brownsugar Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 I'm a 23yrs old going out with a 39yrs old and our sex life is a mess I can't even have sex with him until he get's treated it really his fault he the main one that put me threw this now my menstrual cycle hasn't came on and the pregnancy test was negative but I'm still mad at him because I lost my trust for him now he's not telling me what he makes a his contruction job and I afraid to let go because my daughter loves her daddy, I did everything for this only thing he won't to do is get high and sleep all the time to me I hope that what he put me threw will remain in my heart forever I haven't told him when I go to the doctor on 10-7-05 that if something is wrong then I'm not going to be with him forever I think it's a shame for a man of 5yrs put his girlfriend threw this so should I remain not being intimate with him so what should I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brownsugar Posted September 30, 2005 Author Share Posted September 30, 2005 I'm a 23yrs old going out with a 39yrs old and our sex life is a mess I can't even have sex with him until he get's treated it really his fault he the main one that put me threw this now my menstrual cycle hasn't came on and the pregnancy test was negative but I'm still mad at him because I lost my trust for him now he's not telling me what he makes a his contruction job and I afraid to let go because my daughter loves her daddy, I did everything for this only thing he won't to do is get high and sleep all the time to me I hope that what he put me threw will remain in my heart forever I haven't told him when I go to the doctor on 10-7-05 that if something is wrong then I'm not going to be with him forever I think it's a shame for a man of 5yrs put his girlfriend threw this so should I remain not being intimate with him so what should I do. It's hard on me because I can't sleep at night and because sometimes he be leaving out at night he says he going to the bathroom but I don't believe him I think me messing around again but evert time I ask him he said no I'm not sometime he won't even help me cookor set the table it's all about money. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brownsugar Posted September 30, 2005 Author Share Posted September 30, 2005 It's hard on me because I can't sleep at night and because sometimes he be leaving out at night he says he going to the bathroom but I don't believe him I think me messing around again but evert time I ask him he said no I'm not sometime he won't even help me cookor set the table it's all about money. what should I do Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 This isn't even close. He's endangered your health. He misled you. He's keeping secrets from you. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
lynnered Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 so U were 17 or 18 & he was about 34? 1st of all do U guys have anything in common ? a child who loves her Daddy is no reason to put up with emotional abuse,VD,someone U cant trust. "I go to the doctor on 10-7-05 that if something is wrong then I'm not going to be with him forever I think it's a shame for a man of 5yrs put his girlfriend threw this so should I remain not being intimate with him so what should I do. " If something is wrong are U positive he has VD?is it cureable? U have alot more issues then the STD,but thats major,to cheat is horrible then not to care enough to not bring U back a disease,really sad i cant believe hes almost 40yrs old doing this crap . can U stay with someone parents or a friend ? do U have a job?if not get one & U can also get financial,medical &food help from social services or welfare. U have a little girl how do U think this will affect her outlook on relationships? IMO U need to get out or U &him need therapy to work this out,U sound really "young",so be careful ,hes older and i think abusive & taking advantanage of U. U responsible U if U continue to accept being treated like this & responsible to get help . O and i would sleep with him,&if i couldnt trust him ,&still sleeping with him,make him wear a condom til U feel 100% sure hes not cheating anymore,he already caught one disease BE CAREFUL goodluck:) Link to post Share on other sites
lynnered Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 O and i wouldnt sleep with him,&if i couldnt trust him ,&still sleeping with him,make him wear a condom til U feel 100% sure hes not cheating anymore,he already caught one disease BE CAREFUL goodluck im sorry wouldnt sleep with him!! couldnt find edit:o Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 No offense but I wanted to take a gun to myself trying to read your first post. English is a wonderful language when used to make intelligent sentences. As for your situation...the guy has an STD from someone else and you are still with him? Yikes...leave him. He CHEATED. One day someone needs to explain to me how azzhole scumbags out there can get numerous ladies to mack up on yet good guys don't. Why do women like scumbags? Is it just simply because good guys usually dont put forth the effort to try and get in all the ladies' pants simply because they have better stuff to do with their time? I want someone to tell me via IM, PM or something. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 No offense but I wanted to take a gun to myself trying to read your first post. English is a wonderful language when used to make intelligent sentences. I have to agree with Weird here. Punctuation is your friend. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted September 30, 2005 Share Posted September 30, 2005 No offense but I wanted to take a gun to myself trying to read your first post. English is a wonderful language when used to make intelligent sentences. And I have to agree also. I had to read the replies in order to understand anything at all - that he cheated and gave you an STD and abused you emotionally for 5 years. Dump him! One day someone needs to explain to me how azzhole scumbags out there can get numerous ladies to mack up on yet good guys don't. Why do women like scumbags? Is it just simply because good guys usually dont put forth the effort to try and get in all the ladies' pants simply because they have better stuff to do with their time? Weird, I don't think it's that they like scum-bags, I think they just accept to put up with the crap for one of more reasons: 1. they don't know of any better; 2. their self-esteem is low; 3. they were raised that marriage is a sacred place and divorce is the last resort (if they are married); 4. they have no place to go, no money, no job; 5. they believe their partners are otherwise great (except that they cheat and lie) - they are not aware of their other faults; 6. they accuse themselves; 7. they have children who adore their daddy; 8. they are convinced that all men are like that and that's the way it is; 9. they are afraid of loneliness; 10. they love the husband/BF and don't want to let other women have him; 11. their sex drive is low and they know they can't please him sexually; 12. they believe they are not good enough to have anyone better. Link to post Share on other sites
sundrop Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 BrownSugar, Why would you want to stay in that relationship? Are you not worried about you child seeing and learning from a messed up relationship. Your child may miss her dad and if he is a real man than he will still come around for her, but children learn from what the see and you being in this relationship is showing her nothing other than it's ok to be treated like crap. If you don't leave for your sake, wellbeing and health, leave for your childs future. Link to post Share on other sites
lynnered Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 No offense but I wanted to take a gun to myself trying to read your first post. English is a wonderful language when used to make intelligent sentences. As for your situation...the guy has an STD from someone else and you are still with him? Yikes...leave him. He CHEATED. One day someone needs to explain to me how azzhole scumbags out there can get numerous ladies to mack up on yet good guys don't. Why do women like scumbags? Is it just simply because good guys usually dont put forth the effort to try and get in all the ladies' pants simply because they have better stuff to do with their time? I want someone to tell me via IM, PM or something. i tried Pming U but im denied:mad: i think its because i changed my email address ill try again later. Link to post Share on other sites
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