderly'. I'm interested in your thoughts LoveShackians, is going grey a death knell to attractiveness? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 I think young women with healthy grey hair are totally beautiful. I don't see how it would make you look "elderly." How old is the person who said this to you? When I was younger, anyone older than 40 was "elderly." Lol. What did I know? Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 From a guys perspective , well just this one anyway but l'd say a big no no myself especially if you still look young, enjoy while you can. A friend of mine too had naturally silver grey hair all her life and she said it was kiss of death for the guys so she's always colored it, about your age too. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyLibertyBelle Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 My hair went totally white at 25. Not yellow white. Pure silvery white. It was my trademark. When I was 30 in a performance review my boss who was an SVP at the Fortune 50 company I worked at gave me my review and outstanding as a rating (top rating). Then he said “Belle you know you’re up for Senior Director. I suggest you look at all the Senior Directors and above in the company (total company population worldwide 90,000) and see if even one of them has white hair.” That was his closing comment. Answer:0 I have now been blonde for the last 20 years, lots more promotions but really resentful of the time, money and hiding under high lights, low lights, roots, etc. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Young folks seem to be paying good money to get grey and white hair these days. I think its beautiful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 When I was in high school there was a kid name James who was totally grey. I for one wouldn't look right being grey. It's not me. I want to stay young and happy. I don't want to give up yet! So much for us men today and I see the women have a head start on the Hair Wizard choices. You can go from blonde to brunette to red head to blue to red to green to purple or orange etc.. But in all if you want to turn old looking (no offense to those who are grey or already grey) but this is my two cents, I feel I have the right too groom myself image into whoever I want to be. I just want to be me! Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Young folks seem to be paying good money to get grey and white hair these days. I think its beautiful. Yes, but they are young... Big difference. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Shave it all off! No hair - no problem Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Shave it all off! No hair - no problem Yeah, the TSA agent at Yellowstone who checked me on my trip home a couple weeks ago looked like Persis Khambatta in Star Trek, tall and striking. Wow. On the gray thing, yeah if fitting in or making money is a factor, society can mess things up if one doesn't conform. ExW made a ton of money hiding gray in both men and women. IDK, no biggie to me. It's kinda like shaving heads, some people look good that way and some don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Well, I've been growing my hair out for about a month now - I have an inch of predominately silver roots. And tomorrow I'm getting a full head of silver foils just before my 49th birthday. I can't wait to not have to worry about regrowth any more! I think getting the style and color you really want is a confidence builder and everything else flows from there. When I look at a woman, I notice style and grooming long before color... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 grey/silver hair for men is fine but not for women. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 I think aging women are sexy, maybe its because I'm getting older. I wish more women would just allow themselves to age naturally. I don't expect a 50 year old woman to look 30. My answer is no, I dont think grey negatively affects attractiveness. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 If you have a good body, you could go chartreuse.... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 grey/silver hair for men is fine but not for women. Yes... I'm starting to get more and more grey in my hair. It looks fine on me, but my girlfriend is insane about dying the grey out. When she was short on money I dyed her hair with "Ms. Clairol"... It wasn't that hard, watched a video on youtube for some tips. The trick is picking out the right color from all of the choices. We got close the first time, and found her favorite the second time. Her rent just went up, so I think we will be going back to the home dye jobs. I have to admit she does look better without the grey. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
4fin Posted October 4, 2018 Share Posted October 4, 2018 I was just talking to my wife about this subject this morning. A week or 2 ago she decided to go grey or actually to quit fighting it since she doesn't have a choice. It's expensive to keep your hair colored. She just hit 40 and looks fantastic. I'm 49 and greying on the sides but I could care less. I actually like how my grey hair has a mind of its own. It just does it's own thing. For her it's been a big decision. She finds the idea of no longer coloring her hair liberating. I'm all for it. For me the confidence it takes to quit fighting the grey hair more than makes up for the grey as far as appeal goes since many aspects of appeal are intangible. Her big issue is the transition and there is name for it. Growing it out can take over a year of roots. If you dye it grey the black roots then come out. I'm really glad I don't care about my situation. I'll never dye. The guys that do seem to have a complex about it but a dye job whether good or bad looks obvious. I say just own it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Artdeco Posted October 4, 2018 Share Posted October 4, 2018 I’ve been back and forth about it. Have had individual grey hairs here and there for 10+ years, and they’re now taking over!! Dyeing too much makes (my) hair brittle, but in order to hide the grey you need to dye more often than not. I would love to let it grow out, but I’m not one of these enviable women who look good with it. Makes me look dull and low-energy. Meh. Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted October 4, 2018 Share Posted October 4, 2018 I’ve started graying very early, around 17 or 18. I didn’t dye my hair until age of 22 because grays were few and far in between and on an young person it looks just fine. But now at 33... I can even fanthom the though of letting grays show. It ages me instantly. A friend (40) did go gray (let her natural hair grow) in the course of the past 3-4 years... well her hair looks healthier but she looks old IMO gray look suits only extremely youthful face. Otherwise just ages the person. (Talking about women here, on a man gray hair is just fine at any age) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SolG Posted October 5, 2018 Author Share Posted October 5, 2018 Well phase one is done! I've had all the dye stripped from my hair and I'm now a dirty dark ash blonde. Loving it so far. Very different from being dark brown all these years. Lots of compliments. Back in two weeks to get blended silver highlights. I'll let you know how I go. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 5, 2018 Share Posted October 5, 2018 A woman who can rock her natural grey just oozes confidence. My neighbour has these gorgeous natural grey spirals with a hand of dark foils thrown in. Truth be known, I'm a little jealous. My natural colour has faded to boring mouse brown - am looking forward to when I can transition to grey. Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted October 5, 2018 Share Posted October 5, 2018 what I am doing now is use Henna to dye my grey hair red. experimenting mixing with indigo, not sure the result yet. It still works as the majority of my hair is black.... not sure how a full head of red hair will look ... henna is supposedly organic and good for hair too. I don't like the idea of putting chemical on my hair every few weeks. Henna only turn grey hair to red, not black hair. so it's awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted October 7, 2018 Share Posted October 7, 2018 I think one has to have the face for it. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted October 7, 2018 Share Posted October 7, 2018 Yes... I'm starting to get more and more grey in my hair. It looks fine on me, but my girlfriend is insane about dying the grey out. When she was short on money I dyed her hair with "Ms. Clairol"... It wasn't that hard, watched a video on youtube for some tips. The trick is picking out the right color from all of the choices. We got close the first time, and found her favorite the second time. Her rent just went up, so I think we will be going back to the home dye jobs. I have to admit she does look better without the grey. You can buy professional products on Amazon. I use Redken, and mix shades, usually one to one, but sometimes with a kicker added in. A 16 oz bottle of developer is cheap, and good for eight jobs. The total price per color is comparable to a box of Preference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 7, 2018 Share Posted October 7, 2018 Total double standard, but I agree......OK for men, not for women at that age. In my early forties I dated a man who was only about 6 or 7 years older than I was, but he had an Anderson Cooper thing going on and looked so much older than me--he could have passed for 60. I also looked younger than my age. A lot of people thought he was my dad. Still, it is more "acceptable" for men than women. I won't go completely white/gray until I'm over 60. (And I get plenty of gray now at age 45!) Link to post Share on other sites
Author SolG Posted October 16, 2019 Author Share Posted October 16, 2019 Well it's been a year since I started my transition to grey... and I'm absolutely loving it! I'm almost entirely silver now, with some salt and pepper at the back, and a few straggly goldish-orangey ends from when I had the dye stripped that will be all grown and cut out soonish. My hair is now almost entirely untreated, healthier and glossier than it has been in years. I'm of mixed heritage, and have a medium-dark neutral complexion. I'm loving the contrast of the silver against my skin tone, and am experimenting with a whole new palette for my makeup and clothing. I'm finding that I can pull off far brighter colours now than I could before the transition. I've also recently gotten a new selection of reading glasses with transitional lenses (reading, screen, and clear for distance) so I don't have to constantly take them on and off, with bold frames. It's funny how many people have initially assumed that my old fake dark brown (almost black really) was my natural hair colour, and that my current natural hair colour is fake. I recently ran into a colleague I hadn't seen for awhile and she exclaimed how 'daringly Kardashian' my new colour was, and asked what I was doing to minimise damage from the bleach. Lol! I've certainly had moments during the transition where I had my doubts, but I'm very glad now that I stuck with it. Very liberating to know I'll never have to get my hair dyed ever again. Not to mention the savings. To all you ladies out there worried about grey hair, and concerned that it might make you look older and/or invisible; I'd say that that isn't necessarily going to be the case. My anchor partner loves my silver locks, and I'm actually getting more male attention now than before from a wider variety of men. It might be that a tallish darkish woman with silver hair just stands out, or maybe it's that I'm feeling so good about my new look. Or maybe it's a combo of both. I not long ago joined the ranks of the nifty-fifties. And although I've definitely had my fair share of pangs and insecurity about getting older - complete with accompanying girls night champagne-induced torrid tears and horrid hangovers - so far being 50 has pretty much been nifty indeed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 My anchor partner loves my silver locks, and I'm actually getting more male attention now than before from a wider variety of men. SolG, what's an "anchor partner" ??? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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