hmmhmmm2 Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 Girl and I have been hanging for a month or so, once a week...we seemed great together, but nothing ever happened, and I asked her to hang Saturday, she said her "new boo" isn't on call "finally." but doesn't know if he will want to hang so wasn't sure if she could hang out. Long story short, I just said, oh ok, if you wind up free let me know and we'll do something, otherwise have fun, to which she replied "okie :-) " So many questions. 1. She just got out of a relationship 2 months ago, I stopped chasing and she texted me so I gave her a chance, so I assumed she was interested. 2. If her new "boo" "finally" has time, wouldn't that mean she's been seeing him for quite some time? 3. What the heck is "okie?" 4. I sent the message to be polite, but my actual intention is simply ignore and go no contact, find someone else, work out and try to game other girls, was there a better way to handle this? 5. If I were to try to continue hanging out with her, is there way to get out of the friendzone without looking like a douche? Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 Genuinely not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 If you're interested in her romantically then don't bother with her. She says she's got someone else, so believe that. If she's doing that as a jealousy test, then she's not the sort of person you want to be with anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 She sees you as a friend and she thinks that you are a friend to her. "Okie" is short for "Okie Dokey" which is a different way of saying "OK" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 You're not together. Just friends. She has a guy that it sounds like she's really into so there is no romantic interest in you. She see's you as a friend only. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 She's interested in this other guy and was just being friendly with you it sounds like. Women will be friends with guys they're not interested in as long as the guy doesn't become persistent about being romantic. So yeah, just drop her. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 I don't think she's interested. Whether the new guy is real or imaginary, the "finally" is longer then she wanted it to take to get his attention but the declaration of his existence is a good indication that she has no romantic interest in you. In the alternative if she is "testing" you by trying to make you jealous she's not a nice person & should be avoided. Either way this is a no go. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 Is this the coworker who you've got a crush on? If so, it would be extremely unprofessional to ignore her and go No Contact in the workplace. Remain friendly, but not too friendly and don't make things awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hmmhmmm2 Posted October 18, 2019 Author Share Posted October 18, 2019 Is this the coworker who you've got a crush on? If so, it would be extremely unprofessional to ignore her and go No Contact in the workplace. Remain friendly, but not too friendly and don't make things awkward. no, different person. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Ah, that's good. If you don't like her as a friend, then yes, it's best to go No Contact and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 She's been hanging out with you as her "new boo" obviously has a job that meant he was not available to hang out on the previous Saturdays. Now he is not "on call", she will go hang out with him. When you "hang out" with women and nothing ever happens, they simply see you as a friend. They do not see you as a romantic prospect. Also try not to hang out with women with bfs, it is a waste of your time. They get a nice platonic friend to hang out with when the bf isn't available and you end up projecting how you feel onto them. Why would she need to make you jealous? She already had you interested. When women tell you about bfs, real or imaginary, they are telling you to back off. Friend fine, anything more forget it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted December 27, 2019 Share Posted December 27, 2019 Yeah just move on. Friendships with women you want to date are only going to end badly - mostly as far as your emotions go too. Link to post Share on other sites
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