preraph Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 That's what hookers to and it might cost more. Although I have heard of some fetish sites online where people meet up just to cuddle. I just tried googling "Cuddling meetups" and a few came up, so you might look into that. I'm guessing this is some asexuals. Be careful not to pick one too young because I can see some naive young girl stumbling upon that too. Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 Of all the many products and services out there that people use to feel better, I can't say I have experience with it, but I think cuddle therapy sounds pretty legit. I don't know if it would work for you, but I suspect that if I were to find myself without a reliable source of simple physical HUMAN affection, it would probably work wonders for me. I suspect that there's a little bit of that aspie/high functioning ASD that runs in my family, and the one thing we all do is we hug each other when we see each other. I see this with my older son as well: where the ability to communicate effectively is sometimes lacking, and hugs/snuggles go an awful long way toward bridging the gap. There is something powerful about a hug (but it has to be genuine - which I think it definitely can be for a therapist who believes in the value of what they do, with the caveat that you can't be doing it with the intent to get anything sexual out of it because obviously that will creep them out), it implies a mutual safety. Some people have a big, gaping deficit of that in their lives. Gotta distinguish between that and unfulfilled sexual need/desire, unexpended sexual energy, etc. Because you shouldn't bring your sexual problems to a cuddle therapist disguised as something they're trained to help with... and you shouldn't bring your emotional problems to a hooker disguised as something SHE'S trained to help with. And whatever you do, don't drag your friends into it. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 Dogs are the best cuddlers. Just sayin. And they don't "pretend" to like you. They actually like you. I see you require a "fairly attractive" cuddler. This is why I think that's going to have to be a hooker, but you could go to a couple of meetups and see who shows up. I'm having trouble thinking a very attractive person shows up to those unless it's just their fetish. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 I found the theme of this opening thread amusing, it came up on the Australian soap opera Neighbours (I watch this occasionally, lol) a lady offering "cash for company" services, what about massage services, could be some nice ladies, Eastern Europeans and so on working in this area who could actually enjoy making a new friend, mix it up a bit perhaps try some meet up groups focused on more spiritual pursuits like astrology or something, might meet some girls who are more willing to give you a chance, slightly more left field personalities might suit you. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 Massage sounds like a good idea if what you want is touch, but it's only one step away from a hooker, and it's expensive. So does anyone know if those cuddler people keep their clothes on or whether there is any boob touching? Because it seems like it would be very hard to control all that, doesn't it? Maybe all you need is a lap dance? Also expensive, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 It's a bad idea despite what you may think. Some people just won't care, but why would you want to dish out any amount of money for something that just isn't real? I've seen your threads, but your loneliness is something that can be controlled. Sometimes being single is better than being miserable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 movies and tv aren't real for the most part and people shell out big bucks for those Outlaw Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 I agree that it is hard to get a real read on if OP's greatest need is a friend or warmth or sex at this point. The fact she has to be "reasonably attractive" makes me think it's really about sex not so much he's yearning for love. So maybe paid sex is the answer -- and a nice dog if he wants companionship and love and cuddling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 9, 2019 Author Share Posted November 9, 2019 I’ve been thinking about going to a prostitute for the past two years so it’s something that’s been on my mind for a long time. It’s just that I have a lot of anxiety getting on a plane, booking a hotel, going on a trip all by myself because I’ve never been on a trip by myself before. And normally, I’d go to my parents for advice but I can’t really tell them I’m going to Nevada to have sex with a prostitute so I’d have to go on a trip all by myself for the first time with no help and not telling anybody. That’s scary. And I can’t just drive to Nevada either. It’s 20 hours away from where I live and what happens if I get in an accident or my car stops working? If Nevada was 10 hours away, then this wouldn’t be as big of a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 GG7, hookers are everywhere, you don't need to go to Nevada. Just check into a nice hotel near you and hit the internet to find a local lady. It's easy peasy Link to post Share on other sites
lana-banana Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 There are people similar to escorts, who will cuddle with you and offer all the PG-rated affection (clothes on, hands above the waist) you could ask for, for $50-80 an hour. Do not ask anyone you know in "real life". Just don't do it. Your friends and acquaintances are not prostitutes and asking them to take cash for physical contact would be interpreted as gravely insulting. If you are at the point where you are seriously considering paying people for their affection, you need to involve professionals who can do these things safely and professionally. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 9, 2019 Author Share Posted November 9, 2019 GG7, hookers are everywhere, you don't need to go to Nevada. Just check into a nice hotel near you and hit the internet to find a local lady. It's easy peasy I actually considered that too. I’ve gone to several escort websites with ladies either around my area or traveling to my area. But it’s risky since it’s illegal in my country and also I have a lot of anxiety about doing this because what happens if I get robbed or something? I’ve never done something like this before... Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 I have a lot of anxiety getting on a plane, booking a hotel, going on a trip all by myself because I’ve never been on a trip by myself before. At 25, you are old enough that you should be able to do this. How about taking a trip alone somewhere you don't have to fly to, all by yourself, just to build up some self-confidence? Not for sex. If you can't even be adult enough to at least try this (I understand anxiety), I'm not sure how you are adult enough to have a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 9, 2019 Author Share Posted November 9, 2019 At 25, you are old enough that you should be able to do this. How about taking a trip alone somewhere you don't have to fly to, all by yourself, just to build up some self-confidence? Not for sex. If you can't even be adult enough to at least try this (I understand anxiety), I'm not sure how you are adult enough to have a relationship. That sounds like a good idea actually. Maybe i'll start off by going to a nearby city for a day-trip, then make my way towards staying in a hotel by myself in a city say 6 hours away. And then eventually, build myself to get on a plane trip. Iv'e always wanted to go to Nevada because it's the only place in the United States where prostitution is legal. Iv'e got a lot of problems (both physically and emotionally) which prevents me from being able to date normally, I doubt I will ever have a pretty girlfriend, at least not for a while. But obviously, I still have an intense desire for sex and intimacy so I have to make compromises. Maybe sex with a prostitute is what I need, maybe that's the game changer... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 I actually considered that too. I’ve gone to several escort websites with ladies either around my area or traveling to my area. But it’s risky since it’s illegal in my country and also I have a lot of anxiety about doing this because what happens if I get robbed or something? I’ve never done something like this before... that is why you find a reputable escort agency that has been in business for a while. trust me they are out to make money and they will do almost anything to accommodate you but be ready to shell out $300 or $400. and book yourself into a nice hotel. that tells the agency that you are serious and have some cash. the better looking girls tend to go to the nicer hotels. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 And I can’t just drive to Nevada either. It’s 20 hours away from where I live and what happens if I get in an accident or my car stops working? Why can't you drive to Nevada... 20 hours in a car is nothing. I was almost double your age and drove 39 hours cross country (only stopping for gasoline & once for a 2 hour nap at a rest stop) If your car is old, get a travel plan like AAA (pretty cheap). If you are afraid you'll get lost, get a map (road atlas) or a cheap GPS. Unless you are dealing with a horrible snow storm or ice storm, you are not going to have an accident. In all my years of relocating, I only had one incident where I was pulling a u-haul trailer with my truck and it jack-knifed in an ice storm. I got straightened out and continued my journey. Have some courage and stop making excuses. If you want to go to Nevada, check your route for snow/ice, make a plan and go. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 Get a pet and cuddle them. Especially friendly, affectionate cats. They even smell nice 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 Iv'e got a lot of problems (both physically and emotionally) which prevents me from being able to date normally, I doubt I will ever have a pretty girlfriend So look for personality in a girl, and not just looks. You don't want women judging YOU on superficial things, like your height, but it's perfectly ok for you to do it. You're a hypocrite. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 So look for personality in a girl, and not just looks. You don't want women judging YOU on superficial things, like your height, but it's perfectly ok for you to do it. You're a hypocrite. i'm sure many overweight girls would love to cuddle with him Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 movies and tv aren't real for the most part and people shell out big bucks for those Outlaw I know, but in the end he may only wind up regretting it. Myself, I'd rather the feelings be mutual and not paid for sex or cuddling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 9, 2019 Author Share Posted November 9, 2019 So look for personality in a girl, and not just looks. You don't want women judging YOU on superficial things, like your height, but it's perfectly ok for you to do it. You're a hypocrite. There’s this girl in my sports club who’s fairly average. She’s not completely ugly but not the girl you’d immediately notice either. Anyways, one practice she shows up in tight workout pants and she lets her hair down, and I think wow this girl has a nice body. She’s got some nice curves and her backside is big and round, I like it. I imagine what it’s like to see her naked. A girl I didn’t notice previously is now a girl I think is cute. But I have never really talked to her and the season is over but maybe I’ll see her in the spring. I took a break from pursuing anybody in the club because of being so burned out during the summer but maybe now. But I’m short and I never talked to her so i doubt she gives me chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 9, 2019 Author Share Posted November 9, 2019 i'm sure many overweight girls would love to cuddle with him That gives me an idea. What if I date some slightly overweight chick but still has a cute face. Then I convince her to go to the gym with me and we lift weights and run together. And then after a couple months of coming to the gym on a consistent basis, she loses some weight and now she’s got a nice curvy body in addition to having a cute face. It would be like finding a hidden gem. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 That gives me an idea. What if I date some slightly overweight chick but still has a cute face. Then I convince her to go to the gym with me and we lift weights and run together. And then after a couple months of coming to the gym on a consistent basis, she loses some weight and now she’s got a nice curvy body in addition to having a cute face. It would be like finding a hidden gem. Nope.....wont work.... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 That gives me an idea. What if I date some slightly overweight chick but still has a cute face. Then I convince her to go to the gym with me and we lift weights and run together. And then after a couple months of coming to the gym on a consistent basis, she loses some weight and now she’s got a nice curvy body in addition to having a cute face. It would be like finding a hidden gem. Start with a woman you find interesting to talk to and bond over common ground first. Train yourself to refrain from admiring their attractiveness right away. Most women will feel uncomfortable with any man coming on to them (being aroused by them) before they are socially accepted by that woman. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 That gives me an idea. What if I date some slightly overweight chick but still has a cute face. Then I convince her to go to the gym with me and we lift weights and run together. And then after a couple months of coming to the gym on a consistent basis, she loses some weight and now she’s got a nice curvy body in addition to having a cute face. It would be like finding a hidden gem. what will most likely happen is when she loses weight she will have many more dating options and will leave you. you want to keep her fat 6 Link to post Share on other sites
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