ussoldier2002 Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 I have a huge problem. My ex and I were together for 1 year and 2 days. When we first got together it was great. However I lost my job about 7-8 months into the relationship. I couldn't find work and she had to support me. I felt like crap about myself and stopped showing her affection. She was unhappy for about three months. And she finally left. I started working like 4 days later. As soon as I got my first paycheck I gave her $200 to make things right. The next day I left her a rose and another long letter on her car while she was at work telling her how I wanted her back. 2 days later she told me she wasn't coming back. I went home and called a friend of mine and told her what happened. She took it upon herself to call her and see what was going on. My ex thought I had put her up to calling her. In truth I had given my friend her number so she could get a hold of me because we worked together. My ex knew her also so it wasn't like some strange lady called her. But my ex had told her she might come back. I went 2 weeks without calling or even contacting her, which is hard because I have class with her 3 times a week. Last night I dropped off a note and a rose at her house and all the note said was "I just wanted you to know I was thinking about you". I am pretty sure she is dating a guy in our class. My questions is have I gone to far and screwed everything up for good or is there still a chance? If there is a chance what should I do next and when should I do it? When I go to class I act like it doesn't bother me but she is doing the same thing (I don't know if she's acting or not). The funny thing is that about 2 or 3 time they came into class late together but he never sits with her. WHAT IS GOING ON?!?! How can I get her back and prove to her that I am not the piece of crap I was when we were together. As of Oct 1 we have been broken up for 3 weeks. PLEASE HELP ME GET HER BACK!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
jomaxfury Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 Ussoldier, I think you have done as much you can to show how you truly feel about her. All you can do now is wait for her to make a decision. Start talking to other girls. Let her see that you done as much as you can, but you are willing to move on. Don't wait too long for her decision because she might not come back. Keep your options open for now. If you haven't started another relationship, then if she comes back, and you still have feeling for her, then make your decision. Hope this helps...good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ussoldier2002 Posted October 1, 2005 Author Share Posted October 1, 2005 Yeah, that does help. I have been trying to move on and show her that I am not waiting for her but the thing that bothers me is I want to know what she is feeling. I want to know if she wants to come back but not yet of if there is no hope at all. How do I find that out? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 If you ever discover the secret of determining what a woman is feeling, then you'll be the first. It's entirely possible that she simply doesn't know what she's going to do at this point. From what I've read, you've made every effort to show her your feelings and devotion to her. For her to essentially ignore your efforts is, as I see it, extraordinarily callous and cruel. Regardless if she's confused or not, her complete dismissal total negation of your feelings is not a positive sign. Sorry, dude, but it doesn't look good from here. Link to post Share on other sites
jomaxfury Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 Slubber, you are correct! Girls tend to be very emotional. One day they can love you with all their heart and soul and the next day they can totally change their feelings towards you. Once a girl lets go of her feelings for you it is very hard for them to love you back. Thats why it is hard to understand women. Ussoldier, Start meeting new people and build from that. With your efforts you have showed her that you love and care for her...but the question is does she still love you? Obviously right now she has closed her feeling towards. It just happens like that. Take it as a learning experience, the next person that comes in your life, you'll know how to love and appreciate her even more. God Bless. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ussoldier2002 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 NEW UPDATE AND EVEN MORE CONFUSED!!!! OK my ex and I have been broken up for over a month. About 2 sundays ago my friend convinced me to contact her. So I did, I asked if she would sit down with me for like 15 minutes. Never heard from her...... until the folowing friday. Actually she sent me a text in class on the next wednesday, but she called me on friday at like 1 AM. We talked for like 2 minutes and that was it. Then on monday she didn't show up for class but when I went to my car her car was parked next to mine (which was wierd because she never uses that parking lot) so I thought she was wanting me to try and talk to her or she might be reaching for something from me. Then today she shows up late to class with the dude I think she is seeing. Am I letting my imagination run away with me and letting my hopes get to high? Is she wanting me back or testing the waters? Please help. Jason Link to post Share on other sites
J dub Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 >About 2 sundays ago my friend convinced me to contact her. She already knows how you feel about her, contacting her like this probably wasnt the greatest idea. >Never heard from her...... Case in point. >but she called me on friday at like 1 AM. We talked for like 2 minutes and that was it Perhaps she was intoxicated? I have done things like this. >Then on monday she didn't show up for class but when I went to my car her car was parked next to mine Coincidental most likely. >so I thought she was wanting me to try and talk to her or she might be reaching for something from me This sounds like a far cry -- if she wants to talk she knows where you are and how to call. >Then today she shows up late to class with the dude I think she is seeing Bingo! Here's the problem, another dude. >Am I letting my imagination run away with me and letting my hopes get to high? Yes, and yes. >Is she wanting me back or testing the waters? Doubtful. Women are indeed confusing (I am one of them so I know) but to go thru such great lengths to prove something to you is highly unlikely. Sorry guy, you really need to pick yourself up and move on. if she decides to come back, you'll know without a doubt. As for knowing whether or not you have a chance, no one here can predict that, perhaps even she is unsure at this point. To be safe, you should assume its over for good and IF IF IF she comes back, you can cross that bridge. Link to post Share on other sites
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