Should women stay away from men who make eye contact with them?

[Vanity1]

They say to let a girl know that you are interested in them is to make eye contact with her.

 

However, all the guys I met somewhere randomly that gave me “the eye”they all turned out to be players.

Isn’t it better to let things just happen naturally?

 

I feel like it’s better to just go for the guy who gives you zero interest until you initiate first.

 

Men of LS. What’s a girl to do? Ignore the man who eye balls you? Do ‘proper’ guys with good intentions do this or is it the thirsty player type? How to proper men usually let a girl know he’s interested?

[alphamale]

i make extended eye contact with women i am very attracted to. many smile back, some ignore me. it's all just fun flirting. when there is mutual attraction there will be a lot of gazing back and forth....act on it if you want.

[Vanity1]

i make extended eye contact with women i am very attracted to. many smile back, some ignore me. it's all just fun flirting. when there is mutual attraction there will be a lot of gazing back and forth....act on it if you want.

 

You didn’t answer my question/s sir.

[alphamale]

guys who are confident are the ones who "make eyes" with girls

[todreaminblue]

eye contact is as important as smiling...players make eye contact ...normal people or guys who have good intentions also make eye contact.......deb

[preraph]

I don't know why it's so hard for people to just reach a comfortable casual middle ground. I say go for people that aren't so constipated that they can't just look up at you and say hi or smile, instead of staring at you from afar.

[todreaminblue]

what is important is getting to know a guy you like ....then determining how good his intentions are with intuition,communication and wisdom i feel to start to do that communication the first steps would be eye contact and smiling.....deb

[Vanity1]

guys who are confident are the ones who "make eyes" with girls

 

I know that, that’s why I think they always turn out to be players. From my experience that’s definitely the case.

 

I guess it depends on the state. This is so tricky.

[Vanity1]

eye contact is as important as smiling...players make eye contact ...normal people or guys who have good intentions also make eye contact.......deb

 

I feel like good guys with good intentions don’t. They don’t care, they see an attractive girl at some random place ( say a restaurant) they look once and move on. They know there’s attractive girls everywhere, and don’t see the point in staring her down. I think good guys think that it may make the girl uncomfortable.

[preraph]

Staring is definitely not good. I don't think that's an alpha move. I think alpha passes by and says hi or smiles in a friendly way.

[Foxhall]

the "6 second stare" seemed to work well for a buddy of mine back in the day when we were going to clubs,

 

I was never particularly comfortable with this "tactic" myself, it made me feel creepy!

 

in general I would say brief eye contact with a smile is good, as this guy should be able to put you at ease.

[basil67]

Being able to make eye contact is a basic social skill, but there are different kinds of eye contact. It's about being able to read it. I would be wary of the 'six second stare' as mentioned by Foxhall, but an open smile with happy eyes would make me feel comfortable. That said, looking at a person's ongoing behaviour is far more important than judging an initial smile.

 

Also, how do you define 'player'?

[central]

If you are willing to make the approach to men of interest who don't do eye contact, then I suppose you can overlook this show of interest. Not all such men are players, but most players are confident, so perhaps you are on to something. No matter what, you still have to get to know someone a bit to evaluate their interest and intentions.

[Vanity1]

Being able to make eye contact is a basic social skill, but there are different kinds of eye contact. It's about being able to read it. I would be wary of the 'six second stare' as mentioned by Foxhall, but an open smile with happy eyes would make me feel comfortable. That said, looking at a person's ongoing behaviour is far more important than judging an initial smile.

 

Also, how do you define 'player'?

 

A cheater. A liar. Has multiple girls.

[Lotsgoingon]

I think you're onto something ... I mean, when I see a woman I like, I might quickly look at her, but when I'm out and about, I'm focused on what I'm doing ... groceries ... distracted by a deadline in my head ... rushing to beat a parking meter from expiring ...

 

I think you're right ... the guys who consistently go for the eye contact ... are putting out a lot of energy and focus ... probably they lean toward the players side ...

[d0nnivain]

There's eye contact & then there is leering. They are different. Eye contact is a good thing. Leering is something else altogether. You certainly don't want to be with somebody who stares at their own shoes.

 

The thing with players is they are smooth. They know how to say & do all the right things to make you think they are into you. When you are getting too much of a good thing & you don't sense any hesitancy on the part of the other person, when they always have just the right thing to say & come on super strong in the beginning, you probably are dealing with somebody just looking for another notch on the bedpost but if there's a bit of awkwardness, some hesitation, the occasional flub, just because they can manage eye contact & a conversation doesn't make them bad or undesirable.

[chillii]

l've never wasted my time eyeballing women , not on purpose anyway.

Sounds pathetic in general , l mean it just happens naturally from you both when it's someone special anyway.

Mind you, l've eyeballed many an ass

[alphamale]

humans tend to look at what they like and tend to look away from things that they don't like

[todreaminblue]

I feel like good guys with good intentions don’t. They don’t care, they see an attractive girl at some random place ( say a restaurant) they look once and move on. They know there’s attractive girls everywhere, and don’t see the point in staring her down. I think good guys think that it may make the girl uncomfortable.

 

 

eye contact to me isnt staring someone down, its about acknowledging someones presence with eye contact....you do that by seeing the eyes of someone not acknowledging their feet by you looking down at their shoes... and them seeing your eyes not your feet or ten degrees south of your face doesnt mean a soap opera stare down.

 

making someone feel uncomfortable means to me that you arent acknowledging them in the right way with eye contact.....

 

what also in my experiences makes me feel devalued is a guy who flicks his eyes over me and looks away just as i smile at him which takes me a little time to gauge whether i should smile and if i do smile and he fails to see it because he did the once over perusal .....my heart ...feels it..........like i insult his presence by existing and my response to his look isnt needed by him ...that to me is a ...player or a guy...who really doesnt care to try to engage me in conversation or see a smile that takes longer than two seconds to form,.....deb

[SammySammy]

A cheater. A liar. Has multiple girls.

 

Most communication is nonverbal - which includes eye contact.

 

It's possible to be a good nonverbal communicator without being a liar and a cheat. It's possible to be confident and not have multiple girls.