Dazed and Confused Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 Today, I was talking on the phone with my girlfriend of 2 weeks. She is amazing, we have tons in common, her family is great, my family thinks she is great. She is beautiful, smart, and really fun. I have seen her everyday for the last 2 weeks, except today, because we both had prior commitments, so, when I was talking to her on the phone, I said "I'll see you real soon" she says, "OK, I Love you" I say "Bye" She says "Bye" I hang up and say, "What the @@#$ just happend?" Please, any one who has any advice please help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 She just meant this as an endearment. She was not telling you she is in love with you. So don't get all excited. And if she were to say something like that and mean it as "in love", so casually and so early in the relationship, you should run from her as fast as you can. She sounds like a very nice and friendly person. IF and when she decides to tell you she's in love with you, I promise you it will be very clear to you what she is saying and she won't do so casually on the phone. Meanwhile, just enjoy yourself. You are way too much into this way too soon. You're going to burn it out if you don't cool things a bit, if only in your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
hmmmmm.... Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 it seems kind of shallow to ask the question, but how old are you guys? the ramifications of the word "love" vary greatly between age groups. the younger the person, the less importance the word has, obviously. if you guys are like 17 and the l-bomb has been dropped, i wouldn't worry too much. if you guys are 40 and she said she loved you, either re-evaluate the situation or run like hell. Link to post Share on other sites
Gemma Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 I have said that by accident to freinds, never mind boyfriends. You get all excited and into the conversation and you are not thinking about what you are saying. It can be a conditioned response. For example if you Say "Hi" on the phone, the next thing that comes to your mine is "How are you?" I you are dating a freindly, outgoing person, she probably has close relationships with alot of people and tells them she loves them on a regular basis. It's no biggie. She was probably mortified and would be grateful if you ingnore that it happened. Don't worry about it unless it purposely happens. Link to post Share on other sites
David Gevert Posted June 9, 2001 Share Posted June 9, 2001 Actually, I can sympathize with this! I'm not gay (not even close), but once, I had just switched roommates, and my new roommate was significantly nicer and more considerate than my old ones. He said "good night" after turning out the lights, and I was mortified when I realized that "I love you" ALMOST slipped off my tongue after saying "good night" back... It was simply because, at home, I've always gone through a little ritual of hugging my mom, saying "Good night, I love you." The "I love you" bit very much almost had become a conditional response! I have said that by accident to freinds, never mind boyfriends. You get all excited and into the conversation and you are not thinking about what you are saying. It can be a conditioned response. For example if you Say "Hi" on the phone, the next thing that comes to your mine is "How are you?" I you are dating a freindly, outgoing person, she probably has close relationships with alot of people and tells them she loves them on a regular basis. It's no biggie. She was probably mortified and would be grateful if you ingnore that it happened. Don't worry about it unless it purposely happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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