Did I Make The Right Choice?

[MIAho]

A few months ago, I met this woman through a dating app. Initially, we seemed to have a lot in common. However, She was very religious and insisted that she wasn't looking to rush into anything. She also insisted that she wanted to have a celibate relationship.

 

On our first date, we met for dinner and things seemed promising. But on our second date, which was a simple walk in the park, she acted a little more reserved and abruptly ended it to go volunteer at a senior center. Despite that, she texted me later that evening to tell me that she had a great time and continued texting me daily.

 

A few weeks later, we met in the same park and did the same thing(at her insistence) for our 3rd date, which she also abruptly cut short because she had to go to mass. Shortly after our 3rd date, her texts started to become less frequent. She went from texting me every day to texting me every other day to sending me 2-3 texts on Sundays. When I brought up getting together again, she seemed vaguely interested in seeing me again and only said: "We'll see." The following week when she texted me, I told her that I didn't think this was going to work out and that I didn't want to continue seeing and text her anymore.

 

Do you think I did the right thing by ending things with her?

[schlumpy]

She also insisted that she wanted to have a celibate relationship.

 

On our first date, we met for dinner and things seemed promising. But on our second date, which was a simple walk in the park, she acted a little more reserved and abruptly ended it to go volunteer at a senior center. Despite that, she texted me later that evening to tell me that she had a great time and continued texting me daily.

 

A few weeks later, we met in the same park and did the same thing(at her insistence) for our 3rd date, which she also abruptly cut short because she had to go to mass. Shortly after our 3rd date, her texts started to become less frequent.

 

Do you think I did the right thing by ending things with her?

 

How do you know she went to help at a senior center or that she went mass? Did you take her there?

 

I think you did the right thing by moving on. Her behavior is certainly odd. I mean fine she wants to be celibate until married. You either accept that or you don't. At least she is upfront about it.

 

But the way she wanted to control the dating venue made me think, "Hey, wants going on here?" Better luck with the next round.

[spiderowl]

A few months ago, I met this woman through a dating app. Initially, we seemed to have a lot in common. However, She was very religious and insisted that she wasn't looking to rush into anything. She also insisted that she wanted to have a celibate relationship.

 

On our first date, we met for dinner and things seemed promising. But on our second date, which was a simple walk in the park, she acted a little more reserved and abruptly ended it to go volunteer at a senior center. Despite that, she texted me later that evening to tell me that she had a great time and continued texting me daily.

 

A few weeks later, we met in the same park and did the same thing(at her insistence) for our 3rd date, which she also abruptly cut short because she had to go to mass. Shortly after our 3rd date, her texts started to become less frequent. She went from texting me every day to texting me every other day to sending me 2-3 texts on Sundays. When I brought up getting together again, she seemed vaguely interested in seeing me again and only said: "We'll see." The following week when she texted me, I told her that I didn't think this was going to work out and that I didn't want to continue seeing and text her anymore.

 

Do you think I did the right thing by ending things with her?

 

Yes! She was fizzling out so what is the point of trying to make that work?

 

I am sure there are lots of women out there who are looking for a sincere relationship. I don't see the point in trying to date someone who seems so uninterested.

[rjc149]

When I brought up getting together again, she seemed vaguely interested in seeing me again and only said: "We'll see."

 

We'll see = no

 

Do you think I did the right thing by ending things with her?

 

Yes. Not only was it the right move, but you kept your dignity and self-respect by ending it yourself and not chasing her until she ended it or ghosted you.

 

I would fully anticipate this weirdo to text you again. How you handle it is up to you.

Edited November 7, 2019 by rjc149