Ruby Slippers Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 After my ex-boyfriend and I broke up in May, I took just about everything he gave me, put it in a big box, and put it in the garage. I just felt that everything had his aura all over it and it made me too sad to even look at it. Today I was cleaning some stuff out of the garage and went through the box. I found a couple of pieces of jewelry that probably have some value, and I'm not sure what to do with them. I can't bring myself to wear them again. It doesn't seem right to let them weather in the garage. My ideas are: 1. Mail them back to him so he can sell them or do whatever he wants with them - my hesitation here is that I don't want to aggravate old wounds for him by doing this - it seems so rejecting to him. And given how romantic and emotional he is, I'm pretty sure he would be hurt by this. 2. Sell them - technically "fair," but feels cold. 3. Donate them - this seems like the best solution - what are your thoughts? If this is the best idea, where should I donate them? If I give them to Goodwill or similar, I imagine they'll just sell them. They're both romantic, feminine pieces of jewelry. I suppose the best outcome would be get them into the hands of some nice man with a limited budget who'd like to give his woman something nice. How can I do that? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 Do you have any relatives or friends who would like to have them? Otherwise, I would sell them if they are actual gold or silver. Why not? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 How can I do that? drape a sign around your neck and stand in front of a busy jewelry store no, i'm just kidding. you should keep all the jewelry. maybe one day in the future you'll be able to wear some of it again. you have only been split up for 6 months. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 I agree with alpha. I wear jewelry from my exBF. We broke up like four or five years ago, I’m not sure. Sometimes I run into him and I'm wearing something he gave me. He doesn’t ever mention it but I’m pretty sure he notices. Either way it’s not something I think about too often but when I do it’s fond memories of a nice man I once dated. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 "there is nothing that the passage of time cannot remedy" - Alphamale 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 There is no rush in discarding them. I say put them back in their box and revisit in a couple of years. I have kept all the jewelry my ex-husband gave me. I forgot about the box and years later I started wearing some of them. I don't have to tell anyone where I got them. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 (edited) I've done several different things with jewelry from ex's. I gave two different necklaces (diamond) to my DIL's on their wedding day. I sold two different rings and a necklace to help buy a car for my older son many years ago. And I am saving some for my now granddaughters to have one day. Edited November 2, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 I seriously doubt he wants it back... Put it away, it's yours and one day you might wear it... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 in the old days women used to hoard jewelry just in case they had to leave their abusive husbands. the jewelry was as good as cash and easy to sell Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 It depends on how much sentiment you feel for the jewelry and how much time and effort you want to invest in disposing of them. I vote for Goodwill. I took two of my guitars over to them four years ago and I haven't thought about them since. It was very quick and easy. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 He gave you the jewelry as a gift. The gift was complete when you received the items. They are yours. You can dispose of them anyway you want. I would not give them back unless they were sentimental heirloom pieces. I have jewelry from other relationships; they are nice pieces & I like them. They do not remind me of the men who gave them to me but I'm not super sentimental that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ruby Slippers Posted November 3, 2019 Author Share Posted November 3, 2019 I'm 99.9% sure I'll never wear them again. I'm too emotional and sensitive. I have this gorgeous sparkly vintage necklace that looks like something a princess would wear that another ex gave me. It's tucked away somewhere and I don't think I could ever wear it again, either. Link to post Share on other sites
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