thefooloftheyear Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Well...with no intent to give struggling nice/normal guys any more reason to validate thier experiences(and no intent to call bs on women who say its not true), here is a new study recently released... https://mensvariety.com/psychopath-men-attractive/ I have no real opinion here, just thought I would share it and wait for the responses... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 what does it say? in summary Link to post Share on other sites
Tamfana Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Makes sense to me. The article says that women (doesn’t say what %) found psychopathic traits “attractive,” perhaps because they are “extra confident or feel at ease or know exactly what to say to get the attention of women.” That’s the advice people give men about dating all the time. But it’s only about attracting. It sure doesn’t mean women stick around or end up liking them as people 10 minutes, hours, days or weeks after initial attraction. But that’s what psychopaths learn to do and want to do, attract. After they’ve attracted someone they can’t sustain it or don’t care about having a healthy, mutually happy relationship. It’s analogous to women wearing wigs, padding, girdles, heavily contoured makeup to cover up flaws or reshape their faces, but reality is apparent pretty soon thereafter. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Psychopaths know how to charm people in general, not only women, it's a front to lure them in. Yes women will enjoy a charmer and get caught by the lure, doesn't mean they want a psychopath for partner. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 ted bundy was a good looking charmer and psychopath Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 They probably like their fearlessness. A unique characteristic of psychopaths is they have no fear. They think they are invincible, which may play as ultra confident -- however, pretty sure most women would get red flags after they were around them for any length of time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Studies have also shown that people in leadership positions are disproportionately psychopaths and sociopaths. It doesn't surprise me. People at the top tend to have no qualms about exploiting others and sponging off their hard work. CEO pay is hundreds or even thousands of times worker pay in many of the biggest companies. Only people who don't give a damn about anyone but themselves could be OK with this. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Psychopaths know how to charm people in general, not only women, it's a front to lure them in. My first serious relationship was with a guy who still believe to be a psychopath. It started off with the love bombing and trying to get close really quickly. Of course, once I fell for it, that all changed. I became his possession, of no more value than any of other "things". Of course, if I even hinted that I wanted out, the love bombing would return, followed quickly by physical abuse.I mistook whatever the hell that was for love. Being a kid, I didn't know any better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 IDK that they prefer psychopaths for relationships but it sure does seem they're more attracted to the type when ovulating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Keep in mind the demographic being studied. Sounds like college students that signed up for a study, generally two kinds, those that need money and those who are psychology majors as some programs require participation in a certain number of studies. Psychopath "traits" don't mean a person is a psychopath it's matter of degree. Is it arrogance or confidence for example? One usually can't tell that from such a contrived setting and women don't usually pick men in such contrived settings, although Tinder seems pretty contrived in and of itself. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Keep in mind the demographic being studied. Agreed. And setting aside the fact that the database is "46 male Canadian college students", there's quite a bit of projection going on here. Confidence doesn't indicate psychopathy any more than organization skills portend OCD. Of course women watching a video will prefer assured, well-spoken men over hesitant bumblers. That's a long way from bringing Harvey Weinstein home to meet the parents... Mr. Lucky 6 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Agreed. And setting aside the fact that the database is "46 male Canadian college students", there's quite a bit of projection going on here. .... Wait, what does psychopathy look like in Canada, he's only unfailing polite 80% of the time? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Back in my "girl hunting" days, I definitely found that when I exhibited some psychopathic traits, the girls were easy to pick up. It isn't just male psychopaths who have success at the casual sex game. When you push your emotions to the rear and operate on purely a self-gratification basis, it is amazing how much sex you can have. Having (or appearing to have) excessive self-confidence is key. Display of superficial wealth and popularity, and the ability to mask your true self at will are also important. For whatever reason, most women pick up on the vibes of a more emotional man and stay far away from him. Which is probably the opposite of what it takes to find a more stable and understanding partner. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Studies have also shown that people in leadership positions are disproportionately psychopaths and sociopaths. yes, that is true. people at the top are also abnormal because there are very few people who want to be at the top. most people just want a middle-of-the-road lifestyle, they are the normal ones Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Women are attracted to men who have charisma, charm, confidence. No sh*t Sherlock 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MountainGirl111 Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 The is something about someone with a "crazy edge" that can be sexually attractive...that goes for both male and female. I know a lady who I am pretty sure is bi-polar....most often displayed by her mania...she is never lacking for male attention and company and she is in her 60's...in fact she is never lacking for younger attractive males either. I think she has a sexy edge to her, sure, but what really LURES them in is she appeals to their egos, especially if they somehow need some reassurance about their sexual prowess. I guess the same holds true for good looking men with a crazy edge who know how to charm. That combination can be intoxicating....and when that charm is focused on a woman especially in need of reassurance she is still attractive, it's really intoxicating....then addictive. BUT, it's simply not sustainable in a healthy way. And in fact becomes unhealthy and even destructive. They have no conscience or I guess you could say their conscience is seared. They think anything they do is "right" and "Okay". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Women are attracted to men who have charisma, charm, confidence. No sh*t Sherlock you forgot "cash" basil 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MountainGirl111 Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 you forgot "cash" basil Cash gives them more confidence....lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 ln my experience my crazy periods have only fkd the relationship/ marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 you forgot "cash" basil Hmmm...you'd better contact those researchers and tell them that their work is incomplete 1 Link to post Share on other sites
some_username1 Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Studies have also shown that people in leadership positions are disproportionately psychopaths and sociopaths. It doesn't surprise me. People at the top tend to have no qualms about exploiting others and sponging off their hard work. CEO pay is hundreds or even thousands of times worker pay in many of the biggest companies. Only people who don't give a damn about anyone but themselves could be OK with this. And the talk is always of women’s glass ceiling being CEO. Everyone and their dog knows that CEO’s typically score high in various forms of dark triad traits because of the ruthless decision making they have to execute and yet women want to aspire to being those people, like it’s a good thing?! Can’t wait for the media to empower women by assuring them they can be just as psychopathic as any man 1 Link to post Share on other sites
some_username1 Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Well...with no intent to give struggling nice/normal guys any more reason to validate thier experiences(and no intent to call bs on women who say its not true), here is a new study recently released... https://mensvariety.com/psychopath-men-attractive/ I have no real opinion here, just thought I would share it and wait for the responses... TFY Not exactly “new” news. By all accounts the court room for Ted Bundy’s trial was packed out because of his adoring female fans taking up the whole of the public gallery. That tells you all you need to know about hot psychopaths. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Women are attracted to men who have charisma, charm, confidence. No sh*t Sherlock Yep. Charisma, charm, confidence do not necessarily a psychopath make. Also, agree with those who comment on the demographic tested. Was my first thought. Seems to me wise women (same goes for men) of any age take time to get to know well charismatic confident charmers and check out any red flags before giving their hearts, or other parts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Everyone and their dog knows that CEO’s typically score high in various forms of dark triad traits because of the ruthless decision making they have to execute and yet women want to aspire to being those people, like it’s a good thing?! Lots of speculation in this thread on what it's like to be a CEO without anyone having real experience or knowledge. Modern capitalism certainly isn't perfect, but I'm still waiting for something better... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 (edited) Lots of speculation in this thread on what it's like to be a CEO without anyone having real experience or knowledge. Modern capitalism certainly isn't perfect, but I'm still waiting for something better... Mr. Lucky Totally, we have a CEO in our family who is one of the most self-sacrificing humble people you'll ever meet. He started out in a lowly position and worked his way up, never meaning to become CEO, just wanting to do a great job. Every year just one of the things he does is to personally give a needy person a car. I know that he gives a lot of money to various charities and has put persons who couldn't afford it through college as they work alongside of him in financing it. If you saw his home and the vehicle he drives (an older minivan)you'd never guess he's in the position he's in. (I'm editing this to add the above person can hardly wait to retire as he is worn out from the stress of his job. It's not glamorous. It's hard work and he has sacrificed time away from his family he'll never get back in order to do his work well.) I could write about some others I know personally who are similar and live similarly but the above is probably enough. Edited November 1, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease Link to post Share on other sites
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