Springsummer Posted November 7, 2019 Share Posted November 7, 2019 (edited) I told me self to be calm, not to let things and people affect me. I told myself to take it easy. I think I had no choice but to write an email to someone who is two levels above me. Today, we walked by, he looked at me and said hi. damn, people who appear nice really doesn't mean anything, it's action that speak lounder than word. I plan to do it first thing in the morning and told me self to relax and forget about it and have a good night sleep. It's not wise to let other people affect me. but here I am woke up 2:30am in the morning, now it's almost 4am. wide awake. Maybe it's the first time in my life I am like this. I normally can sleep no matter what. so no matter what my brain told myself, my body just couldn't listen. so, apparently, the conscious mind can't control the subconscious mind. whoever can, I would say she/he has arrived at sainthood. Edited November 7, 2019 by Springsummer Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted November 7, 2019 Author Share Posted November 7, 2019 (edited) Anyone here can? please share your idea and method as to how we can really control ourselves? to let our bodies listen to our brain? (damn, can't edit my original text because there are grammar and punctuation mistakes) Edited November 7, 2019 by Springsummer Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted November 7, 2019 Share Posted November 7, 2019 It would be easy to have a golden rule as to how to control ourselves. The truth is there's no such thing. It's always a battle between the mind, the heart, the soul.. Nobody ever wins or loses. You're on the right track though - other people shouldn't affect you. The reality is they will, if you care or cared for them it's not so easy to switch off. Even when it is I do not recommend it.. You might be awake now but it won't always be like that : ) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted November 7, 2019 Share Posted November 7, 2019 Anyone here can? please share your idea and method as to how we can really control ourselves? to let our bodies listen to our brain? (damn, can't edit my original text because there are grammar and punctuation mistakes) I'm going thru the opposite. My body is fine (no anxiety, sleep fine, eat fine, feel fine), but my brain has a mind of it's own though. I'm having intrusive thoughts that I can't turn off. Just have to remember that time is the great healer. Maybe some more info will help people give you better advice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted November 7, 2019 Author Share Posted November 7, 2019 managed to have 1-2 hours of sleep. woke up to a world covered by snow. first snow of the year. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted November 7, 2019 Author Share Posted November 7, 2019 I'm going thru the opposite. My body is fine (no anxiety, sleep fine, eat fine, feel fine), but my brain has a mind of it's own though. I'm having intrusive thoughts that I can't turn off. Just have to remember that time is the great healer. Maybe some more info will help people give you better advice . I was like that too. that was why I said it's unusual for me...seems to change in the last 1-2 months. yesterday night was the worst. Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted November 7, 2019 Share Posted November 7, 2019 meditation religious or spiritual context is NOT necessary The Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson Autogenic therapy ... I couldn't find any currently available English translations of J H Schultz' works. Books by Wolfgang Luthe are available but long-winded and expensive as shyte. You may have to hunt around for a practical tutorial rather than a deep academic treatise. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted November 7, 2019 Share Posted November 7, 2019 Seconded on the meditation (meditative prayer in my case, but it's the same difference IMO). However, that is not a full 100% solution to anxiety, etc. I take melatonin, which helps me to sleep a LOT. Apparently my body (which appears to make plenty of certain other hormones) doesn't make enough of that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Springsummer Posted November 8, 2019 Author Share Posted November 8, 2019 meditation religious or spiritual context is NOT necessary The Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson Autogenic therapy ... I couldn't find any currently available English translations of J H Schultz' works. Books by Wolfgang Luthe are available but long-winded and expensive as shyte. You may have to hunt around for a practical tutorial rather than a deep academic treatise. Thank you! I googled abit. seems very relevant to this topic. https://www.amazon.ca/Relaxation-Response-Herbert-Benson-M-D/dp/0380006766/ref=tmm_mmp_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 I kind of get what you're saying. Most of my life, I haven't had to behave myself. I eat what/when/where I want to. I have sex when I feel like it. When I'm mad, I have zero restraint. Drive fast, drink a lot, live hard, and sleep pretty damn good. My husband says I tend to be a "tornado with legs." Now I'm a wife and mom.....different rulebook! So adjusting and getting the mind to settle down takes some time, especially when I can't behave the way I want to. Get exercise, get physical affection, and stay busy. Hard work takes care of useless thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 I used to take melatonin, but then I needed more and more and started feeling a little groggy in the morning. Lately, I have been using CBD oil, which works wonders for me. While it is extracted from the cannabis plant, it has no THC (which would be illegal in my state), so it does not make you feel "high", it just relaxes you and helps with anxiety. Of course, exercise is the best way to tire yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
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