Not free to disagree

[LivingWaterPlease]

Fair, I believe you make a valid point in your original post. I understand what you're trying to say.

 

I think your thread got sidetracked when it seemed to me you were trying to make a point about logic, ego, and emotions becoming enmeshed in a way that make it difficult for some to process logic.

 

And just want to say, also, that I enjoy and appreciate your presence here and I'm looking forward to more of your posts and threads!

Edited November 2, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease

[Foxhall]

I disagree. And I do know what I'm talking about. Medical professionals don't know it all. They don't know much, in fact. It looks at human beings through a very narrow scope. A one sheet questionnaire buys you a label with a stigma attached to it that you have to carry around with you for life whether or not it's even accurate. Not to mention long term affects of being on medications begun in childhood. Now children are hopped up on pills. Children. Think about that. And mainly only because the drug companies want everyone taking drugs.... hence all these new and fancy disorders that may or may not even exist.

 

I agree with this post, medical Doctors also tend to be arrogant and dismissive of herbalists, but the reality is they (the Doctors) are on the wrong wavelength in my opinion,

 

As regards your first post, personally I am a great believer in a "grey area"

On sensitive subjects such as ADHD, taking a black or white view that this does not exist, that is a risky comment particularly to someone seemingly affected by it,

better to keep an open mind, give your own opinion but be respectful of the other persons likely reaction.

[Lorenza]

In general, I think it's good to know when to shut up. People often overestimate the importance of their opinion - having one doesn't mean we're entitled to expressing it to our friends and burdening them with it. Sometimes it's much kinder and more thoughtful to keep things to yourself, especially if it's of no consequence to your friend.

 

I have a friend who's into astrology. I find it a total bs. I told her I don't really believe in it, but don't go into details debunking it because I know she's not gonna change her views just because I find them ridiculous. Her believing in astrology doesn't affect our friendship, since she mostly applies it to herself and her family. So why should I risk our friendship just because I have an opinion.

[Lorenza]

Or an example that is a bit more similar to yours - a child I was tutoring was diagnosed with dyslexia. He has always struggled with homework and paying attention in school. I just thought he's lazy and spoiled, and saw him doing well when he wanted to, but that was too rare. His mom tried so hard to help him do better in school and when he got diagnosed with dyslexia, she seemed a little relieved that they can finally have a clear plan on how to help him, since professionals were going to work with him now. Me and and his mom were close and talked openly, but I couldn't just tell her I don't think the boy had dyslexia and just needs to stop slacking. I mean that would be such a slap in the face.

[jspice]

Your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to someone else’s child. There’s no benefit in you saying you don’t believe in ADHD. If you’d been having a general conversation about it and her family wasn’t affected by it, then by all means your views would be fine to offer.

 

You made a choice to say your piece. Your friend thinks that your differing viewpoints are too far apart. She can’t ever really talk about her child’s condition with you and this is probably a huge presence in their lives. She either has to censor herself around you or remove you from her life. You chose and she chose.

 

You’re quite antagonistic in this thread, which doesn’t really convince anyone that you’d be level-headed when facing dissenting opinions. Your friend might have this same viewpoint and chose not to engage further. It’s her right.

 

Sometimes it’s better to be kind than to try to be right.

[Kamille]

One of my friends told me recently that her 7 year old is on the autism spectrum.

 

I have watched her son struggle with so much since he was a toddler. I have my own opinions about what is going on that have nothing to do with ASG.

 

Did I tell her about those when she told me about the diagnosis? No. She wasn’t looking to be enlightened by my opinions. She was and has been looking for support. She’s spent years worrying about this child, seeking help, doing everything she can to help him navigate life.

 

And that also means my opinion has way less validity than hers. She’s the one in the trenches here, not me.

 

The diagnosis might also help. And right now, that’s what she needs: help and support, not my random opinion.

[Robert]

I think at this point the thread will remain closed. OP please do not start another one on this subject, thanks