SunnySide0418 Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 I found an old boss of my previous boss from my last job I left 2yrs ago. I sent a friend request on FB. He private messaged me asking how I am, where I'm working and then said he'd be in town next week on business (he lives in a different state) and asked if I wanted to meet up for a drink when his plane landed at 730pm. He's married man with 3 young kids. I'm divorced with 2 kids. Not that that matters any but my question is - is this sounding innocent or does it scream inappropriate ? I knew hon from the old job but not well at all. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 All sounds a bit weird. I am assuming you both work in the same industry? Did he talk to you at all about business? Why were you looking up and adding your old boss's boss on Facebook? I could see meeting an old business acquaintance to talk shop, build connections etc - but out of the blue and over drinks (rather then let's say coffee) sounds a bit off kilter. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SunnySide0418 Posted November 8, 2019 Author Share Posted November 8, 2019 All sounds a bit weird. I am assuming you both work in the same industry? Did he talk to you at all about business? Why were you looking up and adding your old boss's boss on Facebook? I could see meeting an old business acquaintance to talk shop, build connections etc - but out of the blue and over drinks (rather then let's say coffee) sounds a bit off kilter. We no longer work in the same industry. He came up as someone I might know. I'm thinking because one of my other previous co-workers recently friended me. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 Not in the same industry? Yeah I would NOT go. There is no good reason for a married man to be meeting a single woman for drinks while out of town on a business trip. He's up to no good. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 There is that FB thing I will never get my head around. You sent him a friend req and then say you really don't know him at all. I probably have 100+ friend req sitting idle in mine. Why people that I really have little to no connection with send them to me I will never get. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 It sounds like he's fishing for an affair, honestly. I would assume his wife doesn't know he's meeting you for drinks? Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 How is it 'beside the point?' You sent a friend request to a person you barely know and is no longer in your industry. You want to know if it is copacetic to meet a married man for drinks...probably not, especially because you need to ask. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 There are a lot of guys that if they have a FB acct and get a friend request from a woman (that isnt a real friend or relative), will see that as an opportunity to get their d wet... And quite frankly, a lot of women that friend request/private message men on FB may actually be looking for dick...whether they realize it at the time or not... Bottom line is the advice is probably the same as for when walking down the street....Dont go there as most guys have no interest in being friends or buddies with you....I know this fact is shocking for a lot of women, but smart women know this and don't bother... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Vanity1 Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 I found an old boss of my previous boss from my last job I left 2yrs ago. I sent a friend request on FB. He private messaged me asking how I am, where I'm working and then said he'd be in town next week on business (he lives in a different state) and asked if I wanted to meet up for a drink when his plane landed at 730pm. He's married man with 3 young kids. I'm divorced with 2 kids. Not that that matters any but my question is - is this sounding innocent or does it scream inappropriate ? I knew hon from the old job but not well at all. He has no business having dinner with another female other than his wife. I think you know that, I think you know something isn’t right in that that’s why you’re asking. If you have to ask, you probably shouldn’t. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted November 8, 2019 Share Posted November 8, 2019 It's extremely inappropriate. Messaging you asking you how you've been is OK, but asking for a meet when he's married is asking for trouble. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NomiMalone Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 I think it was inappropriate/weird to send a FB friend request to a former boss’s boss to begin with, especially when you didn’t know him well at all. Even if your intentions were innocent, it still gave him the impression that you were open to casually hooking up. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted November 18, 2019 Share Posted November 18, 2019 Why did you add him on Facebook? I guess people do use it for networking but I would assume it is mostly for friends and family. He is presumably wondering why you added him and wants to find out. If you are female, he may have been flattered to be added. He might well be thinking you are looking for more than friendship. If you want to meet him, you could, but what did you expect from adding him on Facebook? What reaction were you hoping to get? He could be thinking of just catching up, getting the gossip, etc. or he could be thinking of work prospects. Who knows? If you do not want an affair with this guy, then be wary of meeting up. You are mixing personal life with work life and it can get confusing for both. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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