spiderowl Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Yes that's what I meant, to re-add her. I can see why you are doubtful and I don't blame you. If she was angry when you removed her, she feels something. She noticed. She must be very confused about it all - you don't want to sleep with her, seem to be hiding something, and then when she gives up on you in frustration, you remove her from your social media. I can see both points of view. She could have been kinder though - not wanting to sleep with her because you are not ready is hardly cause to be rude to you. Of course, removing her from your social media does ruin any chance of rapprochement. Maybe that's why she was angry. She liked you despite things not making sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Author movingonnow1 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 Yes that's what I meant, to re-add her. I can see why you are doubtful and I don't blame you. If she was angry when you removed her, she feels something. She noticed. She must be very confused about it all - you don't want to sleep with her, seem to be hiding something, and then when she gives up on you in frustration, you remove her from your social media. She did give up on me in frustration as she could defiantly sense I wasn't being fully honest with her. I don't blame her for being annoyed by that. Should I maybe send her a message, in maybe a week? Saying something along the lines of this (feel free to edit or tell me this is a bad idea, please): "Hey xx, you don't have to respond to this. I've had some time to think about what happened and I can understand why you felt things didn't add up. If one day you feel like you could be open minded and have an honest conversation with me, I still am willing to talk about why everything happened the way they did between us. But, if you feel like you could never trust what I have to say, then I respect that and there's no need to talk. I honestly had the best intentions in mind with you and it's still disappointing to me how things unfolded. Think about it and let me know." I know she will most likely say no, but at least I am offering an olive branch to her to reach back out if she wants. I shouldn't have removed her from Instagram but it's how I felt at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author movingonnow1 Posted November 14, 2019 Author Share Posted November 14, 2019 I am really considering sending her a message to try to reconnect and over that olive branch. It's starting to really eat at me. Is this a bad idea? I feel like she should really know what happened and maybe it'll change how she views me. I really regret removing her from instagram now... Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted November 14, 2019 Share Posted November 14, 2019 I think maybe if you really do want to reconnect with her, it would be ok to add her on Instagram again (if you have that option) but not to take further action. After all, she is the one who opted out, not you. It must be up to her to see if you and she still have an emotional connection left. Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted November 17, 2019 Share Posted November 17, 2019 I am really considering sending her a message to try to reconnect and over that olive branch. It's starting to really eat at me. Is this a bad idea? I feel like she should really know what happened and maybe it'll change how she views me. I really regret removing her from instagram now... Personally, I think it's a bad idea. What do you hope you'll accomplish by doing so? I think your best course of action is to do nothing. I think you dodged a bullet. Link to post Share on other sites
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