LDR, should I stay and wait for my him?

[darkchef30]

Good Day!

 

My boyfriend broke up with me 3-weeks ago. Should I stay and wait for him until he fix everything?

 

By the way my boyfriend is a married man,but he was separated long time ago before we started dating. Last year he filed for annulment for his ex and he/we thought everything was going smoothly. Jus recently he found out that his mom didn’t process the annulment papers and fixing everything to get them back together. He become distant and said he didn’t know how to tell, we are in a Long Distance Relationship anyway.

 

I encouraged him to tell me what’s really going on and what’s really the problem. We didn’t fight or anything, our relationship was good. Until one night that I confronted him and asked why he didn’t message me. Instead of giving me answer he asked for giving him space and let him fix his problem on his own.

 

I gave him the space he wanted, I didn’t message or call him for a week. Then I decided to message him and asked what’s our status.

 

Viola!!!! He told me we’re over because his having a hard time with his struggles. I confronted him but before he read all my rant, he blocked me to all his social media.

 

Should I continue to wait or just let him go? We spent 2-years together

[ExpatInItaly]

A few questions:

 

Have you met him in person?

 

How old are you both?

 

How often do you communicate, and how far apart are you?

 

I have to say, I would not automatically assume he's telling you the truth about his annulment. Why would his mother need to process the paperwork for him? What country is he in where his mom can legally act on his behalf like this? How long is the window for annulment in his country? He's evidently been separated quite a while if he's been with you for two years. It just doesn't seem plausible, OP.

 

It sounds a lot more like he isn't annulling anything, and either changed his mind and got back together with his estranged wife - or they were never broken up to begin with and he got caught.

[LivingWaterPlease]

darkchef30, the only reasonable thing for you to do at this point is to wait until he contacts you again. Do not contact him again ever until you hear something from him.

 

When he asked for space and you gave him a week, then contacted him, you pushed him further away.

 

Given time, he'll possibly begin to miss you and at some point reach out to you. However, it may not happen. You'd best move on with your life, pray about it, and plan for a future without him. I'm sorry, I know that's hard to hear.

[Foxhall]

I would say to let him go,

 

have not always been good at this, but have learned the hard way it is best not to chase after people,

 

if they do not want you, you need to accept that and move on find people who do want you.

[darkchef30]

@ExpatInItaly we’ve known each other for a long time, he’s my sisters friend since they were in high school. He’s 38 and working abroad. Thousand miles a part. I’m 32,single. We communicate everyday despite the time zone but we make sure we catch up. Thanks

 

@LivingWaterPlease : until now I’m still waiting for him to contact me. But I don’t know if he’s still have a plan to show up when he comes home in December. Thanks also

 

@Foxhall : I think so, They all told me to move on and forget about him. What come May, it is up on him. Thanks

 

 

I appreciate all your opinions.

[ExpatInItaly]

@ExpatInItaly we’ve known each other for a long time, he’s my sisters friend since they were in high school. He’s 38 and working abroad. Thousand miles a part. I’m 32,single. We communicate everyday despite the time zone but we make sure we catch up. Thanks

 

And how much time have you spent together in person since you started this relationship?

[d0nnivain]

Let him go. I don't see a future for you.

[stillafool]

I'm sorry you're hurt but it seems like this guy has decided to go back with his wife. People get married for a reason and it's not easy to let it go. I agree that you should move on and not contact him again. The fact that he blocked you before even reading all you wrote is somewhat telling that he's not interested in what you think. He broke up with you so he has to be the one to reach out to you and ask you back.

[darkchef30]

@ExpatinItaly : he comes home twice a year And spent a month vacation. That we usually met. And we’re used to that. We don’t have a problem with our setups though. I understand because he needs to work abroad.

 

@stillafool : I know and it’s really hard to accept that he just threw everything what we’ve been planned for the future. Thanks for the sympathy.

 

@d0nnivain: I wish that’s how easy to let go. But I’m trying...

[ExpatInItaly]

@ExpatinItaly : he comes home twice a year And spent a month vacation. That we usually met. And we’re used to that. We don’t have a problem with our setups though. I understand because he needs to work abroad.

 

That may be, but it still doesn't give you much chance to truly get to know each other. You had never been to visit him, I gather?

[darkchef30]

@ExpatinItaly : The contry he is in not a tourist spot or not allowed to go and visit not unless you're the wife. Very conservative country somewhere in UAE. Chances are I just wait for him to come home and visits me.

[ExpatInItaly]

@ExpatinItaly : The contry he is in not a tourist spot or not allowed to go and visit not unless you're the wife. Very conservative country somewhere in UAE. Chances are I just wait for him to come home and visits me.

 

Are you sure about that, OP? Or is this just what he told you and you took his word for it?

 

I know more than one solo female traveler who has visited the UAE without any problems. Nationals of many different countries can obtain a tourist visa upon arrival in Dubai, for example. https://www.emirates.com/english/before-you-fly/visa-passport-information/uae-visas/

 

If you're talking about Saudi Arabia, then yes, you have a point - but Saudi Arabia is not part of the UAE anyway.

 

Regardless, I have the strong impression you don't know the whole story about his marriage and current living situation. He is not currently single and has been clear he is not going to continue this relationship. Don't wait for him. You will likely be waiting forever.