alphamale Posted November 21, 2019 Share Posted November 21, 2019 My retail ex-coworker initiated all contact with me, and I initially thought that she was just being friendly. This was because it was pretty similar to how friendships were formed back in school, so I thought nothing of it. But then she ramped up the contact, talked to me about the most frivolous things, called me adorable and gave me her contact details. She only decided to block me after I told her that we are just friends. Ouch. was she fat and ugly Envy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SumGuy Posted November 21, 2019 Author Share Posted November 21, 2019 if you are good looking you're bound to get noticed lol : ) yes also if you are odd looking, ugly, wearing something attention grabbing, have something on your shirt, acting in an attention seeking manner, etc. ad nauseum. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted November 21, 2019 Share Posted November 21, 2019 My personal experience in 20 years in the dating pool mirror a previous poster: if a woman is actually interested, she will no doubt ask tons of questions about me. No need for gestures and physical approach as these come later. Like Carhill though I’ll probably die ignorant too, but when someone be it a lady or a dude is interested they will make it pretty clear. Women are probably more subtle as well. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 21, 2019 Share Posted November 21, 2019 lol : ) yes also if you are odd looking, ugly, wearing something attention grabbing, have something on your shirt, acting in an attention seeking manner, etc. ad nauseum. really? see, I don't look at those people. first, its rude to stare at odd or ugly people or people with medical issues. I don't care if someone has a stain on their clothes. I do, however, look at good looking women Link to post Share on other sites
Envy123 Posted November 21, 2019 Share Posted November 21, 2019 was she fat and ugly Envy? Actually, she was pretty cute and thin. The only defect was a permanent mark on her left cheek, but she was pretty attractive. Only thing was that I felt nothing for her. I couldn't even imagine myself kissing her, let alone anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 21, 2019 Share Posted November 21, 2019 I couldn't even imagine myself kissing her, let alone anything else. yea I could never date a girl with a facial mole Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 (edited) Must admit , l'm pretty surprised through this thread, seems short of a sign cross her forehead a lot of guys just don't see things. They've probably missed dozens and dozens in that case from over the years. Probably how these guys that can just walk into anywhere and hook up with someone like my brother, do it, being in tune to and seeing things most guys miss. Not that that's my thing at all but we always get a laugh watching him and going out anywhere with him. Edited November 22, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Envy123 Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 yea I could never date a girl with a facial mole It was more like a scar than a mole. Regardless, she had a ton of guys after her. I really wasn't interested in her and so was myself, but she assumed I was playing "hard to get" until she got that bombshell. It is flattering, I suppose, considering my body shape but on the other side, I was uncomfortable with the chasing and that really shifted my opinion on her. To think all she wanted was to get into my pants. I felt used. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 poor used envy nah nothin wrong with a scar mate, seen lovely chicks with something like that. l know it can really bother them but doesn't me, sometimes it even gives her a bit of character. Link to post Share on other sites
Envy123 Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 On the other side, a part of me is flattered that I am deemed attractive enough to be chased. I did want to continue being with her as a friend, but c'est la vie... Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 A flash of the highbeams(not the ones in the car;)) are usually a very good sign of interest... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 22, 2019 Share Posted November 22, 2019 It was more like a scar than a mole. oh well that's different, I could deal with a scar if the rest of the package is there Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted November 23, 2019 Share Posted November 23, 2019 Being friendly, smiling, being close (of their own free will not because a guy is putting himself into their space), willing to share personal information, letting a guy know about their plans. If a woman does not want to get to know a guy, she will be polite, smile maybe, but be a bit distant. Might ask polite questions, but will be reticent with any personal information. She is unlikely to touch him in any warm affectionate way and will back off and edge away if he steps closer. She will not be keen to swap info such as tel. no. or where she lives or where she is planning to go (he might turn up there). She will not want to appear vulnerable in any way because it would give him an excuse to offer help or get close and offer sympathy. Listening politely is not an indicator of interest, nor is it if a woman is backing off physically or showing just as much interest in others. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 23, 2019 Share Posted November 23, 2019 Being friendly, smiling, being close (of their own free will not because a guy is putting himself into their space), willing to share personal information, letting a guy know about their plans. If a woman does not want to get to know a guy, she will be polite, smile maybe, but be a bit distant. Might ask polite questions, but will be reticent with any personal information. She is unlikely to touch him in any warm affectionate way and will back off and edge away if he steps closer. She will not be keen to swap info such as tel. no. or where she lives or where she is planning to go (he might turn up there). She will not want to appear vulnerable in any way because it would give him an excuse to offer help or get close and offer sympathy. Listening politely is not an indicator of interest, nor is it if a woman is backing off physically or showing just as much interest in others. I find that prolonged eye contact is always the dead giveaway when it comes to women signaling men 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted November 23, 2019 Share Posted November 23, 2019 Prolonged eye contact is a good signal in general. But it's one of those fuzzy hard-to-define things, and it's not 100% reliable. I've seen delusional men insist that women in retail were totally into them because they made eye contact and smiled. Dude, no, that's her job. And some people have been trained to make eye contact as much as possible when talking to people. Others find eye contact extremely uncomfortable and may avoid it even if they're into you. There's also the problem of how do you know what 'prolonged' is, if you're not certain? Can't really sit there with a stopwatch. Eye contact is a very good start, I'm not knocking it! But nothing's absolute. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 23, 2019 Share Posted November 23, 2019 There's also the problem of how do you know what 'prolonged' is, ... I know it when I see it Link to post Share on other sites
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