Going grey - 1 year update

[Gaeta]

My brother and his wife are going to sail around the world for 2 years. My sister-in-law wasn't gonna pack 2 years of hair color so she slowly transitioned into her natural color, she is a full salt-pepper with more salt, it's beautiful. Like you she adjusted her make up, and she was a red-head so has lots of freckles, she has a kick-@ss look!

[Kitty Tantrum]

I started getting silver hairs when I was 16. The rest is very dark brown, so it's quite a contrast. I'm never, ever, ever coloring it. I like it. I've had it short for a few years, and I'm excited to see what it looks like when it grows out, because there's a lot more "salt" in there now! Going to be interesting because my face hasn't aged much. I usually wear a hat and people assume I'm a lot younger than I am. Curious to see if I stop getting carded when I'm rocking the long salt and pepper look.

 

My brother (couple years older, mid-30s) has a lot more than I do, and it looks great on him. I've always liked long gray/white hair on women, too.

[gaius]

SolG, what's an "anchor partner" ???

 

Mr. Lucky

I think it means she's dating a bunch of guys but one has earned the status of first among many. The "anchor partner".

 

Women take the whole going grey thing too seriously. Grey hair can be very sexy.

[major_merrick]

I'm glad y'all are feeling comfortable with it. Me....not so much. I've been going gray for a while, but I'm not at the stage where I've got to dye it all. I don't do make up, but I spend a lot of time with a mirror pulling every last one out. And then I put streaks of dye in to give things a bit of color. I already look a few years older than I am, so I don't want to rush it.

 

My husband is starting to do the salt-and-pepper look. His hair started going gray right after his first wife divorced him, and it never went back. He dyes some of it, but if he left it all alone I think he'd probably be entirely silver by 40.

 

To me it kind of feels sad....youth is almost gone and middle age is fast approaching. Maybe I'll accept that someday, but it is not today.

[greymatter]

I love that you are letting it be and feeling happy about it and ignoring the double standard that people inexplicably have. Although I really don't look at Instagram much, you should follow "grombre" which has lots of photos of women, young and older, with their natural grey hair and their stories of growing it out and the approval, and disapproval, they have experienced. The photos are inspiring.

 

I'm not sure what I'll do when mine turns grey. I am 54 and still have dark hair, with only a few hidden greys. My BF likes those little hairs when they appear (they are mostly hidden because I have long curly/wavy hair but they pop out sometimes and are super curly). He says that he hopes I never dye my hair when it turns grey. I will very likely do the same as you are doing and will embrace it.

[lavenderandvelvet]

I started getting my first greys at age 19.

 

I started coloring in my early 20s.

 

Around 3 years ago i noticed my hair was getting brittle. So I stopped coloring my black hair. A year or so later I had to stop straightening as well.

 

My hair is healthier now, but I have enough grey to be noticeable it is sprinkled all over my head. I am 41.

 

As soon as I made these two changes, it does feel I have crossed over into ma’am land. On the flip side - I have never had more compliments on my hair. Every week or so, someone walks by and says “I love your hair!”

 

I’ve also had more in-person attention. Online dating has never been great for me - I am the wrong type for my location. But I have had a little bit of luck in person.

 

I am still a little mixed on it, I may dye again when I get older. And I have more wrinkles. But for now I guess it is ok.