My life is falling apart!!! and its not stopping....

[foxy418]

For the past few months things have been slowly breaking in my life. I handled it. It was hard but I managed. Then suddenly what I thought were problems, I realized it was nothing because my current problems started. The country where I live went through a very violent strike, and is currently very unstable and violent. I have been in fear for 2 months. At the same time, my parents who are close to retirement lost most of their money in a bad investment. I left my country of residence to get away from everything and went to see my parents, and while they were picking me up from the airport, their house get broken into and were robbed of so much, including a lot of very expensive jewelry that I was keeping in their house. My dad is suffering so much I am so worried for him as he is stressed and has heart problems. Now I have to go back home, and things in the country are still very bad.

I am barely keeping it together. I am sick to my stomach all the time and I don't know what to do. My parents who worked so hard all their lives are left with so little...

Why is everything happening and its so bad.... I dont know what to do to fix it...

[preraph]

Sorry for the bad run of luck. Sounds like all you three CAN do is work as many hours, extra jobs, etc. and get caught back up.

[Gaeta]

Your parents had insurance? If the country where you live is unstable why don't you move back home with your husband and children? Seems like your home country would be a better place to raise a family.

[mark clemson]

Maybe try to think outside the box and come up with some creative, unexpected ways to help your situation. Gaeta's idea to live in a different country was one good example. Look for a better job while you work at your current one or some new or different ways to make money. Consider living with your parents (if they will allow it) to help protect them, save money, and live more safely. Maybe there are other things you could consider/try?

 

I suspect any truly effective idea will be easier said than done, but sometimes it's when things are desperate that we make the changes that pay off most.

[foxy418]

Yes the plan right now is to leave and move out. We are working on obtaining a visa for my husband so he is able to move. This process usually takes a year. That means we cannot move for a year...

[TeddyPSmith]

I went through a period of about 4 years where I thought I was going to break at every turn and then something else happened. Ive never been so close to just succumbing to it all as during that time. So much heartbreak, betrayal, loss of money, death, family issues, work issues. Its only now that I seem to be improving.

 

I got on medication for a while and it seemed to help. But I eventually got off of it and it seemed to be a better fit to just feel the pain. I would suggest looking into Jon Kabat Zin audiobooks. Particularly "Full Catastrophe Living" and "Wherever You Go, There You Are". Learning the practice of mindfulness is very helpful. Its also very difficult. You have to just keep trying but its worth it. Its a philosophy and a life practice. Not a gimmick. His voice is also very kind and soothing and the most bearable teacher that ive listened to. You might also check out some Pema Chodron books..."When Things Fall Apart" is a good one. "Radical Self Acceptance" by Tara Brach is also good.

 

I know what you are going through and how desperate and broken it feels. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Its like wandering through the woods in the dark with no flashlight, no trail, and having to find your way out. You just have to keep moving, blindly. Eventually you'll learn to trust your senses and even the tiniest break of light can guide you. This might be your dark night of the soul. Just keep pushing and searching for answers. I wish you the best.