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I don't find Chris attractive, and I'm an "age eligible woman". I'm sure he's good looking to some, but I'm sure plenty of women (1s, 5s and 10s) would reject him.

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You've had a 10 have you, bud? Wow, for all my dating activities online, I can't ever say I've had a 10. Good for you, my friend.

 

College girl; mixed Euro-Japanese parents, dancer, smart, fun, sexually experimental, party girl. Widely recognized as one of the top 10 girls of her incoming class, possibly of the entire college depending on one's tastes.

 

We were considered a social item, i.e. one of the couples people talk about etc, mostly due to her. Lasted the better part of a year.

 

The breakup was rough. Her next BF (pretty soon after) and her were a social item too. So I was the "cast off". :rolleyes:

 

Gotta take the rough with the smooth I guess.

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Kitty Tantrum

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First of all, different people have different tastes. I had to google Chris Hemsworth... and I don't find him particularly attractive. He looks very GENERICALLY attractive. Some women go for that, but not all. No matter HOW hot a guy (or girl) is to one person or group of people, there will always be other people out there who disagree. So the whole "he can have ANY woman" thing isn't really true. Ever. A guy who looks just like Chris Hemsworth would have no looks-based relationship advantage with me.

 

That being said... I've got a Chad. He doesn't have the mainstream buff appearance-obsessed prettyboy appeal (though maybe he did when he was younger, I've got one picture of him in his early twenties and he was pretty conventionally "hot" IMO), but he has ruggedly handsome DOWN. Big broad shoulders, very muscular, very masculine. He gets a LOT of female attention. He doesn't always notice the more subtle stuff that comes out when we're together, but I sure do! I've never asked him how many women he's been with, but I assume it's probably a lot. As far as I'm aware, his only problems with women have been problems WITH WOMEN - not problems getting women.

 

And I think that's an important thing to keep in mind, and why, I think, a lot of "Chads" don't see being "A Chad" as something so advantageous as anyone who is "Not A Chad" makes it out to be. Don't mistake the ease with which "Chad" can get laid if he goes through whatever set of steps, for some mystical ability to find and secure a healthy relationship. It is well established that the criteria people use to evaluate the people they sleep with quickly are different from the criteria they use to evaluate relationship potential. It's especially true that women don't value looks as much in general, but especially for long-term relationships. A man's physical appearance simply does not hold the same kind of power over women - generally speaking - as a woman's appearance holds over a man. I think "Chad" knows this instinctively, even if he doesn't recognize or understand the principle cognitively. When a "Chad" says that a woman is out of his league because she's gorgeous, he's kind of taking a highly nuanced intuitive understanding based on experience, and spitting it out in clunky, over-simplified terms.

 

My Chad has a trail of exes in his wake who broke up with him because their [XYZ consumer attachment] was more important than keeping him, basically. He's muscular and handsome, he's smart, he's funny, he's naturally loyal/faithful, confident with women, skilled and giving in bed... and hung, to boot. He was making a lot of money for a while, too, and had the "fun" lifestyle to match, in his "prime dating years." He's quite a catch. And yet, shortly before we met he found out that he has a daughter (now in her twenties) who he never knew about because the mother decided to tell some other guy it was his baby - I guess the "redpill" crowd would call that guy the "beta bucks." He has an ex who was a typical career woman and basically wasn't satisfied with a man who wasn't motivated to outpace her in terms of earnings and professional prestige. He has an ex who wouldn't give up her drug habit, and chose that over marrying him and carrying his child to term. Those are just the things I know about, that he's shared freely with me.

 

Chads get their hearts broken, too. Chads understand better than a lot of men, by way of repeated firsthand experience, that hot women are not always better women. When I hear a "Chad" say that a woman is out of his league, what I actually hear is "I doubt she would be loyal." Not necessarily that he thinks she'll CHEAT on him - just that he isn't confident she won't remain on the lookout for something "better" - whatever "better" is in her eyes - or simply disqualify him because he has the wrong job, not enough social status, etc. Chads understand pretty well that there are an awful lot of factors that rank higher than appearance, because they HAVE the appearance thing covered and have learned that their looks don't keep women around. Especially if he's already gotten her into bed, I'd say he's probably picking up on behavioral cues that support this. She was willing to sleep with him quickly because he's hot, that doesn't necessarily mean she'll have any interest in an ongoing relationship.

 

It's a trope for a reason that the hottest women are the pickiest. They have a lot of "buying power" because of their looks. But it's an absurdly common misconception that what they're out to negotiate for is an appropriate "looksmatch." A lot of guys seem to have this misconception - and it's a lot like when women mistakenly assume that men are after the same things they are. Men are appearance-driven, so they assume women are too. Women are resource/power/influence driven, so they assume men are, too. Men think that being really physically hot and immaculately groomed is the key to success with women. Women think that being strong, independent, having a good career, etc. is the key to success with men. It's all backwards. These are things that tend to afford an advantage in terms of getting more sexual partners - but not in terms of securing one partner for commitment/marriage.

 

I don't think this guy has "forgotten" that he's a Chad. He just knows what being a Chad is really like.

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I don't find Chris attractive, and I'm an "age eligible woman". I'm sure he's good looking to some, but I'm sure plenty of women (1s, 5s and 10s) would reject him.

Wow, you don't find Chris attractive? Jeez, I'd hate to hear what you'd think of the average guy getting around, then! :confused:

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I knew one really good looking guy when I was younger and his girlfriend started coming on to me after she got to know me because he was such a whiny bitch. Nice guy but weak.

 

All that theorizing and pontificating about good looking guys is a waste of time since strength and charm will take you almost anywhere you want to go with women, even if you're not the best looking guy.

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All that theorizing and pontificating about good looking guys is a waste of time since strength and charm will take you almost anywhere you want to go with women, even if you're not the best looking guy.

 

I don't scare animals and small children too badly, but it's a damn good thing that women rely on criteria other than looks when partnering up...

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I don't find Chris attractive, and I'm an "age eligible woman". I'm sure he's good looking to some, but I'm sure plenty of women (1s, 5s and 10s) would reject him.

 

Leaves more for me :)

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I knew one really good looking guy when I was younger and his girlfriend started coming on to me after she got to know me because he was such a whiny bitch. Nice guy but weak.

 

All that theorizing and pontificating about good looking guys is a waste of time since strength and charm will take you almost anywhere you want to go with women, even if you're not the best looking guy.

 

Ding ding ding.

 

Also worth noting that a big part of why I don't find guys like Chris Hemsworth (or most male celebrities) particularly attractive is because, to me, that "polished" look screams of effeminacy. The men I've known who care most about their appearance have never been the most masculine. "Prettyboy" is the word that comes to mind when I Google Chris Hemsworth. Not "manly" by any stretch of the imagination.

 

It's too easy to picture him (and any man who has ever gazed soulfully into a camera lens) weeping gratuitously into a cup of tea. :sick:

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Lol :) . Just goes to show there ain’t no winning (or losing) when it comes to being a man. I tend to focus on the no losing part, be yourself it seems and there is some woman some where that is in to it. The secret of course is finding that woman.

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Ding ding ding.

 

Also worth noting that a big part of why I don't find guys like Chris Hemsworth (or most male celebrities) particularly attractive is because, to me, that "polished" look screams of effeminacy. The men I've known who care most about their appearance have never been the most masculine. "Prettyboy" is the word that comes to mind when I Google Chris Hemsworth. Not "manly" by any stretch of the imagination.

 

It's too easy to picture him (and any man who has ever gazed soulfully into a camera lens) weeping gratuitously into a cup of tea. :sick:

Hmmm. I don't know about that. I've known a couple of Aussies in my time and they don't strike me as a country of sissy males. They were straight shooters with a great sense of humor. Sometimes it was hard to discern whether they were being serious or "taking the piss" (a intriguing Aussie expression). I think Chris would be a great dude to have a beer with. Meh, perhaps (no, in fact I'm sure) you're not a Marvel fan...

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