Should We Remain Friends?

[LeviSweety]

Broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago. I told him during the breakup talk I did not want to be in contact. I felt like this was decision I had to make to fully heal. But yeah after the breakup he started calling me daily! He wouldn’t respond to my text or calls for 24hrs or more while we were in a relationship. It was just a big **** me until he felt like getting back to me. He was emotionally and mentally abusive. That’s the main reason we broke up. He’s been going through a rough patch for a while now so i didn’t know when to end it but I figured **** it’s a good time now.

 

I call him sometimes but I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to be friends. I don’t think he’s a nice person and I don’t think we should be friends but at the same time I’m afraid of losing him. But I know this is the best thing for me! Idk why it’s so complicated. I know as soon as he gets a new girlfriend he is going to act like i don’t exist. Can you cut an ex off slowly or is it a rip the bandaid type of thing?

[d0nnivain]

Both approaches are valid. I have always been a rip the band aid off type of girl.

[rjc149]

He was emotionally and mentally abusive. That’s the main reason we broke up... but at the same time I’m afraid of losing him. I know as soon as he gets a new girlfriend he is going to act like i don’t exist.

 

The whirlwind of emotion you're feeling is what's making you confused, but there's really nothing confusing about this situation, what you need to do, and why doing it is clearly the only healthy way forward.