unlisted Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 I was dating someone amazing for the past month but there were many strains on our relationship that contributed to it not working out: -I work from home in the suburbs and am working on fixing my car so he was the one who had to drive 20 miles to come see me all the time. When he came, he just wanted to hang out but I got cabin fever and wanted to go out but he didn't want to feel like an Uber driver. -by the second date, he told me he wanted to be exclusive. I wasn't ready yet but I liked him a lot and really wanted it to work out so I decided I would commit to it but I second guessed everything -he joked about anything and everything. When I asked him to stop on some of the jokes because it was upsetting me, he didn't seem to understand and kept doing it so he started to annoy me -He got along great with my five-year old niece but he started talking and acting like her because he was trying to be playful but it really turned me off We were chatting last week when he made fun of something I was passionate about and it really upset me. I got over it but he kept joking about other stuff and I wanted to be a bit more serious. He said I didn't like to have fun and that's when I realized maybe we're incompatible. In the spur of the moment, I realized how upset and grumpy I was feeling, and that nobody had made me feel this upset in such a long time, so I broke up with him. It took me a few days to calm down before I could talk to him again but I realized that even though I had thought of breaking up with him almost everyday, I never meant to actually do it. I wanted to work it out with him. I meant to tell him the issues I felt we were having but I had a hard time actually saying it. I called him but it looks like he got so upset he doesn't want to get back together. He felt I took him for granted and I didn't put in enough effort because just hanging out wasn't good enough. He also felt like I was too blunt and I realized I had been selfish because he was just trying to support me the whole time with my no car situation. I know it wasn't very long but I think he really liked me and was so hurt by my just breaking it off. I also tend to move a lot so I mentioned I wanted to move somewhere else eventually but I meant I wanted him to come with me.. I didn't say that so he thought I was just using him to bide time. I know we're a little different but I really thought we had potential. I felt like with my car situation and all the miscommunication, it wasn't fair to our relationship. I don't want to bug him again but it's really too bad it didn't work out. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 From your post it seems to me the two of you are incompatible. One thing you brought up throughout your post is that you're serious, he's fun loving and cracking jokes a lot which got on your nerves. That's the way he is and he's not going to change. Trying to get him to be like you will make you both unhappy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author unlisted Posted November 6, 2019 Author Share Posted November 6, 2019 why does the right thing to do always hurt so badly? :*(*** Link to post Share on other sites
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