Logo Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 This question is directed at the men. If we’re rating looks on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being knockout gorgeous, have you dated any normal or sane 7s or 8s or 9s through online dating, you know, girlfriend or wife material? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 I met a couple 5s and 6s from OLD. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 (edited) Yes all the time. I don’t buy into the number mentality, frankly if that is yours a pick up scene is better, but you better be an 8 yourself. All of us have different tastes, really don’t find most super models to be above 7, for me it is more than just a face and clothes. That said, one of the most recent women dated was a pageant winner for her state (she wasn’t into it, still won, but a college resume thing) and kept in shape ever since...if that helps. I’d call her an 8 if compared to all humans, a 9 in my age group. And the woman I saw before her and after her just as attractive both of which met through OLD. I would say there is a much higher percentage of attractive to me women in OLD than real life except for a certain grocery store or when I fly the business/international routes. And all of those 3 examples girlfriend material, saw them for some time, on sanity one had some stuff potentially going on but not that made her hard to get along with at all. Yet I will pick a 6 in looks with an 8 in potential connection any day. I’ve just been lucky that been able to find looks and connection once I learned to be patient. Edited October 30, 2019 by SumGuy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 This question is directed at the men. If we’re rating looks on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being knockout gorgeous, have you dated any normal or sane 7s or 8s or 9s through online dating, you know, girlfriend or wife material? Yes, many (as well as some 5s and 6s, of course - probably no 10s, at least in my opinion). Most were normal/sane, and most were also good people with pleasant personalities. My top few candidates were 8s and 9s - I married the most compatible match (who most of my friends thought was a 9). Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 Seven, eights and nines! My last girlfriend was a nine... in my opinion. She was a stunner. We dated for a year. She was a great woman, nobody is totally normal... we are all weird in some ways. She had poor communication skills when the relationship encountered challenges. She was great when everything was good, not so great when it was bad. However, normal, yes she was. The last girl I dated for a couple of months was an eight, her face was cute and her body was ridiculous... she did pole dancing (as a hobby not a profession). She really wanted to be in a relationship with me but I just wasn't feeling it with her. I effectively friend zoned her, but as a normal, functional human... she was, absolutely. She took it well, appreciated my honesty and we remain friends (on social media). I've dated three more girls in the last fortnight. Two teachers and a scientist turned veterinarian student. The former two were 7s and the latter an eight-point-five. I say a nine because her personality made her seem sexier. All girls are very intelligent, very normal decent people. I think I've been lucky to have had so many great dates. All from Bumble, too. That's where it's at for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 Yes, many (as well as some 5s and 6s, of course - probably no 10s, at least in my opinion). Most were normal/sane, and most were also good people with pleasant personalities. My top few candidates were 8s and 9s - I married the most compatible match (who most of my friends thought was a 9). I've seen tens, but only one has ever gotten back to me. She was legit hot as f#*k... smokin', man. She turned out to be a real b!tch... she didn't turn up to the date and didn't respond when I asked her why. Statistically 100 percent of my experience with women on the subjective scale of a ten have been disastrous. What I take out of that is I better stick to the eights and nines. The Chads can have the tens, as they'll probably stuff them around as much as I was stuffed around. Ergo, they deserve each other! Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 I think the thing with most 10s, and also a fair portion of 9s, is that they only attained that level of attractiveness through tactical means - and with an objective in mind. It's not a natural part of their makeup, it's a deliberate and affected means to an end. They have no patience for men who don't fit their objective... whatever that is. They're not there to treat men like fellow humans, they're there to "compare with similar items" in their shopping carts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 There are plenty of normal, sane, successful, beautiful women using OLD. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 I think the thing with most 10s, and also a fair portion of 9s, is that they only attained that level of attractiveness through tactical means - and with an objective in mind. It's not a natural part of their makeup, it's a deliberate and affected means to an end. They have no patience for men who don't fit their objective... whatever that is. They're not there to treat men like fellow humans, they're there to "compare with similar items" in their shopping carts. What do you mean by "tactical means" ? I'm curious. If you mean working out and staying in shape, that to me is just an active lifestyle for the most part. Or do you mean, make-up, clothes, plastic surgery? I may be odd, but I'm a huge fan of no make-up and my ratings on those I've dated are always with regard to next morning, bed head no makeup look. So I guess with great make-up, hair and clothes I've had many a 9 girlfriend by main stream standards. I've seen too many celebrities who in real life without the make-up and hair artist and flattering lighting are just average at best, to put much stock in highly curated images. In my experience (being older), 9's etc. have no more or less of potentially off putting objectives than an 8, 6, 5, 5, 4 etc. Also their "objectives" are not any different than an 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, etc. They can just succeed better at fulfilling them and may have a higher base standard for looks, but don't we all have a minimum for looks? However, I've found that women who are 9's etc have a much lower minimum for looks than men seem to think, or maybe better to say men don't realize there is no one look. Rather these men seem to be projecting how they make physical evaluations onto these women. And yes if you are going to be with a 9, who by very definition is in shape, you better be in shape yourself or really bring the connection. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 There are plenty of normal, sane, successful, beautiful women using OLD. Indeed, and they are looking for intelligent, centered and empathetic, successful, in shape men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
norudder Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 Indeed, and they are looking for intelligent, centered and empathetic, successful, in shape men. That probably relate to women as people and not based on a sophomoric numerical grading? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 I think the thing with most 10s, and also a fair portion of 9s, is that they only attained that level of attractiveness through tactical means How does that work? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 How does that work? women using methods (boob jobs, exercising, makeup/clothing. plastic surgery) to snag a rich and handsome man who bats in the same "league" as she does... Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 women using methods (boob jobs, exercising, makeup/clothing. plastic surgery) to snag a rich and handsome man who bats in the same "league" as she does... Women who do that are by no means a 10. Fake boobs, fake anything, is not a 10 quality trait. 10 is an all-natural, genetically gifted human. You can't BS your way there. Exercising is the only thing people can and should do to be the best version of themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted October 30, 2019 Share Posted October 30, 2019 (edited) Yeah. When I was on OLD I met plenty of sane women who were at least GF material if not wife material. Some were complete "knockouts" looks wise. Some were not. In fact, I found the elusive "chemistry thing" so much harder to find that looks or "material". One of the best examples of this was this fitness model I dated. I once watched a waiter walk into a wall with a full tray because he was distracted by her. It was damn funny. I probably took her out 3 or 4 times. She was into me. But I wasn't into her. Not sure why but I wasn't. Not even in a let's have a fling type way. Go figure. I did meet a knockout 10, who was definitely wife material and with whom I had chemistry on OLD. Took me five years but I finally asked her to be my wife. She said yes! Mrin Edited October 31, 2019 by Mrin 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 This question is directed at the men......have you dated any normal or sane 7s or 8s or 9s through online dating, you know, girlfriend or wife material? Wife material, yes, my fault for not marrying her. Early years, before digital cameras, ad had no picture but she sounded interesting so I wrote. You might remember the site, American Singles. Before meeting, we scanned pictures and e-mailed them. My jaw dropped. She sent a picture of herself and her 15yo daughter together. Wow. It got better from there. Older, her adult daughter was married and had a child. She had been a doctor in the Communist army and worked as a trauma doc at the local hospital. Very low key about her looks. We'd go out to the theater or symphony (dirt cheap over there) and she looked like a movie star in her fur coats. Beautiful green-eyed brunette. Chill, traditional, forever was shooing me out of her kitchen, lips like butter could kiss her for hours. I was an idiot for not K1'ing her. She didn't want to leave, her family was all there, especially close to her grand-daughter. Looking back I should have stayed there. 20/20 hindsight I guess. TBH, though it was a long time ago, I had good luck with OLD. Met my wife that way and had a few girlfriends along the way. IDK how it is now. When I was dating I focused on synergy, how we meshed together, a lot of it non-verbal. With Elena there was a lot of that because we both struggled with language communication. Still, it felt like we fit. No awkward silences, we talked a lot with our eyes and expressions and touch. You just know. TBH, I never went for looks during my dating years. The women I dated were all over the place in that department. It was more how I felt with them. YMMV! Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 (edited) Ahhh , she sounds like a rare one carhill, but eh you married anyway right , good for you. l don't like the numbers thing either or any labels for any bloody thing all over the nest these days, But l'm like carhill , l go on everything looks without the rest are useless to me, not interested.My gf and l also speak different languages too and as carhill was saying it reminds me of us , we have a lot of that too .Mind you even if your the same nationality you should still have a lot of that it's not about nationality , just sayin.. Anyway , when l was online very briefly the first time, well tbh , l was literally traumatized by 90%, l'm not kidden, l felt traumatized . l was married a long time no online before, 23yrs older, they were 23yrs older, wasn't much in my area out in the real world , and l just thought my God, is this what l'm left with, wth happened. Butttt, then l started finding the odd one or two , spoke to some, met some. That first time and l was still kicking myself until l met gf. One in particular, she was so so special , and with the most gorgeous face, but she was also just a really really special girl. YOu know why l didn't see her again, she was a doctor, l'm a tradesman of sorts, aelf employed. l just thought wth would l have in common with some strung out over educated doctor type. She wasn't like that at all , but that's what l felt. She was way way marriage material though, and so were a few others l met. The second time it was much the same but l knew among them there'd be some , a few. l met 3 but my gf came along They were all beauties to my tastes but my gf and l just had a thing the second we talked, and we lived the same and we wanted the same. There are some problems but not with us , outside things not in our control but if we can sort those out hell yeah , we'll marry for sure. She is one special lady but yeah , she also just happens to be gorgeous too. So yep they are in there , among the rest, well on my site anyway. Edited November 1, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 Yes in my stint with online dating (circa 8 years approx) probably the most fascinating thing was how good looking many of the women I met were, I suppose it has been debated many times here and elsewhere but a lot of people are finding it difficult finding love for whatever reason. maybe its a negative of the escalation of technology, while I am still very much in favour of technological advances, society perhaps has become too materialistic and many people are not connecting so well in real life. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 What is a 6/7/8/9/10 in looks? What adjectives would you give to fit those numbers. Does weight loss and straight white teeth help out. Clothes/make up. if your grey dye it. If your balding shave it off if your a man. Does a blonde woman look better with Raven hair. Grow your hair out. Cut it short. What is your scale on looks. Here is my take. 10 your basically an olympic level athlete. 9 your a model. 8 your looks can get you on TV/Actor. 7 your a Rock Star. 6 your decent looking, but you don't have any pizzas to your looks. Looks are subjective. I find Rachel Ray and Meghen McCain much hotter than Angelina Jolie and Jennifer Aniston. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 5 is average, yet seems to me every one on here speaks about 7s and 8s as if they are "rejects"... yet a 7 or 8 is well above average in looks. Every woman they date or sleep with is a 9 or a 10... Frankly it is all nonsense IMO. I guess 4, 5, 6 is a more realistic and objective estimate of the women most "average" men attract. Yes, the eyes of "love" or "lust" can elevate women to giddy heights but objectively... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 Bored ... daylight savings time .... so I'll do something I've done before and make a a different scale, meaningful to me. From bottom up: - repulsive - coarse metaphor beginning with ''I wouldn't phuc'' redacted in an attempt to avoid moderation - no interest - might as well be a guy (I'm 'hopelessly hetero') - friend but low interest - I'd sleep with her if she wanted me to for the sake of friendship - 'sympathy sex' - gf material - attractive enough that I'd absolutely physically enjoy sex - HOT - stands out in a crowd - ego boost when a woman this good-looking finds me attractive - SUPER HOT - celebrity class physical appearance To answer the OP, plenty of women at ALL levels on OLD. Qualification: for repulsive and no interest my assessment is based on photos only because I have intentionally not met any. For SUPER HOT, although I'm 'brave' enough to send messages to them if all the other ducks line up, none of them have agreed to meet me. Again, photos only. So the women I've dated from OLD have been gf material or HOT. The HOTs might not be HOT in the eyes of other men - maybe 'only' gf material who are HOT to me for emotional reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
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